Dolling yourself up for husband

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.

LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

Shouldn't all women feel beautiful? Why is that a bad thing?

the beauty industry is built on women believing they are not beautiful and enough naturally that they just need this or that.

The increase in attractiveness between “natural” and “made up” is abundantly obvious to both men and women. It’s pointless to pretend the two conditions are equally beautiful.

So a woman has to be full of fake sh*t before you find her beautiful? That's sad for you (or your partner).

Taking care of your appearance isn’t fake. It reflects very real and important qualities, including respect for yourself and for others. If your partner (male or female) stops taking care of their appearance, that’s a real and unmistakable signal of how they regard themselves and you. In its extreme form, not attending to dress and hygiene is a symptom of mental illness, which is a real thing, not just them casting aside “fake” stuff.

Taking care of your appearance starts with the inside: eating well, exercising, sleeping, minimizing stress. That’s how you really show care to yourself. Not whether you blow dry your hair and wear eyeliner.

Those things are necessary but not sufficient. Keep trying, you’re almost there!

Yes, you condescending tw@, that really is sufficient. "dolling up" the externals is extra, unless you're pathologically obsessed with appearances or trying to hide something. True health is accepting reality, including the reality of the human body in its natural state. Forced conformity to a standard created to sell product is NOT a sign of health. If you really enjoy fashion and/or makeup for yourself, for the art of those things, because they truly bring you pleasure, by all means, enjoy what you like. But the idea that these things are obligatory has deep roots in classism and control, neither of which are healthy for humans.

Deal therewith.

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Anonymous wrote:If a man cares about his appearance as much as his wife/fiancee/gf she will next wonder whether he is gay.

I know this dad who gets his nails done, he is always well put together, and it appears that he gets how eyebrows done as well. I told DW the other day that I think he was gay and she said not necessarily, but she didn't say flatly no. If a husband looks a good as his wife put together all the time just like her I don't know guys but it's a little sus..just saying

I'd also find this a bit sus, but not for the reasons you do. I know way too many gays who don't GAF about things like this.

What I'd find sus about it is that he's as indoctrinated into beauty culture as most women, which shows a lack of self-esteem, personal style, and critical thinking skills, IMO. If they can tell you how to dress, they can tell you what to do. Way too many women are already sick with this, and it was being aimed at men long before the "metrosexual" movement, too.

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Anonymous wrote:To all the women who make an effort to look nice for their men, thank you. You are a treasure.

To all the women who think those women are somehow diminishing themselves by according some value to beauty or to their partner's preferences, you are extremist and counterproductive.

Thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:To all the women who make an effort to look nice for their men, thank you. You are a treasure.

To all the women who think those women are somehow diminishing themselves by according some value to beauty or to their partner's preferences, you are extremist and counterproductive.

you are a disgusting pig that's why

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Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn’t say he likes it. He wouldn’t want to wait for me to get dolled up. I think he likes other women who doll up. For women over 50 it doesn’t matter. You always just look old.

You sound like a sad/angry person. Or maybe you're depressed.

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Does wearing an underwire bra around the house count?

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.

LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

Shouldn't all women feel beautiful? Why is that a bad thing?

the beauty industry is built on women believing they are not beautiful and enough naturally that they just need this or that.

The increase in attractiveness between “natural” and “made up” is abundantly obvious to both men and women. It’s pointless to pretend the two conditions are equally beautiful.

So a woman has to be full of fake sh*t before you find her beautiful? That's sad for you (or your partner).

Taking care of your appearance isn’t fake. It reflects very real and important qualities, including respect for yourself and for others. If your partner (male or female) stops taking care of their appearance, that’s a real and unmistakable signal of how they regard themselves and you. In its extreme form, not attending to dress and hygiene is a symptom of mental illness, which is a real thing, not just them casting aside “fake” stuff.

Taking care of your appearance doesn’t need to include changing your face or lip color. Basic hygiene is not makeup. It’s really sad you don’t think women can be beautiful naturally bare faced.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.

LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

Shouldn't all women feel beautiful? Why is that a bad thing?

the beauty industry is built on women believing they are not beautiful and enough naturally that they just need this or that.

The increase in attractiveness between “natural” and “made up” is abundantly obvious to both men and women. It’s pointless to pretend the two conditions are equally beautiful.

So a woman has to be full of fake sh*t before you find her beautiful? That's sad for you (or your partner).

Taking care of your appearance isn’t fake. It reflects very real and important qualities, including respect for yourself and for others. If your partner (male or female) stops taking care of their appearance, that’s a real and unmistakable signal of how they regard themselves and you. In its extreme form, not attending to dress and hygiene is a symptom of mental illness, which is a real thing, not just them casting aside “fake” stuff.

