Wife wears sweatpants every day.

[Anonymous]

When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

America has become a nation of slobs. It’s a freak show out there. It’s not unreasonable for a husband or wife to expect their spouse to get dressed up once in a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

America has become a nation of slobs. It’s a freak show out there. It’s not unreasonable for a husband or wife to expect their spouse to get dressed up once in a while.

Maybe? If she wants to go to his brothers wedding in sweatpants yeah he might want her to reconsider that. This is dressing up solely for his benefit, and getting pissed because he’s not being humored.

I am back at the office so I wear a dress and heels most days, so this isn’t a personal defense if my wardrobe choices, but if my husband expected me to wear something I didn’t want to solely for his benefit and then was mad when I wouldn’t I would not be impressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband says “we should go on a date” he means that I should figure out child care and make a reservation. Plan the date, well in advance, to somewhere fancy and let her figure out her own wardrobe. If she wears sweatpants and is comfortable with that, suck it up and have a good time anyway.

Bingo.

OP wants the date to be all about him. He’s treating his wife like an object. And wild guess, he’ll probably expect sex afterwards.

If she wants to go to Olive Garden in sweatpants, go and have fun. If you can only have fun with your spouse when they’re dressed up, something is wrong.

America has become a nation of slobs. It’s a freak show out there. It’s not unreasonable for a husband or wife to expect their spouse to get dressed up once in a while.

Maybe, but saying “people SHOULD dress up” doesn’t get them to actually dress up. OP can nag and complain and say whatever about Americans all he wants, but it’s not gonna change his W’s mind. He can only control himself.

[Anonymous]

Is it just the sweatpants or her whole appearance? I know a lot of Stay at Home Moms who just let go of themselves.

OP, it is likely that the cute little bottom she brought into the marriage has been replaced by a Tysons Mall-sized backside. She cannot fit into anything other than pants that provide a great deal of room to land the 747, so to speak.

Would please encourage her to try to get back in pre-marriage shape? Perhaps she could try belly dancing, or a class at Sport&Health (there are some great ones such as GMBSA (Get My Butt Small Again) training.)

With your help, she will be dressing up in no time (you may have to help her get off the couch first.) If this does not work, she may have Low-E and should get her estrogen levels checked.

<Hugs>

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Women are sick of having their value defined by their appearance. American men are upset that women in general have gained weight and don’t dress to please the male gaze. Wearing sweatpants is a big middle finger at society’s expectations that women should always want to be attractive to men.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Women are sick of having their value defined by their appearance. American men are upset that women in general have gained weight and don’t dress to please the male gaze. Wearing sweatpants is a big middle finger at society’s expectations that women should always want to be attractive to men.

Hi.

Women are much more critical of how other women appear than men are. How many times have you, dear poster, ripped on something another woman wore? Ever make these comments (such as "She does not have the ___ to pull off wearing ___") with your friends?

If you believe that women dress mainly to "please the male gaze", then you did not grow up in the USA.

[Anonymous]

I need GMBSA training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Is it just the sweatpants or her whole appearance? I know a lot of Stay at Home Moms who just let go of themselves.

OP, it is likely that the cute little bottom she brought into the marriage has been replaced by a Tysons Mall-sized backside. She cannot fit into anything other than pants that provide a great deal of room to land the 747, so to speak.

Would please encourage her to try to get back in pre-marriage shape? Perhaps she could try belly dancing, or a class at Sport&Health (there are some great ones such as GMBSA (Get My Butt Small Again) training.)

With your help, she will be dressing up in no time (you may have to help her get off the couch first.) If this does not work, she may have Low-E and should get her estrogen levels checked.

<Hugs>

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Yeah. Women are sick of having their value defined by their appearance. American men are upset that women in general have gained weight and don’t dress to please the male gaze. Wearing sweatpants is a big middle finger at society’s expectations that women should always want to be attractive to men.

Hi.

Women are much more critical of how other women appear than men are. How many times have you, dear poster, ripped on something another woman wore? Ever make these comments (such as "She does not have the ___ to pull off wearing ___") with your friends?

If you believe that women dress mainly to "please the male gaze", then you did not grow up in the USA.

Dp I have never said that about a woman!

[Anonymous]

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

OMG. Please tell me you understood the sarcasm in this post, and that your post is more of the same?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

dp Reading is fundamental and op did not say his wife was fat. Maybe you are talking about yourself? This is op:" Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. " Just because someone doesn't want to get dressed up does not mean they are fat or need her estrogen levels checked. Sometimes it just means she wants to be comfortable! And who can blame her?

OMG. Please tell me you understood the sarcasm in this post, and that your post is more of the same?

Are you the pp? Because I didn't read "sarcasm" in this post at all. If so, I apologize but, you need to do better.

[Anonymous]

Hi.
Women are much more critical of how other women appear than men are. How many times have you, dear poster, ripped on something another woman wore? Ever make these comments (such as "She does not have the ___ to pull off wearing ___") with your friends?
If you believe that women dress mainly to "please the male gaze", then you did not grow up in the USA.

Dp I have never said that about a woman!

You are a woman, and you have never said unflattering things about another woman's appearance?

No way that is true. Women are more judgemental about other women's appearances. You know it is true, and so does everyone else reading this post.

[Anonymous]

I see nothing wrong with wanting to look nice for your spouse and yourself. Nobody wants to live with a slob. Have the decency to get dressed up when you go out.

And people complain when the eye wanders.