People love saying they’re inclusive of neurodiversity and disability. They’re not.

[Anonymous]

I’m putting this in the relationship forum and not the Kids with Special Needs forum because you need to hear this. Most parents on the other forum already know the following to be the case.

I’m absolutely sick of people in this area, that vote left and love to talk about the benefits of D&I, say that they’re inclusive of neurodivergent individuals. They’re not. They and their children can’t handle literally anything that’s different. There’s invitations for playdates. No reciprocated family invites. Nothing.

You’re free to not invite my child and me on your outings. But really, don’t tow the D&I line and while you’re at it, may as well vote for conservatives and try to save some of your tax dollars. Because everything you think you believe and stand for is just value signaling.

[Anonymous]

I will vote for politicians who push for money for special ed in all forms. Because I believe that's important. At the same time, I know my limits, and I can't handle kids really deep into the autistic spectrum, I can't change the diaper of a non-baby that's not mine, and I can't handle tantrums and non-verbal kids at a party of 25 kids. Everyone has a bandwidth.

[Anonymous]

It’s taken you this long to learn that most leftists are hypocrites?

[Anonymous]

Somewhere between voting conservative and inviting every kid in the class over has to be a place for someone who doesn’t want to dismantle the government and also can’t host 26 kids per year per child.

[Anonymous]

It’s DEI.

I think you need to work this out with a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s DEI.

I think you need to work this out with a therapist.

The E stands for equity and it’s more a function of making sure there’s equal pay in the workplace. Not really the point the post is trying to make which is children being included.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will vote for politicians who push for money for special ed in all forms. Because I believe that's important. At the same time, I know my limits, and I can't handle kids really deep into the autistic spectrum, I can't change the diaper of a non-baby that's not mine, and I can't handle tantrums and non-verbal kids at a party of 25 kids. Everyone has a bandwidth.

If that birthday party meltdown makes you uncomfortable for all of 15 minutes of your day, imagine how the family must feel day in and day out. Please get some perspective. These are human beings who just want to be included and have some sense of normalcy in their lives. Nobody is asking you to change an elementary aged child’s diaper. We’re asking for a few ounces of grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s taken you this long to learn that most leftists are hypocrites?

I guess it did. Because we are pretty far left and felt that inclusion was important even before having children. Yes, it’s eye opening to see what we’re seeing. I thought it would be different. I was wrong.

[Anonymous]

What is a "reciprocated family invite?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m putting this in the relationship forum and not the Kids with Special Needs forum because you need to hear this. Most parents on the other forum already know the following to be the case.

I’m absolutely sick of people in this area, that vote left and love to talk about the benefits of D&I, say that they’re inclusive of neurodivergent individuals. They’re not. They and their children can’t handle literally anything that’s different. There’s invitations for playdates. No reciprocated family invites. Nothing.

You’re free to not invite my child and me on your outings. But really, don’t tow the D&I line and while you’re at it, may as well vote for conservatives and try to save some of your tax dollars. Because everything you think you believe and stand for is just value signaling.

Ok, you clearly know the truth about people's nature. Are you on a one woman crusade to change people? If so, it's a losing battle. People will always be hypocrites. That's precisely why I gave up organized religion. The ideas in the religions are wonderful, the people who talk about it, not so much. Same thing you are noticing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will vote for politicians who push for money for special ed in all forms. Because I believe that's important. At the same time, I know my limits, and I can't handle kids really deep into the autistic spectrum, I can't change the diaper of a non-baby that's not mine, and I can't handle tantrums and non-verbal kids at a party of 25 kids. Everyone has a bandwidth.

+1
Also, I advocate for these kids politically but can barely handle my own. Are you expecting people to be super human?

[Anonymous]

I stopped including the autistic kid down the street after he slammed my kid’s head into the cinder block wall at school and on a separate occasion choked my other smaller child. No more play dates, no more invites. Not worth it. Not sure why your kid is being left out, but there might be a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s taken you this long to learn that most leftists are hypocrites?

I guess it did. Because we are pretty far left and felt that inclusion was important even before having children. Yes, it’s eye opening to see what we’re seeing. I thought it would be different. I was wrong.

You were an idealistic fool. Maturity comes for us all, one way or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will vote for politicians who push for money for special ed in all forms. Because I believe that's important. At the same time, I know my limits, and I can't handle kids really deep into the autistic spectrum, I can't change the diaper of a non-baby that's not mine, and I can't handle tantrums and non-verbal kids at a party of 25 kids. Everyone has a bandwidth.

If that birthday party meltdown makes you uncomfortable for all of 15 minutes of your day, imagine how the family must feel day in and day out. Please get some perspective. These are human beings who just want to be included and have some sense of normalcy in their lives. Nobody is asking you to change an elementary aged child’s diaper. We’re asking for a few ounces of grace.

You do realize the world doesn't revolve around you and your children. Other people have their own stuff to deal with. Perhaps your baggage is too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stopped including the autistic kid down the street after he slammed my kid’s head into the cinder block wall at school and on a separate occasion choked my other smaller child. No more play dates, no more invites. Not worth it. Not sure why your kid is being left out, but there might be a reason.

+1
I work with some autistic colleagues (science) and I usually stop inviting them to join us socially after the 3rd major insult to me or someone else publicly