What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

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Anonymous wrote:I was at the park with my child. Another mother asked me if I breastfed him and when I said no she told me that if I had I wouldn’t need that, pointing at his oxygen tank.

I could laugh a little inside, because I adopted my kid well past breastfeeding age, and my kid actually was breastfed, just not by me, but if that had happened to another mom, I imagine it could have been devastating.

Lactivists are genuinely bad humans.

+1000

This one is. I never would say that and I breastfed my kids. It isn't any of my business! Let's not lump all breastfeeding moms together. I've been shamed by non breast feeders but, I don't go around saying that they are "bad' Humans.

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Anonymous wrote:1. How much do you charge for nannying since I can see you treat your charge like your own child (it was MY child, our skin color just doesn't match).

2. "ha ha ha, if she doesn't behave I guess you can always send her back". (in front of my adopted child)

I was told this too and yet we are both white.

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My “boss babe” MLM slinging neighbor called me a “part-time mom” because I work out of the home.

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My kids are adopted. All of these things - and more - were said in front of them.

“At least you can send them back”

“They’re not real siblings, are they!”

“How could anyone abandon such a cute baby”

“Do you have any children of your own”

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Anonymous wrote:After our nanny left, a mother who knew she and my daughter well joked that nanny must have taken my DD’s comb and soap with her.

I’m sorry, this made me laugh. We didn’t have a nanny, but the house fairy must have taken our comb and soap numerous times.

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As we were sitting and holding our first baby who had just died hours before, my MIL told me she predicted this would happen and proceeded to tell me a long version of a story of how she had a dream shortly after we announced it was going to be a girl, about not just one pink baby coffin, but many of them.

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Anonymous wrote:As we were sitting and holding our first baby who had just died hours before, my MIL told me she predicted this would happen and proceeded to tell me a long version of a story of how she had a dream shortly after we announced it was going to be a girl, about not just one pink baby coffin, but many of them.

Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

I too was a perfect mother before I had any kids.

😂😂😂

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I had recently moved to a new city and was invited to a new friend's house for a playdate. I had my 6 month old along and he had a pacifier in his mouth. The moms in the group all started talking about how they only give their babies a pacifier in their crib. I responded with a sarcastic remark about how I obviously followed the same rule while looking at my pacified baby...they were not amused.

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My SIL, whom we just helped escape Kiev with my brother and niece, comments how fat women can breastfeed more successfully after learning how I breastfed all my children for an extended period (and I have quite a few children).

She also asked if my son had a cold because I let him outside barefoot for like 10 seconds.

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From a colleague, on the news that we would be having our third child by gestational surrogate: "Congratulations!" [Then proceeds to tell me about how messed up her stepkids are, who were born by surrogate.] Then: "You just never know how these hothouse babies will turn out"

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

. Hahaha, pee when I laugh

I have had 5 c-sections. I’ve been told the peeing when laughing thing can also be hormonal.

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When my kids were small there was another Mom at preschool who would say terrible things about my appearance. Two stand outs: “What are you going to do about your hair? Ask your doctor to check your thyroid—maybe that’s why it’s falling out.” “Oh my gosh, I’ve never seen worse rosacea. You should go see a dermatologist!”

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Anonymous wrote:“We had an amnio because we didn’t want to bring a child into the world who couldn’t take care of itself.”

We had an amnio too. Our children were both 3 at the time.

I am missing what's wrong with this. I am sorry.

The post prior to this one was about downs, maybe it’s from the same poster?

Some of these, though, I really don’t understand why people considered them so offensive, tbh.
Sometimes I really think people hear so much more than is being said. I’ve been both a SAHM and a WOHM; I don’t get why it’s offensive for someone doing something other than you to say why. If I’m a WOHM and a SAHM says she stays home because she couldn’t bear to leave her kids, or they need her so much, or the time goes by so fast — ok. That’s how you feel, but that isn’t how I feel. If I’m a SAHM and a WOHM is talking about how important it is to work for pay so you can provide your kids with more financial benefits, so your kids can socialize and be with a caregiver educated in ECE, or see you set an example, again, ok; that’s great for you. I don’t have to interpret it as a criticism of me.

Well said! Thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:“We had an amnio because we didn’t want to bring a child into the world who couldn’t take care of itself.”

We had an amnio too. Our children were both 3 at the time.

Can you elaborate as to why you found this offensive? Does your child have an issue that could’ve been (was?) found with an amnio?

NP here. Why is this anyone's business? I am a mom to my beautiful son who happens to have Down syndrome. What is wrong with people today? I would have said something ridiculous like "I am so sorry you have such an unattractive child. Was she ugly as a baby too? She will have a difficult time in life."