DH wants me to be a "hotwife"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, do you WANT to have sex with other people?

That's pretty crucial. If everyone involved is enthusiastically consenting, sure whatever, it's your life. But you shouldn't feel pressured to have sex with someone you don't want to sleep with in order to please your spouse. That's not okay.

This is a more enlightened view. And not typical for Americans.

In Europe, we generally decriminalize socalled prostitution (we have the health safeguards). So this is not uncommon.

What adult people choose to do, legally, is a private matter. I don’t view this as wrong or right.

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Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

How do you feel about the fact that he consumes a lot of porn with these theme? Because he does.

He’s a wannabe cuck. How pitiful.

Why would you assume that? People have all sorts of kinks and they're not all derived from weird porn addictions.

It’s absolutely from porn. Likely started from a very young age.

You're saying all kinks come from porn? I disagree.

All? No. Most? Yes. Like by a young boy watching adult content that f***ed with his brain. Feel free to do a modicum of research. You don’t just stumble upon fireplay or shibari on the street.

[Anonymous]

My ex had this fantasy. Turns out it just scratched the surface of the stuff he was into. He absolutely had a porn addiction that tanked our life together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and no. We flew to where sex work is legal and hired a professional to help us act out this fantasy.
It was fun and something that we talk about all of the time.

gross

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Anonymous wrote:Perfect. Have some solo nights away and make up some stories to tell him. Win win.

lol this is pretty funny

Sounds ideal. Send yourself to a nice spa, get an awesome massage and brush up your fiction writing skills.

Wish I had thought of this!

Brilliant!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes the wires get crossed, this hot life stuff is usually rooted in an early humiliation that short-circuited with a sexual thrill, he could’ve caught his girlfriend having sex with someone else, he could’ve become aroused watching his prom date dance with his rival, who knows, weird stuff happens But this is probably from porn.


Porn is odd in that what worked once won’t work again, so if you were satisfied on page one of porn hub fast-forward 15 years and you are in the way back typing in all sorts of stuff looking for what works, the scenarios get more and more extreme and before you know it You are cranking it out to something way out of character for you. Competition, humiliation, feelings of inadequacy with unit size, along with the intense emotional attachment he has to his wife is the thing that does it for him now but it won’t last long, it’ll be something else eventually.

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Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

How do you feel about the fact that he consumes a lot of porn with these theme? Because he does.

He’s a wannabe cuck. How pitiful.

Why would you assume that? People have all sorts of kinks and they're not all derived from weird porn addictions.

It’s absolutely from porn. Likely started from a very young age.

You're saying all kinks come from porn? I disagree.

All? No. Most? Yes. Like by a young boy watching adult content that f***ed with his brain. Feel free to do a modicum of research. You don’t just stumble upon fireplay or shibari on the street.

Ehh, you're looking at the weird s***. I'm talking about a blond fetish, a pregnant fetish, a knee socks fetish.
What's your kink and where did it come from?

[Anonymous]

Howife/stag-vixen is different than cuckolding. Cuckolding includes an element of humiliation. I don’t really like the term “hotwife,” because it can be either sex and you don’t need to be married. It’s just finding it hot to think about or see your partner with someone else. It’s kind of like watching or thinking about watching your own personal porn. There isn’t any humiliation aspect to it. You can think it’s gross. That’s fine. But it’s just not the same thing. I’ve watched and been watched, and I’m a woman. I preferred watching. It was hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes the wires get crossed, this hot life stuff is usually rooted in an early humiliation that short-circuited with a sexual thrill, he could’ve caught his girlfriend having sex with someone else, he could’ve become aroused watching his prom date dance with his rival, who knows, weird stuff happens But this is probably from porn.


Porn is odd in that what worked once won’t work again, so if you were satisfied on page one of porn hub fast-forward 15 years and you are in the way back typing in all sorts of stuff looking for what works, the scenarios get more and more extreme and before you know it You are cranking it out to something way out of character for you. Competition, humiliation, feelings of inadequacy with unit size, along with the intense emotional attachment he has to his wife is the thing that does it for him now but it won’t last long, it’ll be something else eventually.

