What do cheaters tell themselves?

[Anonymous]

Anyone? I cant even begin to imagine a person who is an amazing parent would not think of their kids before going to a rendezvous with the AP. and what is their story for themselves?

[Anonymous]

Many people tell themselves that their kids are the only reason they are still married and they don’t want to break up their home so they’ll get a little affection or “love” on the side to make their life tolerable until they can feasibly divorce.

People can come up with justifications for anything. It’s not hard.

[Anonymous]

My wife won't put out. Becky will. My wife made her call. I'm adapting.

[Anonymous]

Many lies to put the blame on other people instead of their own moral failings.

[Anonymous]

People can rationalize anything. Some will tell themselves that they can't help it, that it's how they are programmed or they are just not strong enough. Others will normalize it, they'll convince themselves that everyone wants to cheat, and that more people do it than let on. Still others will blame their spouse for not meeting their needs. Some awful people probably even blame their kids, for stressing them out or for "stealing" their spouse away.

It doesn't matter what people tell themselves, what they think, or how they justify their behavior.

What matters is what people do.

[Anonymous]

They aren't "telling themselves" anything. They just do it. It's biology, and some people can't overcome it.

[Anonymous]

They are living their best life. And that the sore on their dick will go away.

[Anonymous]

AI is not cheating. Oh wait, wrong cheating thread.

[Anonymous]

Most have spent a lifetime hating themselves anyway, OP. They know they're human and cheating is a very human act. Maybe they tell themselves that they'll try to be better. But things don't get better. They've already spent years wishing their spouse would love them enough to heal their wounds, but of course that's not the spouse's responsibility. They know they're flawed but they don't know how to function any other way. The feeling they get gives them life when they walk through their job/marriage/parenting feeling half dead because of the way our society disconnects us from each other. Seriously, if you could hear their self-talk you might be shocked by how much they hate themselves.

[Anonymous]

I have never cheated, but based upon what cheaters that I know have told me, they justify in a lot of ways. All of their justifications fall into the category of whatever they need to tell themselves to believe what they are doing is good and in their story they are the hero. Some need a lot of “reasons”, some need a couple and others avoid any responsibility at all because it is just biology.

The only thing you need to know is they are as deceptive with themselves as they are with everyone else.

[Anonymous]

What do frigid wives tell themselves?

It's all selfishness. Variation on the same theme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People can rationalize anything. Some will tell themselves that they can't help it, that it's how they are programmed or they are just not strong enough. Others will normalize it, they'll convince themselves that everyone wants to cheat, and that more people do it than let on. Still others will blame their spouse for not meeting their needs. Some awful people probably even blame their kids, for stressing them out or for "stealing" their spouse away.

It doesn't matter what people tell themselves, what they think, or how they justify their behavior.

What matters is what people do.

Why do they HAVE to help it? Because society says they do?

Maybe they are programmed this way and aren't strong enough. Everyone's brains are wired differently. Hence, addictions.

There's not a married guy on this earth who hasn't thought about/envisioned themselves with another woman. Maybe it's the neighbor, maybe it's Margot Robbie. Either way the same thing that has society believing infidelity is cheating also considers lust "cheating".

Maybe their spouse isn't meeting their needs. Lucky people find this out before they're married, the unlucky people learn it later on.

Society is so funny. Not everyone is the same, therefore everyone's norms aren't the same.

Cheater's justify why they did it and the victim of the cheating justifies that it's wrong. At the end of the day, it's all fabricated by society.

Devil's advocate for open relationships and justifiable cheating. We all only get one shot at this whole life thing. People have urges and act upon them. They're right to believe they did nothing wrong is just as legitimate as you're right to believe they did.

Again, different morals, different beliefs, different norms doesn't make one person right and someone else wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are living their best life. And that the sore on their dick will go away.

I just spit out my water....lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People can rationalize anything. Some will tell themselves that they can't help it, that it's how they are programmed or they are just not strong enough. Others will normalize it, they'll convince themselves that everyone wants to cheat, and that more people do it than let on. Still others will blame their spouse for not meeting their needs. Some awful people probably even blame their kids, for stressing them out or for "stealing" their spouse away.

It doesn't matter what people tell themselves, what they think, or how they justify their behavior.

What matters is what people do.

Why do they HAVE to help it? Because society says they do?

Maybe they are programmed this way and aren't strong enough. Everyone's brains are wired differently. Hence, addictions.

There's not a married guy on this earth who hasn't thought about/envisioned themselves with another woman. Maybe it's the neighbor, maybe it's Margot Robbie. Either way the same thing that has society believing infidelity is cheating also considers lust "cheating".

Maybe their spouse isn't meeting their needs. Lucky people find this out before they're married, the unlucky people learn it later on.

Society is so funny. Not everyone is the same, therefore everyone's norms aren't the same.

Cheater's justify why they did it and the victim of the cheating justifies that it's wrong. At the end of the day, it's all fabricated by society.

Devil's advocate for open relationships and justifiable cheating. We all only get one shot at this whole life thing. People have urges and act upon them. They're right to believe they did nothing wrong is just as legitimate as you're right to believe they did.

Again, different morals, different beliefs, different norms doesn't make one person right and someone else wrong.

Unfortunately cheaters are not open about their morals, beliefs or actions and they committed to monogamy when they got married. It’s not deceptive or cheating if they have agreed to an open marriage and stay within the agreed upon boundaries. It isn’t betrayal if it has been set as the foundation of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

^True. Frigid wives aren't open about theirs, either.