Would it be rude to send her home after an hour vs. taking to pool?

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Anonymous wrote:I once had a kid come by and ask to play with no parent communication. We said yes and the friend ended up making chocolate chip cookies with us, as that was our plan for the afternoon. I let each kid have 3 warm cookies and milk (the cookies were small). The mom had the audacity to text me later and say she didn't appreciate that I gave her daughter cookies!

LOL.

And yes, I agree that if you send your kid over with no communication, we may end up somewhere besides our house, like going on a walk to have a picnic in the park that's about a 10-minute walk for us. If you're not OK with your kid going to a second location or need them home by a certain time, you'd darn well better communicate and you have no right at all to complain if you don't know where your kid is or they aren't home when you want them to be.

I think this is fine, as long as the means of getting to the second destination is the same (or slower) than the means of travel that the kid used to reach your house. If my kid walked or biked to you unannounced, please don't put her in your car. Feel free to walk to the nearby park though -- she could get there on her own.

How would you be sure that another parent wouldn't take your kid in the car without ever communicating to that effect? If you let your kid roam on their bike and the dad of the house says hey, I'll take the kids with me to McDonald's for lunch you don't really have a leg to stand on if you're mad about that.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had a kid come by and ask to play with no parent communication. We said yes and the friend ended up making chocolate chip cookies with us, as that was our plan for the afternoon. I let each kid have 3 warm cookies and milk (the cookies were small). The mom had the audacity to text me later and say she didn't appreciate that I gave her daughter cookies!

LOL.

And yes, I agree that if you send your kid over with no communication, we may end up somewhere besides our house, like going on a walk to have a picnic in the park that's about a 10-minute walk for us. If you're not OK with your kid going to a second location or need them home by a certain time, you'd darn well better communicate and you have no right at all to complain if you don't know where your kid is or they aren't home when you want them to be.

I think this is fine, as long as the means of getting to the second destination is the same (or slower) than the means of travel that the kid used to reach your house. If my kid walked or biked to you unannounced, please don't put her in your car. Feel free to walk to the nearby park though -- she could get there on her own.

How would you be sure that another parent wouldn't take your kid in the car without ever communicating to that effect? If you let your kid roam on their bike and the dad of the house says hey, I'll take the kids with me to McDonald's for lunch you don't really have a leg to stand on if you're mad about that.

Again, I really think the parents of younger kids responding just need to take a deep breath.

I don't need to communicate with the other parents when my 10 and 13 year old are biking around the neighborhood because I communicate with my kids.
They know when they need to be home and what they are and aren't allowed to do.

If you said you were taking your kids to McDonalds for lunch, they'd know to ask me first.
If you offered to take them to the pool, they'd know to ask me first.
If you and your kids invited them to go to the park a few blocks away, they'd hop on their bike and join you.

As others have said, I am so appreciative we live in a neighborhood where roving packs of tweens on bikes is a normal thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had a kid come by and ask to play with no parent communication. We said yes and the friend ended up making chocolate chip cookies with us, as that was our plan for the afternoon. I let each kid have 3 warm cookies and milk (the cookies were small). The mom had the audacity to text me later and say she didn't appreciate that I gave her daughter cookies!

LOL.

And yes, I agree that if you send your kid over with no communication, we may end up somewhere besides our house, like going on a walk to have a picnic in the park that's about a 10-minute walk for us. If you're not OK with your kid going to a second location or need them home by a certain time, you'd darn well better communicate and you have no right at all to complain if you don't know where your kid is or they aren't home when you want them to be.

I think this is fine, as long as the means of getting to the second destination is the same (or slower) than the means of travel that the kid used to reach your house. If my kid walked or biked to you unannounced, please don't put her in your car. Feel free to walk to the nearby park though -- she could get there on her own.

How would you be sure that another parent wouldn't take your kid in the car without ever communicating to that effect? If you let your kid roam on their bike and the dad of the house says hey, I'll take the kids with me to McDonald's for lunch you don't really have a leg to stand on if you're mad about that.

Again, I really think the parents of younger kids responding just need to take a deep breath.

