My teen is unmotivated

[Anonymous]

Dd will be turning 16 in a month, she’s in 11th grade. She doesn’t want to do any extracurricular, doesnt want to take any AP classes, doesn’t want to join any orgs. If we ask her why, answer is : i dont want to. She doesn’t want to play any sports either but complains she wants to lose weight. We trued therapy and multiple tests , all came back normal. How do you motivate a teen to be more engaged or interested in things? If you ask her what she’s interested in: nothing. All she wants to do is: travel, shopping, tiktok. I put screentime on her phone recently to limit her time online.

[Anonymous]

If she’s good at TikTok can she just be an influencer?

[Anonymous]

She could just plan to marry a rich guy.

[Anonymous]

I have one super motivated kid and one who is like your daughter. I’m debating using the promise of travel to motivate my less-motivated child.

[Anonymous]

She is probably consuming tradwife content on tiktok where SAHMs tell young girls they are better off finding a rich man who will support them instead of the corporate grind or a career in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she’s good at TikTok can she just be an influencer?

She is shy and self conscious doesn’t post anything, just watches videos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one super motivated kid and one who is like your daughter. I’m debating using the promise of travel to motivate my less-motivated child.

We canceled a trip last year due to her not doing homework, bad grades etc. she was on top of it for a bit after that but that was very temporary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is probably consuming tradwife content on tiktok where SAHMs tell young girls they are better off finding a rich man who will support them instead of the corporate grind or a career in general.

Not even. She mostly watches a bunch of silly dance videos n asmr stuff

[Anonymous]

Get rid of the screens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of the screens.

We have screentime on. She still needs her phone to be able to communicate with us for safety reasons while she’s in school, on the bus etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of the screens.

We have screentime on. She still needs her phone to be able to communicate with us for safety reasons while she’s in school, on the bus etc

She doesn’t need it for TikTok though she’s not mature enough. Get her a flip phone.

[Anonymous]

Does she have friends? If so, does she socialize with them in person.
I didn't take any AP classes in high school either, and still wound up going to a good college and becoming an attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dd will be turning 16 in a month, she’s in 11th grade. She doesn’t want to do any extracurricular, doesnt want to take any AP classes, doesn’t want to join any orgs. If we ask her why, answer is : i dont want to. She doesn’t want to play any sports either but complains she wants to lose weight. We trued therapy and multiple tests , all came back normal. How do you motivate a teen to be more engaged or interested in things? If you ask her what she’s interested in: nothing. All she wants to do is: travel, shopping, tiktok. I put screentime on her phone recently to limit her time online.

And who is funding those ? Stop paying for travel and shopping if she doesn’t get her act together!
She can also get a job and pay for all this but you definitely should stop giving her what she wants if she’s not performing at the level she should be , both academically and in her extracurriculars.

[Anonymous]

She needs a job

It doesn’t matter what the job is baby sitting dog walking fast food

Stop paying for things
No she dies not need the phone for safety she can have a phone without paces to TikTok

This is your fault why is she shopping?

Traveling WTH ? No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she have friends? If so, does she socialize with them in person.
I didn't take any AP classes in high school either, and still wound up going to a good college and becoming an attorney.

Yea she has friends, they hang out, do sleepovers, go out to eat or coffee shop etc