Are you offended when someone says they “didnt want someone else to raise my kids”?

[Anonymous]

I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

Also, remember the law of diminishing returns for IQ I know Ivy educated people who are unemployable or very very underemployed so yea stay home already,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

Who told you to quit your job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

Who told you to quit your job?

To quote Tom cruise, don’t be glib, Matt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

I used to always ask men if they were going to quit their jobs when they announced spouses, partners being pregnant. Everyone acted like I was nuts. Then I would sincerely apologize and just explain that everyone asked me that so I thought it was a normal, social-type question. I stopped doing it after a while because people got really offended! Like, why would I quit my job, are you nuts? Well, I guess it’s fine to ask me despite all my years of education and career-building.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

Who told you to quit your job?

To quote Tom cruise, don’t be glib, Matt

To quote everyone watching that interview, answer the question, Tom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

I used to always ask men if they were going to quit their jobs when they announced spouses, partners being pregnant. Everyone acted like I was nuts. Then I would sincerely apologize and just explain that everyone asked me that so I thought it was a normal, social-type question. I stopped doing it after a while because people got really offended! Like, why would I quit my job, are you nuts? Well, I guess it’s fine to ask me despite all my years of education and career-building.

I’ll bet your coworkers don’t like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

You try so hard to sound intelligent but just always fall short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

Also, remember the law of diminishing returns for IQ I know Ivy educated people who are unemployable or very very underemployed so yea stay home already,

You also like run on sentences that are barely intelligible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

You try so hard to sound intelligent but just always fall short.

Ooops thy “Ivy Leaguer” got schools and is now a little hurt. Boo hoo 😢

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

Also, remember the law of diminishing returns for IQ I know Ivy educated people who are unemployable or very very underemployed so yea stay home already,

You also like run on sentences that are barely intelligible.

lol the low EQ on display for all to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are basically saying they couldn’t leave the kids with someone else. Don’t make a little thing into something it’s not. You all need to get a life and stop looking for reasons to be offended

That’s an interpretation

Another interpretation is the person is too stupid to work

There are tons of interpretations

None are actually “being offended”.

I’m not offended when someone says the world is flat I just think their stupid

I stayed home when my kids were 0-2, put them in a part time play school at 2, and then school at 3. I'm also a journalist and author and worked 10-15 hrs a week during that time, but I did all the SAHM mom things because I felt it was important.

Do you know who I became friends with in the neighborhood, what other SAHM moms I found? A Rhodes Scholar, and a woman with a phD from an ivy league school. All of use are working now, but we stayed home very intentionally in the early years.

Ivy League grads are more likely to stay home:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/21/female-ivy-league-graduates-stay-home-moms

Yet you are too stupid to recognize a hyperbole to prove a point.

Go back take some time and read.

You try so hard to sound intelligent but just always fall short.

Ooops thy “Ivy Leaguer” got schools and is now a little hurt. Boo hoo 😢

Again. WTF are you trying to say? Schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say anyone who makes the claim that they stay home because they didn’t want someone to raise their kids wasn’t really cut out to advance in a career. They believe they can’t manage others to do what they want and they have to do everything themselves for it to be effective. This mentality is effective early in careers, but management is selected from the group who can trust their team, lead, and delegate. Someone who believes their lack of presence means they aren’t doing something are too insecure to be a good manager. So perhaps their DIY skills and micromanaging approach are better applied managing a household.

We’ve focused our energy to hiring good help and putting our children in high quality centers. We’ve quickly made adjustments when things aren’t working and we trust the people/orgs we’ve vetted and hired until we have a reason not to.

I also think people who find either child rearing or maintaining employment the most challenging are the most likely to pick one or the other. Some people just don’t find it that hard to raise kids while working. It can certainly be hard at times, but from what I’ve observed there are certain types of people who are incredibly challenged and some aren’t challenged at all. And many people along the spectrum in between.

I'm sorry, but this is ridiculous.

I'm a WAHM, but I travel a lot. DH is out of the house ~10-12h/day given commute. Even with kids in school (8 and 10 y.o.), we have a FT nanny who does a number of household tasks. I'm a good manager at work, and of my kids' nanny. Nonetheless, outsourcing aspects of childcare is not the same as managing employees. We've been lucky to have excellent and long-term nannies (only 3 in ~10 years). Still, when I'm with my kids I notice and do things that no one else will.

We still have the best situation for us, because I don't have the patience to care for kids FT and DH lacks the attention to detail that managing house and logistics require. But I know that sometimes, my kids really just need me to be the one doing whatever it is that is being done. No one will love and care for them in the same way as a parent...that should be obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting a laugh out of this “firsts” hissy fit.

My daughter took her first steps in my office where she was playing on the floor when I was working late on something. She then refused to do it again for weeks and weeks, home or childcare. Getting to see the firsts are a roll of the dice.

And again something I don’t see male parents told they should quit their jobs to witness…

Who told you to quit your job?

The “not missing out on milestones is priceless” poster comes to mind.

I imagine she’d put a price on it real quick if her husband told her he was quitting his job to not miss out on firsts.