More likely the former than the latter, tbh. It’s kind of an embarrassing fetish to end up stuck with, sort of the gift that keeps on giving. lol

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Perverted and depraved.

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Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

How do you feel about the fact that he consumes a lot of porn with these theme? Because he does.

He’s a wannabe cuck. How pitiful.

Why would you assume that? People have all sorts of kinks and they're not all derived from weird porn addictions.

NP.

Kink existed millennia prior to the invention of the photograph or video.

There are a few people here on DCUM who simplistically try to blame any/everything on male porn addiction. Ignore them.

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Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

How do you feel about the fact that he consumes a lot of porn with these theme? Because he does.

He’s a wannabe cuck. How pitiful.

Why would you assume that? People have all sorts of kinks and they're not all derived from weird porn addictions.

It’s absolutely from porn. Likely started from a very young age.

You're saying all kinks come from porn? I disagree.

All? No. Most? Yes. Like by a young boy watching adult content that f***ed with his brain. Feel free to do a modicum of research. You don’t just stumble upon fireplay or shibari on the street.

Ehh, you're looking at the weird s***. I'm talking about a blond fetish, a pregnant fetish, a knee socks fetish.
What's your kink and where did it come from?

Um, you seriously believe a man who is turned on by knee-socks, blond women, or his wife when she was pregnant, is into “weird s*** “ ???

I’m not sure what to say to that.

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Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

How do you feel about the fact that he consumes a lot of porn with these theme? Because he does.

He’s a wannabe cuck. How pitiful.

Why would you assume that? People have all sorts of kinks and they're not all derived from weird porn addictions.

It’s absolutely from porn. Likely started from a very young age.

You're saying all kinks come from porn? I disagree.

All? No. Most? Yes. Like by a young boy watching adult content that f***ed with his brain. Feel free to do a modicum of research. You don’t just stumble upon fireplay or shibari on the street.

Ehh, you're looking at the weird s***. I'm talking about a blond fetish, a pregnant fetish, a knee socks fetish.
What's your kink and where did it come from?

Um, you seriously believe a man who is turned on by knee-socks, blond women, or his wife when she was pregnant, is into “weird s*** “ ???

I’m not sure what to say to that.

Pay attention to what I wrote...I said blonds, knee socks, pregnant is NOT weird s***. And it doesn't come from porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hiring a sex worker is insane. Talk about begging for STDs.

I was just gonna scroll on by this thread, but this needs to be called out. Sex workers, especially those in places where sex work is legal, get routine testing and regular medical care. They're also trained in how to handle consent, and are far less likely to lead to the real consequence of this sort of dynamic, which is to say DRAMA.

So no, hiring a sex worker to indulge in a fantasy isn't "insane", nor is it "begging for STDs".

Also, it's STIs: Sexually Transmitted Infections. Learn something, live your best life.

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Anonymous wrote:For those who don't know, a hotwife is a married woman who has an open relationship with the full consent of her husband while he stays monogamous. We had a few drinks on Saturday and he confessed to me that this was his fetish. He said it would be a huge turn on to know I was out on dates and then hear the stories.

I was a little shocked and didn't know what to think. I've never even thought of something like this, but now that I've slept on it a few days I'm wondering if it might be fun to experiment.

Has anyone gone done this path?

How do you feel about the fact that he consumes a lot of porn with these theme? Because he does.

He’s a wannabe cuck. How pitiful.

Why would you assume that? People have all sorts of kinks and they're not all derived from weird porn addictions.

It’s absolutely from porn. Likely started from a very young age.

You're saying all kinks come from porn? I disagree.

No, but like most of internet culture, internet porn has distinct nomenclature. "hotwife" isn't a standard kink, it's a prawn category. The accusation has merit, as does the allegation that husband has been at it for a while, as "hotwife" isn't exactly standard prawn fare.