Is remarriage worth it with young kids?

[Anonymous]

Should I consider remarriage with 2 young boys (7 and 5)? Is it worth it? Or should I just focus on myself after the kids are older and out the house. They like my bf and he has one son of his own around the same age.

[Anonymous]

Do you want more kids? If not, then no. Not until the kids are out of the house IMO

[Anonymous]

Can you explain why? Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

After 10 plus years, options will dry up and hope for finding a life long partner will be close to zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Should I consider remarriage with 2 young boys (7 and 5)? Is it worth it? Or should I just focus on myself after the kids are older and out the house. They like my bf and he has one son of his own around the same age.

It depends. Are you capable of doing it on your own or feel overwhelmed? Why did you divorce and why did he? Are you two mature and kind enough to be good step-parents? Do you really know this guy and genuinely believe in his capability to be a good husband? Would yours and his kids easily merge into this new family? How amicable your ex and his ex are and what roles they have in custody, child support, parenting etc.

Only if you find satisfactory answers to all of these questions then consider it seriously. Premarital counseling would be helpful to set ground rules and expectations from each other.

That being said, if there are any red flags, you are better off single.

[Anonymous]

With full time job, household and two young kids, how do you even find time for dating?

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP, if you're lucky enough to have found a man worth marrying, go ahead. Your happiness matters tremendously. You deserve being treated with love and respect, and your sons will benefit from seeing their mother treated with love and respect.

[Anonymous]

Are you talking about marriage with BF? Does he want to get married to you? What are your respective relationships with the children’s other parents? Would they be okay with the remarriage or would it cause drama in your kids’ lives?

[Anonymous]

Your kids should be your priority. Why are you obsessed with men and marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids should be your priority. Why are you obsessed with men and marriage?

So you can feel self important on the internet.

[Anonymous]

I mean if you are in love and he wants to get married.

I have 2 teenage boys and they can be a total pain in the ass. They are good kids but the attitude can be a lot. I can only imagine how they would treat a stepparent. It can be messy with college tuition, expensive travel, etc.

I would only marry someone if I felt the man was marrying me AND my children and treat them as his own.

[Anonymous]

If i divorce i can't imagine any scenerio where a marriage would be more beneficial to me than staying single.
There is just no good reason to get married now days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids should be your priority. Why are you obsessed with men and marriage?

Who said I’m obsessed with men/marriage? You know nothing about me lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With full time job, household and two young kids, how do you even find time for dating?

How did you assume I or we have full time jobs?? You know nothing about my financial situation so stop assuming. You don’t know how we met, whether I knew him from before, whether I met him organically through friends or whether I dated? STOP ASSUMING and making judgments.