Who are these mothers dating with a newborn?

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Anonymous wrote:They do it the same way men with newborns date. Not that difficult.

I had men pursue me while I was pregnant, and I was ready to have sex again within a couple days of having a baby. Waited a couple weeks before I gave in. Helped a TON with the PPD.

Sex or being pursued helped?

Sex. I’m married so didn’t care about being pursued. But there were definitely men who were interested. Had I been single and gone 9 months without sex, yea, I’d be itching to get back to it.

Sex with your husband with a newborn is different than a random dude.

How so?

I don’t really see the difference between dating and having sex when you have a newborn vs having an older child. And no one would bat an eye if it were a man dating with a newborn.

Because newborns require a lot of work and time. A LOT of work and time. It's hard with two parents in the home. So time that she is spending dating and finding guys on tinder is time she's away from her baby.

It's ok to be a feminist and still this this lady has screwed up priorities. How would you feel about a man doing this?

Most men work 40+ hrs per week when they have newborns. Where are their priorities?

...to their newborns when they're not working? That's the entire point? Newborns require all hands on deck.

Why are you assuming these fathers aren’t involved?

And if you are assuming they aren’t involved, why are you criticizing the mom rather than the dad who is the one at fault?

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Anonymous wrote:They do it the same way men with newborns date. Not that difficult.

I had men pursue me while I was pregnant, and I was ready to have sex again within a couple days of having a baby. Waited a couple weeks before I gave in. Helped a TON with the PPD.

Sex or being pursued helped?

Sex. I’m married so didn’t care about being pursued. But there were definitely men who were interested. Had I been single and gone 9 months without sex, yea, I’d be itching to get back to it.

Sex with your husband with a newborn is different than a random dude.

How so?

I don’t really see the difference between dating and having sex when you have a newborn vs having an older child. And no one would bat an eye if it were a man dating with a newborn.

Because newborns require a lot of work and time. A LOT of work and time. It's hard with two parents in the home. So time that she is spending dating and finding guys on tinder is time she's away from her baby.

It's ok to be a feminist and still this this lady has screwed up priorities. How would you feel about a man doing this?

Most men work 40+ hrs per week when they have newborns. Where are their priorities?

...to their newborns when they're not working? That's the entire point? Newborns require all hands on deck.

Why are you assuming these fathers aren’t involved?

And if you are assuming they aren’t involved, why are you criticizing the mom rather than the dad who is the one at fault?

Because she said the first father wasn't involved and had never met the kid. So she was solo parenting. And I'm criticizing her because she's who this thread is about. If you want to start a thread about deadbeat dads I'll criticize them there!

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Anonymous wrote:And this is exactly why I’m glad the child tax credit expansion did not pass. WTF would I want my tax dollars to pay a woman who had three kids in a single year $900 a month to do nothing for 18 years?

Incel much? You have never raised kids have you. By raise I mean obtain clothing, diapers and formula for baby in the last 10 years cause you really think $900 a month will allow some one to “do nothing” around 3 kids under 5?

Troll.

A) She’s already doing nothing. She has no job without the CTC regardless.

B) She lives in a crappy rental in a trash neighborhood.

Those are her personal choices and I’m happy to let her continue to make bad decisions with my tax support involved.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so happy that I’m 43, own my home, my child is thriving and I give ZERO f$$ks about some incel in his mom’s basement thinking I shouldn’t have a sex drive. If I want to get it on by myself, I do. If I want to have a casual relationship just for sex, I do. Men who can’t get a woman to sleep with them calling a woman (or me) a whole has zero effect on me.

I'm a woman and I think the woman made poor choices that will negatively affect her children. Feminism isn't agreeing with all women's choices at all times. I DGAF if she wants to sleep around, who cares, but don't bring more children into the situation. She's an idiot for not using birth control.

