There are a lot of single women looking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For years, I have been called "selfish" on DCUM for being a single mom by choice. Maybe the pendulum is swinging? When I first became a single mom by choice some 15 years ago, it was a bit of a stigma. Now I know tons of fellow DC single moms by choice.

Yes, I'm effectively a parent to 2 lovely small children and 1 utterly lousy teenager I never asked for. I wish I had had the courage to say screw the stigma and be a single mom by choice.

PP here -- I was one of those who thought being a single mom by choice was selfish...until I realized too late through painful experience that most married moms are single moms by force.

How many men actually play a consistent and equal role in the socioemotional lives and moral shaping of their children, much less participate in each of the decisions and responsibilities necessary to raise their child?

They approach parenting as if they're a posh patron at a restaurant who should be handed a menu by a waitress a.k.a. their wife, and asked to select which task suits them at any given time, with selecting nothing at all being a viable option according to their whim. It's disgusting laziness and arrogance.

In the process, they end up being worse than no father at all because their presence corrodes the household. They corrupt the sons in the household into growing up into lazy, arrogant little tools like their fathers who expect to be applauded for rolling over. They send the indelible message to the daughters that men are a special class above women no matter what society claims. They run their wives emotionally and physically into the ground. And then they wait their applause for gaining to continue living in the household and not abandoning the family. An utter clown show.

The amount of cope among moms is epic. So many women who would consider their husbands the most worthless person they know if he were a woman will say stupid things like, "Oh, he's definitely hands on. He helps do laundry and takes the kids out." Implicit in that is a recognition that doing nothing at all is always an option for men, so when he does something, he's a rockstar. That's freaking ridiculous.

I will always regret that I was not a single mom by choice. I thought long and hard about it, but I didn't want my children and I to deal with the stigma. Now, I look over at this tiresome man living in the same house as me and I wish I could just wave a magic wand and make him disappear most days. At least then I wouldn't have to wrangle stupid issues like yes, you should empty the lint from the dryer and yes, if you have to leave chores to go handle a work assignment, then you have to return to the chores and finish them because you don't have a freaking slave here. Mind you, every mom I know would tell you that I have it good because their husbands are even more stupid.

I love your writing style (and the content), never use ChatGPT or AI.

PP here. It's a compliment to me and a reflection on your intelligence that you think my post was written by ChatGPT. Thanks for chiming in.

I think the person thought your post was written by yous, not by ai.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

Are men really out here measuring their penises or is this their unverified claim? Is 7" even a big deal? Of course they wanted a girlfriend to cook for them. That's one thing I'm making a point of never doing again for a man. Great way to weed out men who'll get even lazier once they're comfortable.

I never met a single man who didn't know the size of his P. It's like a woman not knowing her bra size.

A woman's bra size is essential to proper fitting of an article of clothing that is worn daily and significantly affects her professionalism and even her safety. How exactly is a man's penis length analogous to that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am (47) recently divorced and finally checked out the apps for the first time. I am interested in women 37 and older. I was very surprised by the huge number of single women in this age bracket. Of course, it doesn't mean I am who they are looking for and it's probably more likely than I am not. But I went through a lot of well put together profiles and I am just surprised all these women are single. Yes there are probably more women than men in this age group, but it's as if all of them are single.

If I were to lower my age range to 30, it's probably going to be a similar story. But 10 years age gap is the most I'll go for as I am looking beyond just hooking up.

So guys out there who are single and looking, you have choices.

Speaking as a fellow divorced guy, you're missing the reason why these women are single: Higher standards. Women don't see being single the way they did back when you were last on the market.

20 years ago, a woman single in her 30s and 40s would settle for some guy she wasn't particularly attracted to and knew she was going to end up divorcing. The goal was just to get a marriage under the belt because "divorced" at 40 was better than never married at 40.

Nowadays, women are happy to stay single the rest of their lives rather than settle. This is triply true for women who are divorced. A lot of them hated being married and living with a man, and need a really, really, really good offer to consider going back to it.

So, while there are a lot of single women on the market, your chances are probably worse nowadays than they were 20 years ago. The lady who is going to want to get serious and actually stay with you isn't going to be as hot, smart, or emotionally stable as the one who would've wanted you 20 years ago. The woman you think is ideal will break up with you after three to six months today, if she even shows up to date #2.

I'm not going to give my take on whether women's standards today make sense or if the problem is men or whatever. Just laying out the scene.

Might be true for some women, but not as widespread as you assert.

OP: Many men have an age limit beyond which they will not consider dating / not entering into a serious relationship.

You're arguing with the "Oh Honey" slut. Just ignore her. She is the most miserable woman on this site.

