Did not try to get in shape

[Anonymous]

Would you be annoyed at your significant other for not really trying to get in shape for a Caribbean vacation?

We booked it about 6 months ago and also talked about how it would be motivation to get in shape and try to be healthiest for snorkeling and your basic tourist stuff.

We are a month out and ordering clothes and all that and spouse thinks they can get in shape in 4 weeks where I have been dieting and exercising for 6 months.

It is not the end of the world but I am kind of annoyed. I was not expecting fitness influencer body but at least not dad bod flab.

[Anonymous]

I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.

Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.

Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.

Yeah, this.

[Anonymous]

Ughh…you’re the woman? If you think you are pissed now, wait four weeks. Dollars to donuts, he actually will change his body in four weeks as much as you did with six months of real effort. And the kicker, all he will do is cut out soda and alcohol and go to the gym 15 times.

[Anonymous]

Op you’re being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

So you’ve seen them not working out and dieting for 5 mos and *now* it’s a problem? Or did you just need something quick to pick a fight over?

[Anonymous]

She is embarrassed and doesn't want to be seen with a fat blob.

[Anonymous]

This is a you problem.
A vacation also shouldn't be the motivation to strive for better health and weight loss

Ugh

[Anonymous]

Getting annoyed by this isn't reasonable, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ughh…you’re the woman? If you think you are pissed now, wait four weeks. Dollars to donuts, he actually will change his body in four weeks as much as you did with six months of real effort. And the kicker, all he will do is cut out soda and alcohol and go to the gym 15 times.

This is true.

But please reconsider your outrage. This isn't news (he hasn't been dieting for 5 months) and the point of a vacation is to enjoy yourself. Try it.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not be annoyed. My partner and I plan vacations based on what would be enjoyable for the people that we are, not some idealized version of what we could be.

[Anonymous]

Take your selfies without him if you fear harming your brand.
Assume he has no other value except accessory?
You are so shallow. He would do better with someone who sees him as a person.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I would be annoyed at you for being annoyed. I have been losing weight slowly over the past 9 months. I am doing it slowly because it is more sustainable that way. It will probably be another year before I reach my goal weight. Frantically losing weight for a trip over 4.weeks or 6 months doesn't sound sustainable to me.

[Anonymous]

Have fun with all the hot young men you’ll encounter on your vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.

Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.

Yeah, this.

+1

Also stop pretending that this was about health. Your "flab" comment gives the game away.