Is remarriage worth it with young kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

Huh? That's not how that works. Also, the boyfriend has a kid, so it's not just moving the boyfriend into the house.

She should not marry a guy with a kid. Too much trouble. Find a single guy with no kids.

[Anonymous]

Too many variable to give you a thoughtful answer. Only you can make that decision.

[Anonymous]

what is wrong with marrying a guy with a kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with marrying a guy with a kid?

Being a stepmom isn’t fun, and he’ll be talking to the exwife and she’ll be jealous of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with marrying a guy with a kid?

The kids will mistreat you and you’ll have to do all the childcare for ungrateful brats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with marrying a guy with a kid?

Blended families are hard, even in the best circumstance. And if they end up divorcing, even more instability for the kids.

[Anonymous]

ok understood, so do most divorced people with kids just stay unmarried?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what is wrong with marrying a guy with a kid?

OP is better off staying single than marrying a guy with a young kid. Based on my informal research among friends, 99% of women who've married a guy with a young kid agree with me. Men in general are liabilities, and men with kids are double the liability. Unless he's very rich, the costs outweigh the benefits. It's fine to date men with kids, but don't cohabitate or marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ok understood, so do most divorced people with kids just stay unmarried?

It's just a simple cost-benefit analysis. If you do your research and you are honest with yourself, the costs almost always outweigh the benefits of remarriage when kids are involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

Huh? That's not how that works. Also, the boyfriend has a kid, so it's not just moving the boyfriend into the house.

She should not marry a guy with a kid. Too much trouble. Find a single guy with no kids.

No single guy wants some other guy’s saved game.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

Youre just moving from one instability into another. The more variables the more chaos. Blended families are really hard on the kids and the relationship of the adults. And what usually ends up happening is that the woman gives into the man because she fears her second marriage falling apart because as many have stated who is going to get into a relationship 10 years from now with a twice divorced woman much less 1x divorced woman?

If your kids Dad is present, let that be their fatherly influence. If not, find suitable outlets for raising them that dont involve risking their safety because Pedos love kids from broken homes where mom (or Dad) are checked out and not involved.

Kids are also more likely to be abused, up to 40x more likely. If you love your kids, date but do not marry or cohabitate until they are out of the house and then have very strict legal documents in place regarding your POA, Medical proxy, and any payments upon your death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope.

Youre just moving from one instability into another. The more variables the more chaos. Blended families are really hard on the kids and the relationship of the adults. And what usually ends up happening is that the woman gives into the man because she fears her second marriage falling apart because as many have stated who is going to get into a relationship 10 years from now with a twice divorced woman much less 1x divorced woman?

If your kids Dad is present, let that be their fatherly influence. If not, find suitable outlets for raising them that dont involve risking their safety because Pedos love kids from broken homes where mom (or Dad) are checked out and not involved.

Kids are also more likely to be abused, up to 40x more likely. If you love your kids, date but do not marry or cohabitate until they are out of the house and then have very strict legal documents in place regarding your POA, Medical proxy, and any payments upon your death.

By 10 years from now, you probably won't care. I don't know any financially secure women over 50 who want remarriage. I'm sure a few exist out there, they're just not in my orbit. Most women over 50 who have money don't want remarriage. Dating, sure, but remarriage is a hard no.

[Anonymous]

What if the man offers financial support/is wealthy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if the man offers financial support/is wealthy?

Goddam4 some women cant wait for chains. JFC.

Whats your price Ho? Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if the man offers financial support/is wealthy?

You might want to get that in writing. If he already has kids and wealth, he's going to have that locked up in trusts and will ask for a prenup. Oh, and his income will interfere with OP's kids' ability to qualify for financial aid in college, but he probably won't want to have to contribute.