What makes her a slut? What a weird thing to call a woman you don't know.

[Anonymous]

You're arguing with the "Oh Honey" slut. Just ignore her. She is the most miserable woman on this site.

What makes her a slut? What a weird thing to call a woman you don't know.

NP - Read her b@t$h!t crazy posts, and it is easy to see why her title stands. Not only is she miserable, but she tries to make everyone else miserable.

[Anonymous]

If you guys are talking about the woman in her late 40s who dates very successful men but hasn't found someone worthy of an exclusive relationship, I think she sounds cool. I would date her. In fact, maybe I did date her! (She may have dumped me.) I don't think she's a "slut." There are a lot more single and sexually active women age 45 to 55 than most people on here realize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You're arguing with the "Oh Honey" slut. Just ignore her. She is the most miserable woman on this site.

What makes her a slut? What a weird thing to call a woman you don't know.

NP - Read her b@t$h!t crazy posts, and it is easy to see why her title stands. Not only is she miserable, but she tries to make everyone else miserable.

Do you think "slut" means "woman I don't like"? Holy misogyny..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always crack me up. They are in complete juxtaposition with reality. The vast majority of my gfs are in happy long term marriages. Maybe 10% have divorced. The single ones moan constantly about dying alone and being broke.

You move in different circles that these posters. The women on here make good income and have good careers.

The women I went to undergrad with make around 200K. The women I went to professional school with make 250+. No one will go broke in this circle, single or married.

My aunt who is a single mom by choice makes 150k and bought a townhouse in the exurbs for 400K, and she lives very well and has consistently saved for retirement. She is not going to be broke. One of her kids got a full scholarship to college, and the other will go to a state school for 12K a year.

The only person in my circle who risks going broke was a stay at home mom, and her DH found it difficult to recover from the 2008 financial crisis. They lost their house when he lost his job and have struggled to recover since then. If they divorce ( they are not planning to), she and her DH will struggle as they don't have much.

No I don't. My DH and I have more money than anyone on this board. I'm in Old Town Alexandria. These women were mostly SAHMs to men that make 5M +. The women were all highly educated but they either took charity board roles or dabbled in politics while the husbands funded their 1% lifestyles. They have beach houses, Range Rovers, summers in Spain, kids at expensive and worthless SLACs.

Broke is a concept with theses women, not a literal definition. They will need to downsize to a $600,000 TH in Annandale but they wont really ever have to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always crack me up. They are in complete juxtaposition with reality. The vast majority of my gfs are in happy long term marriages. Maybe 10% have divorced. The single ones moan constantly about dying alone and being broke.

You move in different circles that these posters. The women on here make good income and have good careers.

The women I went to undergrad with make around 200K. The women I went to professional school with make 250+. No one will go broke in this circle, single or married.

My aunt who is a single mom by choice makes 150k and bought a townhouse in the exurbs for 400K, and she lives very well and has consistently saved for retirement. She is not going to be broke. One of her kids got a full scholarship to college, and the other will go to a state school for 12K a year.

The only person in my circle who risks going broke was a stay at home mom, and her DH found it difficult to recover from the 2008 financial crisis. They lost their house when he lost his job and have struggled to recover since then. If they divorce ( they are not planning to), she and her DH will struggle as they don't have much.

No I don't. My DH and I have more money than anyone on this board. I'm in Old Town Alexandria. These women were mostly SAHMs to men that make 5M +. The women were all highly educated but they either took charity board roles or dabbled in politics while the husbands funded their 1% lifestyles. They have beach houses, Range Rovers, summers in Spain, kids at expensive and worthless SLACs.

Broke is a concept with theses women, not a literal definition. They will need to downsize to a $600,000 TH in Annandale but they wont really ever have to work.

Respectfully, no you do not sound like you do. None of this is that irregular or impressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

Are men really out here measuring their penises or is this their unverified claim? Is 7" even a big deal? Of course they wanted a girlfriend to cook for them. That's one thing I'm making a point of never doing again for a man. Great way to weed out men who'll get even lazier once they're comfortable.

I never met a single man who didn't know the size of his P. It's like a woman not knowing her bra size.

A woman's bra size is essential to proper fitting of an article of clothing that is worn daily and significantly affects her professionalism and even her safety. How exactly is a man's penis length analogous to that?

It should fit into women's V which is essential for mutual safety and satisfaction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always crack me up. They are in complete juxtaposition with reality. The vast majority of my gfs are in happy long term marriages. Maybe 10% have divorced. The single ones moan constantly about dying alone and being broke.

You move in different circles that these posters. The women on here make good income and have good careers.

The women I went to undergrad with make around 200K. The women I went to professional school with make 250+. No one will go broke in this circle, single or married.

