First wives v second wives

[Anonymous]

My ex’s new partner (they are not married) is ten years younger, was barely scraping by financially, did not graduate college, got expelled from high school. She looks a lot like me, however.

Is this typical of second partners? I did not get an advanced degree (ex discouraged me and held me back professionally which is one of the reasons we eventually divorced). I think he wants power over a woman and chose someone more dependent.

[Anonymous]

No offense but sounds like he wanted a younger, cheaper version of you that maybe will challenge him less.

[Anonymous]

Way to blame your ex for your own failures

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex’s new partner (they are not married) is ten years younger, was barely scraping by financially, did not graduate college, got expelled from high school. She looks a lot like me, however.

Is this typical of second partners? I did not get an advanced degree (ex discouraged me and held me back professionally which is one of the reasons we eventually divorced). I think he wants power over a woman and chose someone more dependent.

Not your business. Don’t be judgmental and worry about your new life.

[Anonymous]

This forum is unnecessary mean to 10-20 year younger second wives, it’s odd.

[Anonymous]

Move on, OP. Your desperation to put your ex's new partner down is all about you and your insecurity and says nothing about her. It's ugly. Get some therapy if need be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This forum is unnecessary mean to 10-20 year younger second wives, it’s odd.

I think it's a reflection of the demographics. Way more than the normal amount of of bitter, unattractive, older divorced women with no lives are hanging out here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This forum is unnecessary mean to 10-20 year younger second wives, it’s odd.

I think it's a reflection of the demographics. Way more than the normal amount of of bitter, unattractive, older divorced women with no lives are hanging out here.

NP. I'm plenty bitter, but I can easily admit that XH traded up. It doesn't feel good, but it's true. His new partner outshines me in every possible way. As long as she is kind to my kids, my issues aren't with her. I wish she didn't exist, but I'm sure that goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

Not your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex’s new partner (they are not married) is ten years younger, was barely scraping by financially, did not graduate college, got expelled from high school. She looks a lot like me, however.

Is this typical of second partners? I did not get an advanced degree (ex discouraged me and held me back professionally which is one of the reasons we eventually divorced). I think he wants power over a woman and chose someone more dependent.

Op, why are you so invested in your ex's new partner and also stop blaming him for not doing the grad studies. You would have done it if you wanted at that time or maybe you just wanted to get married and now blaming others.

Your ex could still be a bad person but you need to owe your mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This forum is unnecessary mean to 10-20 year younger second wives, it’s odd.

I think it's a reflection of the demographics. Way more than the normal amount of of bitter, unattractive, older divorced women with no lives are hanging out here.

+1

The recent 22yo stepdaughter thread is proof.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This forum is unnecessary mean to 10-20 year younger second wives, it’s odd.

I think it's a reflection of the demographics. Way more than the normal amount of of bitter, unattractive, older divorced women with no lives are hanging out here.

NP. I'm plenty bitter, but I can easily admit that XH traded up. It doesn't feel good, but it's true. His new partner outshines me in every possible way. As long as she is kind to my kids, my issues aren't with her. I wish she didn't exist, but I'm sure that goes both ways.

Ugh. I'm sorry. I'm sure you have plenty of amazing qualities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This forum is unnecessary mean to 10-20 year younger second wives, it’s odd.

I think it's a reflection of the demographics. Way more than the normal amount of of bitter, unattractive, older divorced women with no lives are hanging out here.

+1

The recent 22yo stepdaughter thread is proof.

It really is.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP - I’m going to be the lone kind opinion. Yes it’s common for middle aged men who no longer feel attractive or desirable to look for young, unsuccessful women to make them feel good in comparison. It’s a sign of the man’s insecurity and need to feel fatherly toward a young helpless female. Be grateful you are no longer attached to such a man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex’s new partner (they are not married) is ten years younger, was barely scraping by financially, did not graduate college, got expelled from high school. She looks a lot like me, however.

Is this typical of second partners? I did not get an advanced degree (ex discouraged me and held me back professionally which is one of the reasons we eventually divorced). I think he wants power over a woman and chose someone more dependent.

Is what typical of second partners? My husband and I were each married before and his ex-wife and I do look quite a bit alike. He is dark-haired like my ex and they both have very kind faces but they're different heights and builds.

We both traded up in the professional area though - she was a paralegal and I'm a lawyer and my husband makes a lot more than my ex did (completely different industries).

Your ex sounds like a loser if he wants to be with a woman that he can have power over so I guess it's good you're rid of him.