What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

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Anonymous wrote:IDK but it was definitely on here.

+1 lol

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Anonymous wrote:Will you be room mother?

lol will you be my friemd?

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

. Hahaha, pee when I laugh

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Well, we all have our own way of doing things…..

Which really wasn’t the worst thing, or untrue. But it was presented in a very pointed unhelpful way at a very difficult exhausting moment. They later said they should have helped instead of judging - unprompted by me so it was definitely meant in the tone I heard it. Family member. I had really bad ppda at the time and a high needs child.

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Anonymous wrote:"Why isn't your child dressed more warmly?" Yes, he was underdressed for the chilly day. Yes, I told him to dress more warmly. No, he wasn't cold, because I asked him repeatedly.

And I'm a dad, so it's a mix of condescending criticism like that, because obviously dads are idiots, and the over-the-top compliments for basically just being there, because, Wow! A dad taking care of his kids!

Lol do not go around Korean grandmas they will shame you out on the streets for not bundling your baby. I agree though, even the teacher asked my daughter where her jacket was when she wore a light sweater on a certain day. The criticism comes from all sides.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

Fellow c section mom here and I always think this smugly to myself whenever someone says something snarky about c section. I never even dilated all the way or did any pushing. No peeing when I sneeze and I had to throw away the menstrual cup sized for women who have given birth because it was too big. But go off about your vaginal birth!

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

Fellow c section mom here and I always think this smugly to myself whenever someone says something snarky about c section. I never even dilated all the way or did any pushing. No peeing when I sneeze and I had to throw away the menstrual cup sized for women who have given birth because it was too big. But go off about your vaginal birth!

Fwiw you can have pelvic floor damage from any pregnancy no matter the birth method.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

Fellow c section mom here and I always think this smugly to myself whenever someone says something snarky about c section. I never even dilated all the way or did any pushing. No peeing when I sneeze and I had to throw away the menstrual cup sized for women who have given birth because it was too big. But go off about your vaginal birth!

Fwiw you can have pelvic floor damage from any pregnancy no matter the birth method.

Oops. Meant to say that doesn’t make anyone saying something to you about a surgical birth ok.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

Fellow c section mom here and I always think this smugly to myself whenever someone says something snarky about c section. I never even dilated all the way or did any pushing. No peeing when I sneeze and I had to throw away the menstrual cup sized for women who have given birth because it was too big. But go off about your vaginal birth!

NP. I had three c-sections. First one wasn’t planned and I never dilated or got to push either. I don’t think about it often but when I do I still feel like I missed out. Agree it’s rude for others to comment though.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

Fellow c section mom here and I always think this smugly to myself whenever someone says something snarky about c section. I never even dilated all the way or did any pushing. No peeing when I sneeze and I had to throw away the menstrual cup sized for women who have given birth because it was too big. But go off about your vaginal birth!

NP. I had three c-sections. First one wasn’t planned and I never dilated or got to push either. I don’t think about it often but when I do I still feel like I missed out. Agree it’s rude for others to comment though.

It’s so interesting to me how different peoples experiences are. I don’t admit this except anonymously but I’m actually relieved I didn’t have to push a baby out. Like I was all set to do it and ended up with an emergency c section which was a terrifying experience but I am a small woman and had a 10 pound baby. I have read about terrible birth injuries here so I just feel relieved that my baby was fine and I didn’t die and I wasn’t horribly maimed.

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Anonymous wrote:A wealthy SAHM friend once said to me "Could you take the summer off one year? I would just love you to experience that with your kids. You know- just be a regular mom." We are in no financial position to do that and it made me feel terrible.

Same friend also said "It makes me so sad for you that you had to have 2 c-sections. Birth was such a defining experience for me. I hate that you were robbed of that. I can't imagine."

Lol what a b. I feel bad for anyone who considers giving birth to be a defining life moment. The birthing process is such a tiny part of motherhood.

to the C-section PP, I'm sure you didn't mind the lack of pelvic floor damage!!! Your friend is such a jerk. I had a vaginal delivery and came out mostly unscathed but if I could do it again, I'd do scheduled C.

Np but this has always been my go to when people are sad about my c-sections “oh well, I am still nice and tight down below, no stretching or painful tears, and I don’t laugh when I pee!”

Fellow c section mom here and I always think this smugly to myself whenever someone says something snarky about c section. I never even dilated all the way or did any pushing. No peeing when I sneeze and I had to throw away the menstrual cup sized for women who have given birth because it was too big. But go off about your vaginal birth!

NP. I had three c-sections. First one wasn’t planned and I never dilated or got to push either. I don’t think about it often but when I do I still feel like I missed out. Agree it’s rude for others to comment though.

It’s so interesting to me how different peoples experiences are. I don’t admit this except anonymously but I’m actually relieved I didn’t have to push a baby out. Like I was all set to do it and ended up with an emergency c section which was a terrifying experience but I am a small woman and had a 10 pound baby. I have read about terrible birth injuries here so I just feel relieved that my baby was fine and I didn’t die and I wasn’t horribly maimed.

I pushed for THREE HOURS with my first. About 3/4 of the way through, I actually closed my legs and told the doctor “you’re gonna have to cut this baby out!” She said no, we’re so close, keep going. It was effing AWFUL. Nothing mystical, beautiful, or defining about it. When the baby finally came out I was so glad they had to whisk her to the NICU (she wasn’t breathing right, ended up fine) because I literally didn’t care that she was here, I was exhausted and in pain and just wanted to sleep. A c section would have been soooo much better for me.

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I pushed for THREE HOURS with my first. About 3/4 of the way through, I actually closed my legs and told the doctor “you’re gonna have to cut this baby out!” She said no, we’re so close, keep going. It was effing AWFUL. Nothing mystical, beautiful, or defining about it. When the baby finally came out I was so glad they had to whisk her to the NICU (she wasn’t breathing right, ended up fine) because I literally didn’t care that she was here, I was exhausted and in pain and just wanted to sleep. A c section would have been soooo much better for me.

I pushed for three and a half hours and then had a c-section

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

You are a terrible person. Try to get some control over your children and strangers won’t feel the need to comment.

Bet that woman learned a lesson that day.

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She “learned” that she encountered an insecure, unstable witch on public transit. The end.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was having a major meltdown on the metro after work one day, and a pregnant woman looked at me and said, “my child will never behave like that.”

It had been a bad day, after a bad week, and I was exhausted.

The exact same thing happened to me. At that point I’ve already decided to drop my filters with perfect strangers. I told her she may yet have a stillborn so let’s not get cocky. She almost sat down. I told her it would teach her to stop saying stupid shit to complete strangers and exited.

That’s hilarious. I appreciate you. People on metro are often intolerant dicks. Even the pregnant ladies. I hope she didn’t swallow too many flies and learned her lesson (though I doubt it).

So you are an actual a hole then. Not only do you let your kid bother other riders on a train but then you hurl deeply offensive insults at the strangers that you were already bothering. What a jerk.

I don’t have filters with strangers either so if the kid is being an out of control monster then I will say so. Don’t like it? Keep your own kids to themselves then.

If my kid is kicking you or screaming in your ear, I'm happy to restrain and discipline him. But if you're letting your not-yet-FTM arrogance run with "my child would NEVER!" bullshit, then I'm happy to smack that down.

Oooh, you’re so cool and tough, Mama Bear! We’re all so very, very impressed.