My aunt who is a single mom by choice makes 150k and bought a townhouse in the exurbs for 400K, and she lives very well and has consistently saved for retirement. She is not going to be broke. One of her kids got a full scholarship to college, and the other will go to a state school for 12K a year.

The only person in my circle who risks going broke was a stay at home mom, and her DH found it difficult to recover from the 2008 financial crisis. They lost their house when he lost his job and have struggled to recover since then. If they divorce ( they are not planning to), she and her DH will struggle as they don't have much.

No I don't. My DH and I have more money than anyone on this board. I'm in Old Town Alexandria. These women were mostly SAHMs to men that make 5M +. The women were all highly educated but they either took charity board roles or dabbled in politics while the husbands funded their 1% lifestyles. They have beach houses, Range Rovers, summers in Spain, kids at expensive and worthless SLACs.

Broke is a concept with theses women, not a literal definition. They will need to downsize to a $600,000 TH in Annandale but they wont really ever have to work.

Respectfully, no you do not sound like you do. None of this is that irregular or impressive.

Uber wealthy people in dmv don't live in Old Town Alexandria. They live in Forest Hills, Cleveland Park. Georgetown, some of CC and Bethesda, and parts of McLean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always crack me up. They are in complete juxtaposition with reality. The vast majority of my gfs are in happy long term marriages. Maybe 10% have divorced. The single ones moan constantly about dying alone and being broke.

You move in different circles that these posters. The women on here make good income and have good careers.

The women I went to undergrad with make around 200K. The women I went to professional school with make 250+. No one will go broke in this circle, single or married.

My aunt who is a single mom by choice makes 150k and bought a townhouse in the exurbs for 400K, and she lives very well and has consistently saved for retirement. She is not going to be broke. One of her kids got a full scholarship to college, and the other will go to a state school for 12K a year.

The only person in my circle who risks going broke was a stay at home mom, and her DH found it difficult to recover from the 2008 financial crisis. They lost their house when he lost his job and have struggled to recover since then. If they divorce ( they are not planning to), she and her DH will struggle as they don't have much.

No I don't. My DH and I have more money than anyone on this board. I'm in Old Town Alexandria. These women were mostly SAHMs to men that make 5M +. The women were all highly educated but they either took charity board roles or dabbled in politics while the husbands funded their 1% lifestyles. They have beach houses, Range Rovers, summers in Spain, kids at expensive and worthless SLACs.

Broke is a concept with theses women, not a literal definition. They will need to downsize to a $600,000 TH in Annandale but they wont really ever have to work.

That makes sense. I thought you meant they were actually going to be broke. They are just a bunch of drama queens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is the classic hypergamy. Women do not care about men’s struggles. They wait at the finish line and pick the winner.

If you're a decent looking guy, make a lot of money, be kind to others, and have interesting hobbies such as car racing, play guitar, pickleball etc... you will have endless options with online dating. Congratulation, you are in the top 5%. It is like 95% of women chasing the top 5% men.

What's stopping you from improving your looks, working hard, fixing your stank personality, and developing interests beyond porn?

And why exactly should a random woman who's not your mom care about your struggles? You write that as if you've been wronged somehow.

💯

Women are dealing with their own struggles and desire to “cross the finish line.”

What a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tons a single Jewish women in their 30s and 40s

I’m not into them but that’s the majority of my matches on hinge

How do you know that they are single? I’m not Jewish but I’m a married (semi-separated) woman in my 40s on Hinge 😀
I’ve met several men in their 30s and 40s through Hinge who look good and have decent jobs but haven’t dated for a year or more. They say that there is a shortage of women who want to date - many of them ignore their invitations to meet even once.

Late 40s woman. I dated 4 so-called "high quality" men in spring-summer simultaneously. Every single of them had all formal attributes of high value: I would classify them 6-7-7-6. All of them were within 5-10 years of my age, in either direction. Two of them complained they were unable to find a woman who would commit. Anyone they were interested in wouldn't commit to date exclusively

I'm 5'7; 20 BMI ; 48 yo; high NW divorced F.

Did you end up with any of them or what happened?

Also, what's 6776?

6 pack, 7 P, 7 figures income, 6 height. They wanted a GF/cook for them, participate in social calendar, maintain joint household plan retirements together. Exclusive means each wanted me only to date them. Yes, I left all 4 as I didn't fall into any of them seriously. It's very easy for me to date whoever I want and meet men of similar parameters

Are men really out here measuring their penises or is this their unverified claim? Is 7" even a big deal? Of course they wanted a girlfriend to cook for them. That's one thing I'm making a point of never doing again for a man. Great way to weed out men who'll get even lazier once they're comfortable.

