Do other parents yell criticisms at your kid?

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Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

[Anonymous]

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Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

Can you really get a restraining order for that?

[Anonymous]

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Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

LOL!! A restraining order for what? Being told to eff off? Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

Can you really get a restraining order for that?

Actually in MD, it would be a peace order and/or protective order. Assuming I have some footage of the repetitive offense (or witnesses) and a name, I don’t see why not. It’s intentional harassment of children even though they’ve been asked to stopped.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

LOL!! A restraining order for what? Being told to eff off? Good luck with that.

No, for harassing kids. Presumably someone who tells me to eff off when I ask them to stop talking to my kids will continue their harassing behavior.

[Anonymous]

One never know if a player’s family is affiliated with the Bloods, MS-13 , Triads, or a NRA member with anger management issues. By the time you find out, it might be too late!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One never know if a player’s family is affiliated with the Bloods, MS-13 , Triads, or a NRA member with anger management issues. By the time you find out, it might be too late!

Or the Van Buren Boys. But sometimes I honestly think about MS-13.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

LOL!! A restraining order for what? Being told to eff off? Good luck with that.

No, for harassing kids. Presumably someone who tells me to eff off when I ask them to stop talking to my kids will continue their harassing behavior.

Good luck! You'll be the hero to your kid when that parent is never served a restraining order after your very strongly worded letter tot he authorities. HAHAHAH

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

LOL!! A restraining order for what? Being told to eff off? Good luck with that.

No, for harassing kids. Presumably someone who tells me to eff off when I ask them to stop talking to my kids will continue their harassing behavior.

This you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One never know if a player’s family is affiliated with the Bloods, MS-13 , Triads, or a NRA member with anger management issues. By the time you find out, it might be too late!

Or the Van Buren Boys. But sometimes I honestly think about MS-13.

Would you find this in the Great Falls-Reston League?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

LOL!! A restraining order for what? Being told to eff off? Good luck with that.

No, for harassing kids. Presumably someone who tells me to eff off when I ask them to stop talking to my kids will continue their harassing behavior.

Good luck! You'll be the hero to your kid when that parent is never served a restraining order after your very strongly worded letter tot he authorities. HAHAHAH

It’s a civil order, not criminal. Don’t need to get authorities involved to get it. You just go to the courthouse with your petition and supporting documents/evidence. I’ll have a copy of the order in case I need it or if it’s necessary to get authorities involved. It’s not that hard. It’s just preponderance of the evidence standard, which is not a very high evidentiary standard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

PP I think you're missing the point, which is that the original PP not only takes care of it immediately, but also sets a tone that spreads to the rest of the parents, which you would not accomplish with your complaint-filing. I think that both of your approaches run the risk of backfiring, but original PP is telling you that it has worked multiple times. With the right person in the right situation, I would go for original PP's approach over yours every time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One never know if a player’s family is affiliated with the Bloods, MS-13 , Triads, or a NRA member with anger management issues. By the time you find out, it might be too late!

Or the Van Buren Boys. But sometimes I honestly think about MS-13.

Would you find this in the Great Falls-Reston League?

I imagine this is in the DC area in general. Especially since you got to travel in the area to get to games.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

LOL!! A restraining order for what? Being told to eff off? Good luck with that.

No, for harassing kids. Presumably someone who tells me to eff off when I ask them to stop talking to my kids will continue their harassing behavior.

Good luck! You'll be the hero to your kid when that parent is never served a restraining order after your very strongly worded letter tot he authorities. HAHAHAH

It’s a civil order, not criminal. Don’t need to get authorities involved to get it. You just go to the courthouse with your petition and supporting documents/evidence. I’ll have a copy of the order in case I need it or if it’s necessary to get authorities involved. It’s not that hard. It’s just preponderance of the evidence standard, which is not a very high evidentiary standard.

LOL!!! We get it, you're a lawyer. You're also a tool. Just tell the person to STFU like any sensible adult would in the moment.

Answer me this though, what name goes on this restraining order?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

I wouldn’t tell a parent to be quiet in general. But if someone was yelling at my kid or the kids on my team, I would say something to the effect of please do not talk to our kids. If they tell me to eff myself, I wouldn’t waste my time engaging that person. I’d file a complaint with whoever I need to file a complaint with…ref, the opp. team, etc. I may also simultaneously file a restraining order against the offending person to stay away from our team.

PP I think you're missing the point, which is that the original PP not only takes care of it immediately, but also sets a tone that spreads to the rest of the parents, which you would not accomplish with your complaint-filing. I think that both of your approaches run the risk of backfiring, but original PP is telling you that it has worked multiple times. With the right person in the right situation, I would go for original PP's approach over yours every time.

You do you. I’m not in a position to be acting that way publicly. In all honesty, my husband is a muscled guy who has just given a look or said something (without curse words) and that stopped any further comments to kids. So the point is if the PP or my telling someone to stop (in our own way) doesn’t work, going the complaint way is an option too.