Problematic drinking

[Anonymous]

If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

[Anonymous]

If it ever happens it’s too often.

[Anonymous]

He’s a dry drunk. This always gets worse. Draw some hard lines and be prepared for him to push back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a dry drunk. This always gets worse. Draw some hard lines and be prepared for him to push back.

I have been trying for ten years, it gets better than worse, then better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Out of curiosity, where does he do the drinking, what stokes his binging? Or is it totally random? Is this at home? Only during golf season while playing with pals? During and after work trips?

[Anonymous]

He’s an alcoholic.
You do nothing. He needs to address his issue.

[Anonymous]

If he's driving, have him arrested, it's far better than having him kill somebody. If he's abusive at home, again, have him arrested. Record him when he's drunk, you will need to get custody of the kids. It's possible he can be "fixed", but more likely when you leave you'll be wishing you had done it long before.

[Anonymous]

That's still alcoholic drinking.

[Anonymous]

It is called alcoholism.

[Anonymous]

Alcohol Use Disorder

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Binge drinking disorder

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a dry drunk. This always gets worse. Draw some hard lines and be prepared for him to push back.

A dry drunk is someone who quit drinking, but still acts like a drunk a hole.

[Anonymous]

He is an alcoholic and needs psychiatric help, not just to avoid bad behavior or accidents but to stay physically, mentally, maritally, professionally and socially healthy. Alcohol is a medically proven toxin, no longer veiled by a cover of social lubricant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Al anon is exactly the group to help you cope with being married to a problem drinker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Al anon is exactly the group to help you cope with being married to a problem drinker.

OP here. Thank you. I think I keep hoping it will get better but it just repeats itself.