DS refusing to miss a class to play with school band (as required)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read all of the replies. He could see if the teacher would be willing to videotape the lesson so he could watch it later and not miss anything. Setting up video would not be too much work for the teacher.

You’re joking, right?

No, I’m not joking. All the teacher has to do is prop up an iPad or cellphone. I’m a teacher and every teacher in our building was required to videotape a lesson twice in the last couple weeks and it took me about one minute to angle the iPad and press record. NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It should be brought to the Principal's attention. This is a problem. Not presented as a complaint against either teacher, but this is a problem. The Principal needs to know.

The principal likely does, and has signed off. This is not some sort of unusual situation.

[Anonymous]

DC 8th grader has to miss classes sometimes entire school day for school orchestra events, then make up by watching videos etc and complete missed classwork. School says students are responsible for missed work even its school event. It’s not allowed to miss school orchestra events since it’s graded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It should be brought to the Principal's attention. This is a problem. Not presented as a complaint against either teacher, but this is a problem. The Principal needs to know.

The principal likely does, and has signed off. This is not some sort of unusual situation.

+1. The absence is excused and the work is made up. Happens all the time. Should not create any issues, especially for good students.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be very proud if my child opted for class instead of band.
Education comes first.

So, you are saying that you don't learn anything by playing an instrument? Ok. Sure.

https://creyos.com/blog/how-playing-an-instrument-benefits-your-brain

You can learn by playing an instrument but still learn more in any particular hour by going to a class than playing in a particular concert.

Really, tell me where that is published?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks all. I will encourage my son to tell the band teacher that he has to miss the concert. This is not one of the major concerts and my son does not have a solo or anything. The band has had to perform without him before for other extenuating circumstances that are not worth getting into here and no one will be able to tell that he is missing. My son will be at the important events that were highlighted in the contract my son had to sign to join the band. My son is well rounded but I do not see a reason to push him to miss an important class for a concert. The band is not counting on him - they will be fine without him. And if all the students made the same choice as my son, then maybe the band teachers would have to adjust and that would not be a bad thing IMHO. That said, if my son wanted to go to the band performance and miss class, I would support that too.

I posted before, and while I can't change your mind, I'm disappointed as a former band member that this is the choice that your son made. Look, you are justifying to yourself and your son that his decisions is fine. Oh, he doesn't have a solo, the band isn't counting on him, it's not that big of a concert. And saying that if all the students made the same choice as your son maybe the band teacher would adjust - yeah maybe not. Maybe it's out of their control - maybe the admin said the concert will be during block 3 and that's that.

Again, the spot that your son was in is not an easy one, but he is thinking about himself (missing 1 class) over others (the entire band) that he decided to join and be a part of. Not why this one is bugging me so much. Maybe just stick to AYSO in the future.

He can't. It's a condition of being in AYPO orchestras that you have to be in school orchestra/band. And they do in fact, check.

Then participate fully in the band.

[Anonymous]

Or don't. The student will decide their priorities.

[Anonymous]

Imagine kids sick and can’t go to school and miss the “life or death” class, or miss the “one class that will decide your path to the Ivy”.
This is not about which one more important. Please honor the class he signed up for include the consequences.
The mid day concert is graded, and it will counted as his overall GPA, and I believe the timing for the concert is not something that the band leader has a say.
Lesson learned don’t signup for band next time. Give up the AYPO.
Or.. work on it !
Asked if it is allow to be recorded, asked if he can attend the next class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be very proud if my child opted for class instead of band.
Education comes first.

Band IS education.

Mastering an instrument is not easier than any very hard class.

[Anonymous]

He's made his decision and I would go with it OP. Band is important but so is class and he prefers class.

[Anonymous]

OP, this was so dumb.

This was a required performance. It cannot be made up. The other kids in the band class attended and also had to miss a class.
This is par for the course if they are in band. Treating your son as “special” is not a good look.

So there was a conflict. DC can make up the work from the missed AP class. There is no way to make up the performance. It really is that simple.

Do better next time. Teens manage this stuff all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this was so dumb.

This was a required performance. It cannot be made up. The other kids in the band class attended and also had to miss a class.
This is par for the course if they are in band. Treating your son as “special” is not a good look.

So there was a conflict. DC can make up the work from the missed AP class. There is no way to make up the performance. It really is that simple.

Do better next time. Teens manage this stuff all the time.

+1

[Anonymous]

Sound reasoning. He's got a good head on his shoulders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sound reasoning. He's got a good head on his shoulders.

Not really.
This won’t be the last time there is a conflict between regular school classes and other classes and school sanctioned activities. Band concerts, science fair, social studies projects, and high school sports are just some of the conflicts with other classes that have come up over the years for my senior, and just like the other kids, my son made it work by planning ahead and communicating with his teachers.

OP’s kid is acting like a snowflake and she is enabling it. Her kid lost out on an important class activity and also the experience of learning how to plan and communicate with his teachers. This will come up again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sound reasoning. He's got a good head on his shoulders.

OP is this you? I notice for all the posts saying no don’t skip, there one who keeps saying your son is right. lol.