I don't need to communicate with the other parents when my 10 and 13 year old are biking around the neighborhood because I communicate with my kids.
They know when they need to be home and what they are and aren't allowed to do.

If you said you were taking your kids to McDonalds for lunch, they'd know to ask me first.
If you offered to take them to the pool, they'd know to ask me first.
If you and your kids invited them to go to the park a few blocks away, they'd hop on their bike and join you.

As others have said, I am so appreciative we live in a neighborhood where roving packs of tweens on bikes is a normal thing.

Just sayin' if your kid forgets to communicate with you or something happens that you aren't OK with, you need to accept responsibility that you send your kid around without communicating with other parents. Different parents have different rules and expectations. Shrug. If something happens you don't like, that's on you and you alone.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

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So when I was younger we got on our bikes and rode to our friends houses to ask them to play. My mom didn't call ahead, that's just what kids did. I wouldn't start assigning ill intent or rude manners to the mom. Kids playing together apparently can no longer be as simple and innocent as stopping by while out bike riding to ask to play without it being some dramatic problem.

If you have food, feed the kid; if you can take her to the pool without it being a big deal, then do it, otherwise send her home. There is zero issue with you saying you have scheduled plans and Lara can't play today. Pre cell phones and moms demanding calls from each other, that happened all the time. Don't make this a bigger problem than it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

Why do your kids fight? Mine don't. I guess because we give them some attention and don't expect the oldest to raise the youngest.

Lol! I have 4 boys and if your kids don’t fight they sound abnormal.

I wish my oldest kid would take some responsibility. The picture you paint sounds dreamy. I can’t even leave them home with a sitter even though my oldest is 13. All hell would break loose.

Hope you feel better after getting they off your chest.❤️

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

Why do your kids fight? Mine don't. I guess because we give them some attention and don't expect the oldest to raise the youngest.

Lol! I have 4 boys and if your kids don’t fight they sound abnormal.

I wish my oldest kid would take some responsibility. The picture you paint sounds dreamy. I can’t even leave them home with a sitter even though my oldest is 13. All hell would break loose.

Hope you feel better after getting they off your chest.❤️

I hope your kids get better behaved! Sounds miserable. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

Just so YOU know, my kid would not come to ask yours to play. You seem wound way to tight and and suck the fun out of the room.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

So you're going to kidnap their kid to teach the parents a lesson? Great idea! Or just say that your kids can only play for an hour b/c you have plans or just say sorry you're busy. That's how this works. But I doubt kids like this would make a stop at your house because you don't exactly sound like a go with the flow the more the merrier type so this would never happen to you.

Oh no honey, it's not kidnapping. Your kid came by to see if my kid can play. She sure can, we're going to the pool and we're getting ice cream while we're there--want to come? Or of course you can hang with us--we're going for a long hike that starts at the trail head at the end of our street. If your kid asks to call you first, I'll facilitate that. But otherwise, I am sure you're fine with whatever we'd like to do since you didn't communicate with me. Surely you told your kid they needed to be home by a certain time and they'll communicate to me--oh what's that, they forgot? And now you don't know where your kid is and they were supposed to be home an hour ago and now you're missing a family event? Oh dear oh dear maybe communicate with the parents next time.

Lady, you don't have friends and this would never happen to you. You don't need to keep spinning your wheels imagining these fake scenarios.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

It's not hard to send them out of the house to play outside. And tell your kid to not bug you, if that's what you want to happen. Or, just tell the other kid to go home.

This is all normal stuff. It can be annoying, of course, but normal.

Is this how you were raised?

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

So you're going to kidnap their kid to teach the parents a lesson? Great idea! Or just say that your kids can only play for an hour b/c you have plans or just say sorry you're busy. That's how this works. But I doubt kids like this would make a stop at your house because you don't exactly sound like a go with the flow the more the merrier type so this would never happen to you.

