Stay at home wife - no kids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depending on how demanding the WOH spouses career is, this can be a really good way to live and an equal partnership. My years in biglaw convinced me that the only way to stay in a job like that and not lose your mind is to have a stay at home spouse. The person who stays home can manage the house, run all the errands, and, most importantly, manage the social obligations and family communications. Then the person who WOH can maintain their social connections and come home to a happy and calm house.

My DH did not want to stay home, so I left biglaw.

So you got a JD and built a career only to stay home and run errands?

No. I left biglaw, not the workforce. In fact, I am still a lawyer, still outearn my husband, and am doing more intellectually fulfilling work. But, rather than a job that demands tons of travel and 24/7 availability, I have a job with reasonable hours and minimal travel that allows me to take care of my other life stuff, as well. All that said, I don't judge people who get degrees or build careers and then decide to change directions in life.

Your approach was reasonable instead of quitting work altogether.

[Anonymous]

Great read for anyone who thinks they automatically get half of marital assets…

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/10/social-security-benefit-amounts-parents-women/620274/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great read for anyone who thinks they automatically get half of marital assets…

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/10/social-security-benefit-amounts-parents-women/620274/

Yes, a lot of wives are clueless about finances and won’t know if their husbands are hiding assets either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great read for anyone who thinks they automatically get half of marital assets…

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/10/social-security-benefit-amounts-parents-women/620274/

I'm confused as to why this woman was only entitled to receive about half the amount of Social Security her ex-husband was getting. When I got divorced after 12 years, I was told that when the time comes to collect Social Security, I can choose to receive my amount ***OR*** my ex-husband's amount. We both worked full-time, but he made more than me, so his payment will be higher, so I plan to collect his. He doesn't even need to know about it. No one will alert him when the time comes.

Read about it here. Go to the "Benefits for your divorced spouse" section.

https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/retirement/planner/applying7.html#h4

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great read for anyone who thinks they automatically get half of marital assets…

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/10/social-security-benefit-amounts-parents-women/620274/

I'm confused as to why this woman was only entitled to receive about half the amount of Social Security her ex-husband was getting. When I got divorced after 12 years, I was told that when the time comes to collect Social Security, I can choose to receive my amount ***OR*** my ex-husband's amount. We both worked full-time, but he made more than me, so his payment will be higher, so I plan to collect his. He doesn't even need to know about it. No one will alert him when the time comes.

Read about it here. Go to the "Benefits for your divorced spouse" section.

https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/retirement/planner/applying7.html#h4

It's no secret, been that way for a long time. I would have gotten 1/2 my exes too, but I remarried. I am getting the retirement from my ex who passed away. He worked at a company over 10 years during our marriage. His current wife wasn't too happy when she found out, but that was my marital asset. Whether you are a SAH, or work outside you are entitled to marital assets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a time when my wife didn’t work, it was about four months. It was the greatest four months ever, she basically took on the persona of 1950s housewife, the house was spotless, dinner hit the table at 6:45, she would change into something fancy and I was greeted at the door with a martini a few times.
It’s been like 17 years and I still remember how great it was. Jobs, kids and everything took off about a year after and we are like any other couple now, but if this stay at home wife wants to make beautifying someone’s world her job then I do not see what the crime is at all.
Participation in commerce is not a prerequisite for being a person.

Disagree. I find people who don’t work real jobs to be quite dull and one-dimensional. You’re nostalgic now but I can tell you that having a 1950s housewife is not all that great.

I find people that work boring jobs to be sad. Most would quit if they hit the lottery.

Women or men who are in a good position to stay home, travel, and have many interests are...actually more interesting. Most of us wish we could have that lifestyle, but most have to pay the bills. Don't hate because your life sucks.

I think many could live under their means, but a lot of people are not good at managing money. That's been proven over and over. Most on here would quit in a heart beat if they were able to. Definitely more interesting to be able to pursue hobbies, travel, and other endeavors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great read for anyone who thinks they automatically get half of marital assets…

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/10/social-security-benefit-amounts-parents-women/620274/

I'm confused as to why this woman was only entitled to receive about half the amount of Social Security her ex-husband was getting. When I got divorced after 12 years, I was told that when the time comes to collect Social Security, I can choose to receive my amount ***OR*** my ex-husband's amount. We both worked full-time, but he made more than me, so his payment will be higher, so I plan to collect his. He doesn't even need to know about it. No one will alert him when the time comes.

Read about it here. Go to the "Benefits for your divorced spouse" section.

https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/retirement/planner/applying7.html#h4

It's no secret, been that way for a long time. I would have gotten 1/2 my exes too, but I remarried. I am getting the retirement from my ex who passed away. He worked at a company over 10 years during our marriage. His current wife wasn't too happy when she found out, but that was my marital asset. Whether you are a SAH, or work outside you are entitled to marital assets.

Half? No, you'd get the same full amount as your ex.

The Atlantic article is incorrect.

[Anonymous]

From the Atlantic article:

"Those with meager work histories may be entitled to a spousal benefit equivalent to, at most, half of what their current or former spouse receives each month."

That's flat-out wrong. If you were married 10 or more years and you don't remarry, you will get the exact amount of SS as your ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great read for anyone who thinks they automatically get half of marital assets…

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/10/social-security-benefit-amounts-parents-women/620274/

I'm confused as to why this woman was only entitled to receive about half the amount of Social Security her ex-husband was getting. When I got divorced after 12 years, I was told that when the time comes to collect Social Security, I can choose to receive my amount ***OR*** my ex-husband's amount. We both worked full-time, but he made more than me, so his payment will be higher, so I plan to collect his. He doesn't even need to know about it. No one will alert him when the time comes.

Read about it here. Go to the "Benefits for your divorced spouse" section.

https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/retirement/planner/applying7.html#h4

It's no secret, been that way for a long time. I would have gotten 1/2 my exes too, but I remarried. I am getting the retirement from my ex who passed away. He worked at a company over 10 years during our marriage. His current wife wasn't too happy when she found out, but that was my marital asset. Whether you are a SAH, or work outside you are entitled to marital assets.

Half? No, you'd get the same full amount as your ex.

The Atlantic article is incorrect.

No if he hadn't died and I hadn't remarried I would have gotten half of his. Any woman that divorces if they are married over 10 yrs will get around half. That is unless they remarry. It's on the social security website, don't need to read some agenda news article fyi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the Atlantic article:

"Those with meager work histories may be entitled to a spousal benefit equivalent to, at most, half of what their current or former spouse receives each month."

That's flat-out wrong. If you were married 10 or more years and you don't remarry, you will get the exact amount of SS as your ex.

No, that's actually incorrect. You still only qualify for a spousal benefit, which is 50%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think of couples where the husband has a career and the wife stays home, no kids involved, doing …? I’ve known a few of these couples and it makes me wonder.

Mind your own damn business.

[Anonymous]

You mean this woman gets to live her life without worrying about work deadlines, crappy bosses and coworkers? She can do whatever she wants when she wants throughout the day without the hassle of crowds? You’re saying this is a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think of couples where the husband has a career and the wife stays home, no kids involved, doing …? I’ve known a few of these couples and it makes me wonder.

What do I think? I think that the DH must be a high earner. I think that the woman must be someone special to b have the luxury to live her life doing whatever she wants. That's what I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mean this woman gets to live her life without worrying about work deadlines, crappy bosses and coworkers? She can do whatever she wants when she wants throughout the day without the hassle of crowds? You’re saying this is a bad thing?

[Anonymous]

I think that pretty and intelligent women have an easy life and the ugly women have to work hard for every thing. No easy meal ticket or riding the gravy train for them.