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How do you handle inconsequent/irresponsible guests? (long)
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And yes, I need to vent so if you're not going to be supportive please go away.
This weekend we had guests - DH's best friend from college (we see each other 3x a year). It was their "meet the baby" trip (DC is 8 weeks old). They've just started TTC. They called ahead saying the wife had a cold and they just wanted to "drop by" to see the baby and we would meet outside of the house for dinner to minimize contact with the baby. I thought "Awesome! I won't have to cook or clean. Just make sure the main level of the house is OK and we're good". Oh man, I was wrong... They arrived at 10PM! I was doing the first "through the night feeding" and she ran to the baby with her "outside hands". I just looked at DH with my evil look and he jumped in front of her showing her the powder room and inviting her to wash her hands. She took the baby from me and didn't give it back until MIDNIGHT (!!!) even after having me begging to have the child back. I had my emotions under control the whole time but I was so annoyed. As I walk to the room to put the baby down DH comes to me asking if it's OK if they spend the night over. I get the WTF look into my face and he tells me they couldn't get a room because of some problems with their hotel points or whatever. I wanted to scream! I didn't clean the basement, I was not ready for overnight guests... but they stayed anyway... DH helped them to get settled and I went to sleep. Baby slept well until someone knocks on my bedroom door at freaking 6AM next morning asking to see the baby!!!! WTF (:shock  She came into the room and snatched my baby from my very own bed! The poor thing was still asleep I was so mad! (I feel like screaming just thinking about it) but once again I held up my posture and didn't say anything.
DC is the happiest thing I've seen and won't cry unless something is really wrong, smiles come easy so they had DC until the poor thing started screaming in hunger. DH ran to the kitchen to prepare the bottle and what was my surprise when this woman asks to feed my baby! I gave the evil look again but it didn't work. DH gave her the bottle and the germy lady feed my little one. She was talking on his face while he was having the bottle and I don't recall seeing her washing her hands/face and what was my surprise when she suddenly KISSED THE BABY! AAAAAAAARGH!!! I wanted to scream right there! I couldn't hold myself anymore and I ask DH to get the baby saying he needs a burp. DH looks at me and says "I don't think so, DC looks happy eating" I stood up and grabbed the kid saying "excuse me let me try really quick" and sat the kiddo on my lap for the burp that came right away. Every single chance I had I would pick up the child and run inside to wipe him off just to have this woman coming back to ask me to hold him and kiss him. FF a bit and they start asking what the plans for BF were. I told them I was not expecting them overnight so we should all get ready and have breakfast outside. We got ready and as we're walking down to the garage she asks if she can ride in the back of our car with the baby. Deep inside I'm like "this is getting psycho" and DH says "Oh not a problem come on in with the back door wide open for her..." We went for brunch and she offered to hold the baby so I could eat. I thanked her for the offer but I would rather feed the baby first (yes I nursed in public). As soon as I put the almost asleep baby on the stroller she grabbed him. I was getting madder by the second. Did I mention that DC loves the paci but this woman is "against pacifier use" and kept removing it. The baby was restless, annoyed, upset, begging for the paci and she would take it out "to see his pretty face MUAAAAAAAAH" GOD SAVE ME I was screaming inside. We head back home and they come along... FF to the end of the day and I'm about to kick this woman out of my home when finally I get a call from a friend saying her brother passed away and we can finally get rid of this woman to go see my friend. Now the weird weekend is over, DH is gone in a 15 day long business trip and I'm left home alone with a 8 week old baby with his first cold. *sigh* If you made till the end I can't imagine how bored you must be, LOL but now, looking at the clock I just realized it took me over 3 hours to write this post, stopping every few lines to feed, console, rock, entertain the poor coughing kiddo. Can't wait for this bug to go away! |
Anonymous
| Is this a real post? I'm sorry, but you sound cuckoo. |
Anonymous
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"Is this a real post? I'm sorry, but you sound cuckoo. "
OP needs to carm down, but her DH is a real jackass. |
Anonymous
| Yes this seriously sounds fake. I have a suspicion that this was written by the woman who is foreign, who used to be a nanny, and doesn't use paragraph spaces when she writes. It just reeks of her writing style. I forgot which post she was called out on a couple of weeks ago, but she is B-A-N-A-N-A-S. |
Anonymous
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"And yes, I need to vent so if you're not going to be supportive please go away. "
It's the Net, hon. |
Anonymous
| PP 13:18 here. Plus, how is some inconsequent and is that even a word? |
Anonymous
| Is English your first language? |
Anonymous
| Is this really a real post?? I can understand being afraid to seem overprotective to grandparents who want to spend every minute with a new baby, but I cannot imagine allowing a friend to barge into my bedroom at 6 am to help themselves to my two month old baby, nor can I imagine my husband offering guests the chance to feed our newborn. If this is real, OP, then you've got to develop a backbone for your child - if you don't want someone holding or touching your baby, you need to speak up, not fume for days while hosting unwelcome guests. |
Anonymous
| Hmmm...so you are nursing in public on the one hand but your DH is making a bottle for a morning feeding on the other hand. Something doesn't ring true here. |
Anonymous
| 13:18 here, I am an a-hole. Inconsequent is a word. Only heard inconsequential, though. Still, the usage doesn't seem to be correct. It is a noun and not an adjective so it cannot be used as a descriptor, which the OP did. |
Anonymous
| most mothers don't call their baby "it". |
Anonymous
| I don't typically feel this way on this forum, but this thread should be deleted. The poster is obviously delusional. |
Anonymous
Seriously! Is the child a him or a her?!? |
Anonymous
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This post doesn't sound fake to me. She is just an over tired Mom with incredibly inconsiderate house guests.
You know who else had inconsiderate house guests? That's right. Hitler. Just marched them outside in their lederhosen, told them to have a seat on his veranda. They pleaded. They said they were sorry they drank the last of the milk and left their beds unmade. And he shot them in the back of the head anyway. 
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Anonymous
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I'm the OP. English is not my first language and I don't know why this is an issue here. You get what I mean anyway so why nitpick on my grammar or spelling?
Anyway, I'm a FTM and I've read so many times that FTMs are overprotective and that germs are good and blah blah blah I didn't want to be the germophobe mom who doesn't allow people to touch the baby and stuff so I thought the right thing to do was just to suck it up. WWYD? I BF and we supplement so that's why the baby gets a bottle once in a while. Will you also flame me for feeding the baby formula? Why am I crazy or delusional? I bet you all would call me cuckoo if I was the mother who doesn't allow anybody to touch her baby... |