Morbidly obese SIL

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to some of the smug people on here, but my kids also eat mostly processed food, lots of pizza, love nuggets, pasta, avoid veggies. And they’re teens and they’re rail thin. This is not as simple as saying that “junk” = obese. This isn’t a black and white issue, much less a moral one.

Ha ha, I am chuckling at this post. Many teens can gorge themselves on junk food and not gain weight. They are growing. SIL is a middle aged woman. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

Costco and grocery stores have rotisserie chickens and prepared salads. Healthy meals can be delivered through food apps like DoorDash and UberEats. There are meal delivery services. He can buy healthy snacks to keep at home. There are places he can stop to get fresh juices and smoothies. Tell him to go to Whole Foods to pick up meals. He needs to stop depending on his DW to initiate things, and he needs to initiate the change.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a thought that should end every single fat shaming threat started by “people just wondering.” Only ever worry about your own weight. Like there is never, ever, ever a time where you should worry about someone else’s body. EVER!!!!!!!!!

Really? So if they're suicidal or drunk at the dinner table, that's their own business? Or is being morbidly obese taboo because it's about FAT and that just pushes your buttons?

Those aren’t remotely the same. Drunk at the dinner table, really? You don’t have to be in the company of those people but all of this faux concern is exhausting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to some of the smug people on here, but my kids also eat mostly processed food, lots of pizza, love nuggets, pasta, avoid veggies. And they’re teens and they’re rail thin. This is not as simple as saying that “junk” = obese. This isn’t a black and white issue, much less a moral one.

Ha ha, I am chuckling at this post. Many teens can gorge themselves on junk food and not gain weight. They are growing. SIL is a middle aged woman. Big difference.

+1. OP said SIL was slender in her 20s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to some of the smug people on here, but my kids also eat mostly processed food, lots of pizza, love nuggets, pasta, avoid veggies. And they’re teens and they’re rail thin. This is not as simple as saying that “junk” = obese. This isn’t a black and white issue, much less a moral one.

Ha ha, I am chuckling at this post. Many teens can gorge themselves on junk food and not gain weight. They are growing. SIL is a middle aged woman. Big difference.

Agree. Growing teens are generally rail thin, even if they eat bacon fat. The problem is when they stop growing and yet continue to eat processed foods. I've watched rail thin teens become plump twenty-somethings with cheekbones and jawlines lost in a swelling of neck and face fat. My own ex-H was like that too, and he believed he could keep eating chips and junk food without ever exercising and without gaining weight because he was a skinny teen. In his 50s now he's been battling his growing gut for nearly 2 decades and on the cusp of diabetes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to some of the smug people on here, but my kids also eat mostly processed food, lots of pizza, love nuggets, pasta, avoid veggies. And they’re teens and they’re rail thin. This is not as simple as saying that “junk” = obese. This isn’t a black and white issue, much less a moral one.

Ha ha, I am chuckling at this post. Many teens can gorge themselves on junk food and not gain weight. They are growing. SIL is a middle aged woman. Big difference.

Agree. Growing teens are generally rail thin, even if they eat bacon fat. The problem is when they stop growing and yet continue to eat processed foods. I've watched rail thin teens become plump twenty-somethings with cheekbones and jawlines lost in a swelling of neck and face fat. My own ex-H was like that too, and he believed he could keep eating chips and junk food without ever exercising and without gaining weight because he was a skinny teen. In his 50s now he's been battling his growing gut for nearly 2 decades and on the cusp of diabetes.

Agree. And the issue here is not eating pizza, nuggets or pasta. It’s how this food is made. If it’s processed there are likely lots of additives and chemicals in them. That stuff rots you from the inside out. It leads to gut issues that lead to all types of other issues.

Pizza, nuggets, pasta that is actually made out of real, non gmo FOOD, not chemicals is great, but the FDA allows all types of straight up chemical crap in what we call “food” in America.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Your SIL is obviously a grommet sloth and won't change."

"I'm team husband 100%. His wife sucks. She is a fat blob who eats pizza and junk every single day and refuses to cook for her family or figure out any solution other than living like a frat boy. Actually, frat boys eat better."

Hey PPs who were attacking OP -- don't you wish you only had OP to contend with now? You literally willed this pack of wild dogs over to the thread with your hysteria.

SIL is the wild D-O-G, not me.

Me = work
SIL = no job

Me = breadwinner
SIL = doesn't contribute

Me = cook homemade meals for my family 6 days a week
SIL = doesn't cook anything

Me = reasonable weight
SIL = morbidly obese - because she refuses to cook!!

And yet, I don’t even know you and yet I know for all of this, your SIL is the far better person.

OP here. This isn't me. Someone hijacked and is masquerading as me to give me more hate. So upsetting.

OP speaks truth. It is I who said the SIL is horrible. And she is.

