DH wants me to be a "hotwife"

[Anonymous]

For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids? If not, please don’t have kids.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. We flew to where sex work is legal and hired a professional to help us act out this fantasy.
It was fun and something that we talk about all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

There is a 50% chance, you'll have fun but 99.99% chance this is going to kill your marriage.

[Anonymous]

It's objectifying the other person you are sleeping with. They may not want every detail of their encounter with you shared with a 3rd party.

If the other person is aware and consenting, *shrug* it's between consenting adults

[Anonymous]

Was he a pimp in a previous life?

[Anonymous]

or wants to be one in this life?

[Anonymous]

Sounds amazing.

[Anonymous]

Ah the old stag vixen thing. If you both consent give it a try!

[Anonymous]

Is he bi? This would be a hard no for me, because, one man is more than enough. Seems like it could cause lots of drama.

[Anonymous]

I mean, do you WANT to have sex with other people?

That's pretty crucial. If everyone involved is enthusiastically consenting, sure whatever, it's your life. But you shouldn't feel pressured to have sex with someone you don't want to sleep with in order to please your spouse. That's not okay.

[Anonymous]

Just don't forget that people who play dangerous games, they win dangerous prizes.

[Anonymous]

Whether you do it is up to you but do not target married men please. I have seen that happen and be part of the fantasy. Remember you may be causing harm and pain to another woman and family if you do that. Be honest and ethical if you do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and no. We flew to where sex work is legal and hired a professional to help us act out this fantasy.
It was fun and something that we talk about all of the time.

How did this go down? Did it strain your marriage at all?

[Anonymous]

He watches too much porn and it’s ruined his brain.

He should stop watching porn and this weird impulse should diminish.