If you live close to the in-laws, what does your mother's day look like?

[Anonymous]

I’m firmly of the belief that on Mothers and Father’s Day those actively parenting kids should be prioritized.

I give my parents a call and send flowers but I was raised with parents who helped the kids make breakfast in bed, buy flowers, etc for their spouse rather than the expectation that we would be going over to grandparents’ houses.

Even as a mom of elementary kids, I give extra kudos to the moms in the baby/toddler years when it is most difficult to get time, peace, and rest.

If, in your DHs family, tradition was always to round up the family and visit grandparents and it’s not something he wants to shake up now, I’d have him take the kids as planned and do something nice for myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do find this very petty. Grown ass women getting all worked up over a made up holiday to sell cards and flowers. Who cares?

I think it’s petty too. If you want a Mother’s Day for yourself then schedule it for the next Sunday. There’s not even a set date for Mother’s Day, make your own personal date and give your MIL the real one.

Following that logic, why is the mil getting the actual day? Is she petty if she demands it or not?

I think the PP was being sarcastic

[Anonymous]

The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m firmly of the belief that on Mothers and Father’s Day those actively parenting kids should be prioritized.

I give my parents a call and send flowers but I was raised with parents who helped the kids make breakfast in bed, buy flowers, etc for their spouse rather than the expectation that we would be going over to grandparents’ houses.

Even as a mom of elementary kids, I give extra kudos to the moms in the baby/toddler years when it is most difficult to get time, peace, and rest.

If, in your DHs family, tradition was always to round up the family and visit grandparents and it’s not something he wants to shake up now, I’d have him take the kids as planned and do something nice for myself.

No.
Stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m firmly of the belief that on Mothers and Father’s Day those actively parenting kids should be prioritized.

I give my parents a call and send flowers but I was raised with parents who helped the kids make breakfast in bed, buy flowers, etc for their spouse rather than the expectation that we would be going over to grandparents’ houses.

Even as a mom of elementary kids, I give extra kudos to the moms in the baby/toddler years when it is most difficult to get time, peace, and rest.

If, in your DHs family, tradition was always to round up the family and visit grandparents and it’s not something he wants to shake up now, I’d have him take the kids as planned and do something nice for myself.

That is your personal opinion. There are others who feel like motherhood isn’t ranked by the ages of your kids.

[Anonymous]

When posters have angst about Mother's Day and become competitive with their MIL, mom, SIL, sister, aunt, cousin, grandma... it only tells me that their marriage and family life is complete shitshow.

If they don't get angry about Mother's Day, then they will have to face the fact that their marriage and life is horrible. And they chose it.

It is easier to be disappointed on Mother's Day then to face that they are disappointed with their entire life and life choices. They can throw a fit for a disappointing MD and maybe get some sympathy here. If they fess up that their marriage and life is disappointing, we all will advise them to dump that loser husband/family. And they are not in a position to do so.

Can I laugh now? I have given the empathy and straight talk already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When posters have angst about Mother's Day and become competitive with their MIL, mom, SIL, sister, aunt, cousin, grandma... it only tells me that their marriage and family life is complete shitshow.

If they don't get angry about Mother's Day, then they will have to face the fact that their marriage and life is horrible. And they chose it.

It is easier to be disappointed on Mother's Day then to face that they are disappointed with their entire life and life choices. They can throw a fit for a disappointing MD and maybe get some sympathy here. If they fess up that their marriage and life is disappointing, we all will advise them to dump that loser husband/family. And they are not in a position to do so.

Can I laugh now? I have given the empathy and straight talk already.

Nonsense. The old women are shit-show with their demands and expectations. Nobody normal would want a young mom with little kids to travel to you to pay homage. It shows that those old women have literally nothing going on in their lives. Then if it's not done, they throw a fit that they should be paid respect to. Find something else to do in your old years than demand attention like a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m firmly of the belief that on Mothers and Father’s Day those actively parenting kids should be prioritized.

I give my parents a call and send flowers but I was raised with parents who helped the kids make breakfast in bed, buy flowers, etc for their spouse rather than the expectation that we would be going over to grandparents’ houses.

Even as a mom of elementary kids, I give extra kudos to the moms in the baby/toddler years when it is most difficult to get time, peace, and rest.

If, in your DHs family, tradition was always to round up the family and visit grandparents and it’s not something he wants to shake up now, I’d have him take the kids as planned and do something nice for myself.

That is your personal opinion. There are others who feel like motherhood isn’t ranked by the ages of your kids.

Of course it's ranked! Raising infants is different than raising toddlers, elementary schoolers or middle schoolers or high schoolers! To top it off, if your kids are already adults, they are not kids, they're ADULTS. Meaning, you're not mothering anyone! Maybe you have nothing else to get attention with. What else have you accomplished in your life except having kids decades ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

When the old women start getting called grandmothers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

Then why are my mom and MIL demanding visits, but not visiting their own mothers?

And if that's the case, when would anyone ever celebrate the younger moms? They have to be 70 to start getting celebrated?

I'm sorry but once my kids have children of their own, I don't want to be the center of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When posters have angst about Mother's Day and become competitive with their MIL, mom, SIL, sister, aunt, cousin, grandma... it only tells me that their marriage and family life is complete shitshow.

If they don't get angry about Mother's Day, then they will have to face the fact that their marriage and life is horrible. And they chose it.

It is easier to be disappointed on Mother's Day then to face that they are disappointed with their entire life and life choices. They can throw a fit for a disappointing MD and maybe get some sympathy here. If they fess up that their marriage and life is disappointing, we all will advise them to dump that loser husband/family. And they are not in a position to do so.

Can I laugh now? I have given the empathy and straight talk already.

Nonsense. The old women are shit-show with their demands and expectations. Nobody normal would want a young mom with little kids to travel to you to pay homage. It shows that those old women have literally nothing going on in their lives. Then if it's not done, they throw a fit that they should be paid respect to. Find something else to do in your old years than demand attention like a toddler.

Your marriage and life sucks. And you are stuck. Nothing to do with young and old moms. You are married to a loser but you are too poor to leave the marriage. Stuck with your snotty kids and your disorganized house and no village. You also want everyone else to suffer with you. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

This is not Mothering Day, it is Mother's Day. .

However, I see you and I hear you. How about we make it into Breast-Feeding Mother's Day. Only celebrate moms who are breastfeeding their kids? Active mothering and active nursing?

Otherwise, include your Nanny and Daycare workers in the Mothering Day!! Because y'all are not taking care of your brats - someone else is.

Effing lunatic!!