I never met a single man who didn't know the size of his P. It's like a woman not knowing her bra size.

A woman's bra size is essential to proper fitting of an article of clothing that is worn daily and significantly affects her professionalism and even her safety. How exactly is a man's penis length analogous to that?

It should fit into women's V which is essential for mutual safety and satisfaction

How many men are interested in a woman's pleasure, much less able to pleasure a woman with that unsightly piece of flesh between their legs? You must be kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always crack me up. They are in complete juxtaposition with reality. The vast majority of my gfs are in happy long term marriages. Maybe 10% have divorced. The single ones moan constantly about dying alone and being broke.

You move in different circles that these posters. The women on here make good income and have good careers.

The women I went to undergrad with make around 200K. The women I went to professional school with make 250+. No one will go broke in this circle, single or married.

My aunt who is a single mom by choice makes 150k and bought a townhouse in the exurbs for 400K, and she lives very well and has consistently saved for retirement. She is not going to be broke. One of her kids got a full scholarship to college, and the other will go to a state school for 12K a year.

The only person in my circle who risks going broke was a stay at home mom, and her DH found it difficult to recover from the 2008 financial crisis. They lost their house when he lost his job and have struggled to recover since then. If they divorce ( they are not planning to), she and her DH will struggle as they don't have much.

No I don't. My DH and I have more money than anyone on this board. I'm in Old Town Alexandria. These women were mostly SAHMs to men that make 5M +. The women were all highly educated but they either took charity board roles or dabbled in politics while the husbands funded their 1% lifestyles. They have beach houses, Range Rovers, summers in Spain, kids at expensive and worthless SLACs.

Broke is a concept with theses women, not a literal definition. They will need to downsize to a $600,000 TH in Annandale but they wont really ever have to work.

Respectfully, no you do not sound like you do. None of this is that irregular or impressive.

Uber wealthy people in dmv don't live in Old Town Alexandria. They live in Forest Hills, Cleveland Park. Georgetown, some of CC and Bethesda, and parts of McLean

You have no idea what you’re talking about. There is plenty of money in Old Town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am (47) recently divorced and finally checked out the apps for the first time. I am interested in women 37 and older. I was very surprised by the huge number of single women in this age bracket. Of course, it doesn't mean I am who they are looking for and it's probably more likely than I am not. But I went through a lot of well put together profiles and I am just surprised all these women are single. Yes there are probably more women than men in this age group, but it's as if all of them are single.

If I were to lower my age range to 30, it's probably going to be a similar story. But 10 years age gap is the most I'll go for as I am looking beyond just hooking up.

So guys out there who are single and looking, you have choices.

Speaking as a fellow divorced guy, you're missing the reason why these women are single: Higher standards. Women don't see being single the way they did back when you were last on the market.

20 years ago, a woman single in her 30s and 40s would settle for some guy she wasn't particularly attracted to and knew she was going to end up divorcing. The goal was just to get a marriage under the belt because "divorced" at 40 was better than never married at 40.

Nowadays, women are happy to stay single the rest of their lives rather than settle. This is triply true for women who are divorced. A lot of them hated being married and living with a man, and need a really, really, really good offer to consider going back to it.

So, while there are a lot of single women on the market, your chances are probably worse nowadays than they were 20 years ago. The lady who is going to want to get serious and actually stay with you isn't going to be as hot, smart, or emotionally stable as the one who would've wanted you 20 years ago. The woman you think is ideal will break up with you after three to six months today, if she even shows up to date #2.

I'm not going to give my take on whether women's standards today make sense or if the problem is men or whatever. Just laying out the scene.

OP here. Thanks for making excellent points. In fact I am talking to a woman who is 41 and I picked up many of the points that you made. At first I thought it's because I have been out of the market for 22 years, but then I realized the expectations are just not the same anymore. I don't have an opinion whether it's good or bad, but I am finding the journey interesting. This woman I'm taking to she is gorgeous. She has never been married, she has no kids, she owns her house and has a great career. I think she is talking to me just out of interest because she told me straight out that she wants to experience what my first wife experienced (all the milestones etc) and she rightfully said she won't be able to experience that with a divorced man.

Well jeez she’s 41. She’s going to miss all the milestones at this rate. This is why she’s single. She’s probably letting perfectly good men who meet her non negotiable criteria go because they don’t meet her unrealistic standards.

What’s the marriage joke? A woman gets into a department store full of husbands on the first floor and sees a sign that says “more husbands upstairs.” So she goes to the second floor and says, these look okay but what’s on the next floor? So she takes the elevator up one more level and is surprised to find nothing there.