Oh no honey, it's not kidnapping. Your kid came by to see if my kid can play. She sure can, we're going to the pool and we're getting ice cream while we're there--want to come? Or of course you can hang with us--we're going for a long hike that starts at the trail head at the end of our street. If your kid asks to call you first, I'll facilitate that. But otherwise, I am sure you're fine with whatever we'd like to do since you didn't communicate with me. Surely you told your kid they needed to be home by a certain time and they'll communicate to me--oh what's that, they forgot? And now you don't know where your kid is and they were supposed to be home an hour ago and now you're missing a family event? Oh dear oh dear maybe communicate with the parents next time.

Lady, you don't have friends and this would never happen to you. You don't need to keep spinning your wheels imagining these fake scenarios.

You bftchws need to chill TF out dam

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

I find this to be more the norm with families who have a lot of kids themselves and have a SAHP. Good for you! A neighbor is a SAHM and has 5 kids and doesn't really blink when an extra kid comes wandering through and just throws some extra food on the table.

I'm happy with letting a kid in, kicking my kids out, or saying no. I have a hard time feeding them lunch, though. That's just me and my organizational capabilities while I'm still WFH.

lots of our neighbors have two parents WFH. I'm always super careful when my kids are over there because I can totally imagine how hard it is to have kids running around your house while you are trying to get your job done. And you are right, another kid in the mix isn't really difficult. This is why I have the snack/drink fridge because the biggest PITA is kids constantly coming in asking for food. I'm just really happy we have neighborhood kids who WANT to go outside and want to knock on our door (well sometimes knock, sometimes waltz in!). I'm glad they are not all just in their homes glued to a screen all summer. I'd rather have 10 kids running around my house creating chaos than 4 of my kids like zombies in front of the xbox or Nintendo switch.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

So you're going to kidnap their kid to teach the parents a lesson? Great idea! Or just say that your kids can only play for an hour b/c you have plans or just say sorry you're busy. That's how this works. But I doubt kids like this would make a stop at your house because you don't exactly sound like a go with the flow the more the merrier type so this would never happen to you.

Oh no honey, it's not kidnapping. Your kid came by to see if my kid can play. She sure can, we're going to the pool and we're getting ice cream while we're there--want to come? Or of course you can hang with us--we're going for a long hike that starts at the trail head at the end of our street. If your kid asks to call you first, I'll facilitate that. But otherwise, I am sure you're fine with whatever we'd like to do since you didn't communicate with me. Surely you told your kid they needed to be home by a certain time and they'll communicate to me--oh what's that, they forgot? And now you don't know where your kid is and they were supposed to be home an hour ago and now you're missing a family event? Oh dear oh dear maybe communicate with the parents next time.

Lady, you don't have friends and this would never happen to you. You don't need to keep spinning your wheels imagining these fake scenarios.

You bftchws need to chill TF out dam

Or maybe crazy lady should just stop trolling.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

I find this to be more the norm with families who have a lot of kids themselves and have a SAHP. Good for you! A neighbor is a SAHM and has 5 kids and doesn't really blink when an extra kid comes wandering through and just throws some extra food on the table.

I'm happy with letting a kid in, kicking my kids out, or saying no. I have a hard time feeding them lunch, though. That's just me and my organizational capabilities while I'm still WFH.

lots of our neighbors have two parents WFH. I'm always super careful when my kids are over there because I can totally imagine how hard it is to have kids running around your house while you are trying to get your job done. And you are right, another kid in the mix isn't really difficult. This is why I have the snack/drink fridge because the biggest PITA is kids constantly coming in asking for food. I'm just really happy we have neighborhood kids who WANT to go outside and want to knock on our door (well sometimes knock, sometimes waltz in!). I'm glad they are not all just in their homes glued to a screen all summer. I'd rather have 10 kids running around my house creating chaos than 4 of my kids like zombies in front of the xbox or Nintendo switch.

Um, most parents who work full-time (even WFH) have their kids in daycare or at camp, where they are properly supervised and are interacting with friends all day. My kids are both going to the Baltimore Aquarium tomorrow on a daycare field trip. I like how you paint it like kids of working parents are staring at screens all day. No, they are playing with other kids, outside a lot, going on field trips, and DH and/or I usually pick them up early in the summer to take them to the pool, several times a week!