What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Man, I feel sorry for that lady’s kids and especially any future DIL. They will have a rough go of it.

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We live in DC. Our neighbors, with kids the same age as ours, moved to Montgomery County when the kids were very young (before starting school), years ago. They stopped by recently and talked about how they missed the city but really had to move out because of the schools.

Guess our kids are screwed!

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Anonymous wrote:We live in DC. Our neighbors, with kids the same age as ours, moved to Montgomery County when the kids were very young (before starting school), years ago. They stopped by recently and talked about how they missed the city but really had to move out because of the schools.

Guess our kids are screwed!

People in DC are so, so bad about this. Not just with parenting, but in general. People here are super status conscious and they assume everyone is climbing up the same ladder they envision themselves to be on. It doesn't occur to them to be just a little thoughtful about this stuff. They think everyone else is also thinking "wow, this place is a dump, I can't wait until I can level up to a better job/neighborhood/school district/etc." Just tone deaf.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL is mentally sick but I didn't know at that time. After I had DS1, she came over to see him and told me he has hydranencephaly and will die soon. She was a nurse so I believed her. I was a hormonal mess too and I remember calling the pediatrician hysterically.

Please start a thread and tell us more stories about her.

She's bipolar i.e. "quirky" in her words and unmedicated. My FIL stayed until my H, the youngest, finished college and then ran for the hills. It's a sad situation and heartbreaking for my H. But yes, I have stories, from trying to kidnap our DC1, to suicides attempts, to burning FIL's 2nd wife's clothes.

I’m sorry. We have 2 family members on my H side that are similar. It’s exhausting.

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In elementary school, I came in from work to see one of the performances that kids do for some holiday. One of the SAHMs saw me and looked me up and down in my suit and asked if I had to go back to work after the show. So I said that yes I have afternoon court appearances so I would be heading out after the post show "reception." She responded, "Well, it's so nice that she got to see you for an hour today. I am sure that really means a lot!" It really hurt my feelings back then. Now I would laugh and say oh she would tell you she sees far too much of me.

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Anonymous wrote:In elementary school, I came in from work to see one of the performances that kids do for some holiday. One of the SAHMs saw me and looked me up and down in my suit and asked if I had to go back to work after the show. So I said that yes I have afternoon court appearances so I would be heading out after the post show "reception." She responded, "Well, it's so nice that she got to see you for an hour today. I am sure that really means a lot!" It really hurt my feelings back then. Now I would laugh and say oh she would tell you she sees far too much of me.

Why are people like this? The sniping and meanness. I truly don't get it. I can't imagine talking this way to another mom. If I met a mom at a school even who told me she had court later that day, I'd be like "oh cool, what kind of law do you practice?" And if I met a SAHM who'd spent the whole day at the school I'd be like "wow, that's so great that you help out when you can, do you have older kids at the school too?" Or something. It just would not occur to me to make a snide comment or try to compare myself to them because I don't think that way at all.

I hope the people in this thread don't take this stuff seriously. It's clearly born of insecurity and resentment.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

That is a horrible thing to say to someone. I mean, I'm not against fighting fire with fire but this is just unnecessarily cruel.

People who make mean comments to others shouldn’t be surprised if they get it back.

yeah, people like that count on everyone else being polite. They're just "calling it like it is," but anyone who calls them on it is awful. The actual insults that the PP "hurled" was that the woman was cocky. Which is 100 percent accurate.

+1. Think of all the parents that were spared her mean remarks for the rest of her pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in DC. Our neighbors, with kids the same age as ours, moved to Montgomery County when the kids were very young (before starting school), years ago. They stopped by recently and talked about how they missed the city but really had to move out because of the schools.

Guess our kids are screwed!

We had a former neighbor say something similar. "We'd like to stay in this neighborhood but we need schools."

Uh, you see that big building over there? A school. That I intend to (and did) send my children to.

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"You would only send your child to in-person school right now if you want to kill them."

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Anonymous wrote:I tried to help a white mother at the checkout. Her baby was crying in her arms and she was trying to work the self check out (when they first came out), and she couldn’t figure out where to put her money in. I was behind in her in the check out with my newborn and pointed to where it goes. She turned quickly and said, “black b!itch.” Till this day, I am scared to help another white person.

She was a nasty person. Many of us would have appreciated your kindness.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Birthing was a defining moment for me. It was the moment that DH started teasing me about pooping on the table and claiming Mr Handy was his first born. It was also the one and only time in my life I vomited on anyone (kind nurse). There is nothing beautiful about birth.

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Anonymous wrote:"What do you do all day?"

At a fancy dinner party at my ILs when MIL stated that I stayed home with my 2 and 4 year olds and had household help. One of the guests asked this, who I had just met.

I'm confused. Your MIL told this to dinner guests and then one of them asked what? Your MIL is a jerk but what did the other guest ask you and how is this offensive? Some of you are suffer from super sensitivity over nothing!

I see you spied PP’s big itch signal, hopped onto your broom and came here for the only social interaction you get. Good job!

Well, I try and it must also be your only social interaction. I just got a new jet-propelled broom. It has a plush seat cushion and a rain/sun cover. You might like one as well. We witches need to stick together, don't we? You are so adorable.. Makes my wicked heart smile just thinking about all your misery. Ta ta, Medusa.

DP. Medusa isn’t a witch but you overdo you.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Man, I feel sorry for that lady’s kids and especially any future DIL. They will have a rough go of it.

+1. Why are you friends with this toxic person?

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.