If you have duds for kids, is it a reversion back to family history or an outlier?

[Anonymous]

If your children turned out to be duds or on the path towards that, is it just reverting back to your family history or are they an outlier/step down?

[Anonymous]

I think it means they have at least one troll parent.

[Anonymous]

WTF is a "dud" child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it means they have at least one troll parent.

Or just a bad psrent

[Anonymous]

My kids are dudes from a long line of dudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?

Failure to launch

[Anonymous]

Usually it's because they have undiagnosed issues that didn't get treatment in childhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?

This. Really, OP?

[Anonymous]

This is phrased so unkindly. There’s nothing wrong with a simple life.

However, it’s either/or. The biggest lie in parenting is that the right parenting guarantees some sort of outcome. There are lots of countervailing forces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF is a "dud" child?

Failure to launch

My kid has some disabilities that require a longer runway to launch. That doesn't make her a "dud."

[Anonymous]

Calling your kid a dud makes you the dud

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are dudes from a long line of dudes.

May they abide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your children turned out to be duds or on the path towards that, is it just reverting back to your family history or are they an outlier/step down?

Check with your parents, I guess. They’d know.

[Anonymous]

I have a brother in prison, but I wouldn’t call him a dud. His birth parents were substance abusers and he was born addicted. He qualified for a lot services from birth, but many weren’t well done and there was a significant amount of household instability undermining everything. I was out of the house by then with a child of my own so I wasn’t involved in a way that might have made a difference.

I would say he’s the outlier though because all five other kids are law abiding as are his two bio siblings on either side of his birth. He is just brain damaged enough to lack impulse control but not enough to legally not be accountable. He likes prison because it is highly structured and he has limited choices.

Only two other relatives have ever been in trouble with the law and one of those was arrested for a Civil Rights Era sit in.

[Anonymous]

I have four, and two have dud-like tendencies streaming from their dad's side. Dud behavior is typically genetic.