PP you’re responding to and I completely agree that she should have used birth control. However, calling her a whore is ridiculous. She is no more a whore than the men who slept with her. How about we condemn them equally. I hope they are paying a shit ton of child support since they aren’t raising the children they made.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so happy that I’m 43, own my home, my child is thriving and I give ZERO f$$ks about some incel in his mom’s basement thinking I shouldn’t have a sex drive. If I want to get it on by myself, I do. If I want to have a casual relationship just for sex, I do. Men who can’t get a woman to sleep with them calling a woman (or me) a whole has zero effect on me.

I'm a woman and I think the woman made poor choices that will negatively affect her children. Feminism isn't agreeing with all women's choices at all times. I DGAF if she wants to sleep around, who cares, but don't bring more children into the situation. She's an idiot for not using birth control.

PP you’re responding to and I completely agree that she should have used birth control. However, calling her a whore is ridiculous. She is no more a whore than the men who slept with her. How about we condemn them equally. I hope they are paying a shit ton of child support since they aren’t raising the children they made.

Okay, that’s fair. The men are also dumb, reckless, promiscuous, and terrible at decision making. The woman is worse off for having two whores as the fathers of her 3 children.

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How about mind your own business?
Go stare at your frumpy grey husband's fungus toenails while he reads the newspaper and try to remember why you ever married this fugster while you sip on your overpriced Starbucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so happy that I’m 43, own my home, my child is thriving and I give ZERO f$$ks about some incel in his mom’s basement thinking I shouldn’t have a sex drive. If I want to get it on by myself, I do. If I want to have a casual relationship just for sex, I do. Men who can’t get a woman to sleep with them calling a woman (or me) a whole has zero effect on me.

so your kid, who comes from a broken home, is thriving? we all see what we want to see when we wear our rose colored glasses.

and it’s whore, not whole. she is a whore.

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Anonymous wrote:The woman has zero stability or commitment in her life. She will likely live single, in poverty. Many men are not signing up to be stepfathers anymore, it's a bum deal. I feel sorry for those kids.

This is a lie. A high number of American children have a stepparent. This is even more true among white Americans.

The only reason the majority of white children live in two parents homes is because almost half have a stepparent.

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I honestly can't imagine having the energy to date 7 weeks postpartum (much less the energy/desire to have sex with my postpartum body). However, I was much older than her when I had my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly can't imagine having the energy to date 7 weeks postpartum (much less the energy/desire to have sex with my postpartum body). However, I was much older than her when I had my kids.

Agree. I can safely say the last thing I'd be thinking if I was seven weeks postpartum with a child that dad doesn't want is "I should go catch a d. Yes, yes, I should have unprotected sex. That is a great idea for a woman in my situation."

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Anonymous wrote:They do it the same way men with newborns date. Not that difficult.

I had men pursue me while I was pregnant, and I was ready to have sex again within a couple days of having a baby. Waited a couple weeks before I gave in. Helped a TON with the PPD.

Sex or being pursued helped?

Sex. I’m married so didn’t care about being pursued. But there were definitely men who were interested. Had I been single and gone 9 months without sex, yea, I’d be itching to get back to it.

Sex with your husband with a newborn is different than a random dude.

Nope, it's still PIV. Welcome to year 2022.

It's different. Sorry you think all there is to sex is getting it in.

Nope, it's absolutely not - poster here married for decades. Having a letter-sized certificate someplace in a file cabinet doesn't make you more saintly when you spread your legs, you know. I hate this sanctimonious, puritan view about sex being so special when it's happening in a legal marriage.

You against millennia of human history I guess. So edgy!

Do some research about marriage - it has always been nothing more than a contract agreement to combine and distribute wealth. In America, the obsession with marriage as a superior moral choice is just a sham to cover and continue the double dipping of the non-working spouse in the social security funds. It's nothing more than greed.

And bc women couldn’t own their own property. There may be some relationships that are deeper or special or whatever between two people. But as a previous poster said it’s not the piece of paper that makes it so.