She has children but won't cook them a meal, just feeds them frozen pizza and junk food? She IS horrible. She doesn't even work. How can she not find the time to care for her children at least, let alone her husband with health issues? This isn't all about her. She isn't a Bachelorette.

Wow, you are a genuinely horrible person. I feel sorry for OP. You made her look absolutely terrible. Your poor kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to some of the smug people on here, but my kids also eat mostly processed food, lots of pizza, love nuggets, pasta, avoid veggies. And they’re teens and they’re rail thin. This is not as simple as saying that “junk” = obese. This isn’t a black and white issue, much less a moral one.

DCUMs incredibly ignorant and scientifically illiterate fat shamers don’t actually care about facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Her DH asked us to sit down with her. But we are reluctant to. Don't know why I'm getting all this hate here. It is very sad to see her dealing with diabetes hypertension etc now.

If he wants to “sit down with her,” let him, but stay out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, a lot of overweight people on here flaming you. shift through to get the morsels of good feedback, ignore the rest.

Why do you jump to the idea that only overweight people are flaming the OP? I’m flaming her, and I’m not overweight in the least. I’m flaming her because he lacks social skills, empathy, and is a judgmental human.

Same.

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Anonymous wrote:People in a family shouldn't "MYOB". It is not judgemental to care about someone clearly ruining their health and their future. There has to be a way to help obese SIL without it being "meddling." This is family. SIL is using food the way some people use drugs or alcohol. She needs help.

I don't know what to tell you, OP. There are a lot of weird psychological issues that go into being obese. Ask a counselor for help.

Good for your for caring about your SIL. Too many emotionally sterile people on this board who do not overlap with anyone, not even their own family members. Really weird.

Thks. This is OP. Honestly I'm surprised at the amount of hate I have received here. They are accusing me of being jealous of her, people are calling me a troll, and meddling and go to hell etcm we legit love her and have always been concerned for years but never expressed it BC it's nnally all catching up and this post I did was facilitated by the fact that my BIL asked us to have an intervention help. BC we are close. But we have not and don't feel comfortable doing so but we're just questioning if we should. I really do love my SIL.

It's no use, OP. DCUM is over-run by people who are triggered any time they sense you're judging their wobble. They have no problem judging skinny people, but the double standard doesn't faze them.

Do whatever you need to do, with all the compassion you can muster.

Yep, nothing like morally superior passive aggression about obesity to show your own virtue right?

I’m team SIL, and I have no wobble, but thanks for providing how awful human beings really are to people who are overweight.

How is it awful to try to help her? She may thank OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could buy them a six-month subscription to Blue Apron or similar?

This is a good idea. Make it about the DH trying to get healthy. Make the subscription something as easy as possible to eat so SIL will start eating it. DH should refuse to get her junk food on the way home.

OP here. I like this idea. But it only works if all are on board. Including her.

She doesn't have to be on board. If that's the only food available, she will eat it.

She can’t drive? She doesn’t have access to a bank account?

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s a thought: go to hell, and look for a clue on your way.

What is wrong with people on this board?

Clearly, they are sensitive about their weight.

This.

Nope. You can repeat this smugly all you like, but it still won’t be true.

-totally disgusted by OP’s posts and a normal weight cyclist and runner

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s a thought: go to hell, and look for a clue on your way.

What is wrong with people on this board?

Clearly, they are sensitive about their weight.

This.

Nope. You can repeat this smugly all you like, but it still won’t be true.

-totally disgusted by OP’s posts and a normal weight cyclist and runner

+1

Yes, I am a fit person who despises DCUMs nasty and stupid fat shamers. They are such a terrible combination of idiotic and cruel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to some of the smug people on here, but my kids also eat mostly processed food, lots of pizza, love nuggets, pasta, avoid veggies. And they’re teens and they’re rail thin. This is not as simple as saying that “junk” = obese. This isn’t a black and white issue, much less a moral one.

Ha ha, I am chuckling at this post. Many teens can gorge themselves on junk food and not gain weight. They are growing. SIL is a middle aged woman. Big difference.

Agree. Growing teens are generally rail thin, even if they eat bacon fat. The problem is when they stop growing and yet continue to eat processed foods. I've watched rail thin teens become plump twenty-somethings with cheekbones and jawlines lost in a swelling of neck and face fat. My own ex-H was like that too, and he believed he could keep eating chips and junk food without ever exercising and without gaining weight because he was a skinny teen. In his 50s now he's been battling his growing gut for nearly 2 decades and on the cusp of diabetes.

Agree. And the issue here is not eating pizza, nuggets or pasta. It’s how this food is made. If it’s processed there are likely lots of additives and chemicals in them. That stuff rots you from the inside out. It leads to gut issues that lead to all types of other issues.

Pizza, nuggets, pasta that is actually made out of real, non gmo FOOD, not chemicals is great, but the FDA allows all types of straight up chemical crap in what we call “food” in America.

“Gut issues” is “alternative health” woo and the fact that you quoted “non-GMO” means you know nothing. Oops.