Taking care of your appearance starts with the inside: eating well, exercising, sleeping, minimizing stress. That’s how you really show care to yourself. Not whether you blow dry your hair and wear eyeliner.

I guess you are right. As long as you make every decision in your life from the time you wake up in the morning to your bedtime routine to your career to your family size to what you eat and how you spend your free time based on how it affects your appearance, it doesn’t matter if you spend 10 minutes a day fixing your hair and makeup.

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Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

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Anonymous wrote:^ Oops, men want to be *LIKE him

Some men want to be with him

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Anonymous wrote:Dolling up women - do you ladies work? Or are you all SAHMs and rely on your DH to provide?? I know most of you will respond with "I work" but seriously, do you?

I work.
That’s why I have to wear concealer and spanx.
If I spent my life focused on getting enough sleep and exercise, I probably wouldn’t have to do either

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Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.

LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

Shouldn't all women feel beautiful? Why is that a bad thing?

the beauty industry is built on women believing they are not beautiful and enough naturally that they just need this or that.

The increase in attractiveness between “natural” and “made up” is abundantly obvious to both men and women. It’s pointless to pretend the two conditions are equally beautiful.

So a woman has to be full of fake sh*t before you find her beautiful? That's sad for you (or your partner).

Taking care of your appearance isn’t fake. It reflects very real and important qualities, including respect for yourself and for others. If your partner (male or female) stops taking care of their appearance, that’s a real and unmistakable signal of how they regard themselves and you. In its extreme form, not attending to dress and hygiene is a symptom of mental illness, which is a real thing, not just them casting aside “fake” stuff.

Taking care of your appearance starts with the inside: eating well, exercising, sleeping, minimizing stress. That’s how you really show care to yourself. Not whether you blow dry your hair and wear eyeliner.

I guess you are right. As long as you make every decision in your life from the time you wake up in the morning to your bedtime routine to your career to your family size to what you eat and how you spend your free time based on how it affects your appearance, it doesn’t matter if you spend 10 minutes a day fixing your hair and makeup.

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say because it does not address what I said or what the poster I said responded to said.

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Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

Sorry you married a dud. I control my eating habits to stay trim. I work out 5 days a week to stay toned. I spend time figuring out what colors of clothing look good on me. I spend time and money finding clothes that look sharp and fit well or having them altered to fit well (and in case you are unaware, and I'm guessing you are, good men's clothes are generally lot more expensive than comparable women's clothes because of the tailoring involved). I get haircuts regularly, far more often than she does. I select hair products that allow me to style my hair nicely without feeling or smelling weird. I pay attention to the deodorants and colognes I use. I shave my face and trim other parts regularly, especially if I expect that I'll be engaging physically. I go to therapy and read books about emotions and interpersonal relationships because I didn't get any of that shit growing up and needed to learn it later in life. And I do all this in response to her feedback - if she doesn't love a scent or a hair style, I abandon it and do something else. I'm not claiming I spend as much time on all this as she does, but I make a serious effort, and so does she, and that helps us both feel like the other respects us.

Yesss YOU!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

Sorry you married a dud. I control my eating habits to stay trim. I work out 5 days a week to stay toned. I spend time figuring out what colors of clothing look good on me. I spend time and money finding clothes that look sharp and fit well or having them altered to fit well (and in case you are unaware, and I'm guessing you are, good men's clothes are generally lot more expensive than comparable women's clothes because of the tailoring involved). I get haircuts regularly, far more often than she does. I select hair products that allow me to style my hair nicely without feeling or smelling weird. I pay attention to the deodorants and colognes I use. I shave my face and trim other parts regularly, especially if I expect that I'll be engaging physically. I go to therapy and read books about emotions and interpersonal relationships because I didn't get any of that shit growing up and needed to learn it later in life. And I do all this in response to her feedback - if she doesn't love a scent or a hair style, I abandon it and do something else. I'm not claiming I spend as much time on all this as she does, but I make a serious effort, and so does she, and that helps us both feel like the other respects us.

I am not believing this was written by a heterosexual guy. PP, you are a gay man.

The giveaways: 1) “toned”; 2) no paragraph breaks.

You almost had me at the end with “respects” having the right tense, though. A touch of authenticity.

Female or gay troll. Like your work though.

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Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

Sorry you married a dud. I control my eating habits to stay trim. I work out 5 days a week to stay toned. I spend time figuring out what colors of clothing look good on me. I spend time and money finding clothes that look sharp and fit well or having them altered to fit well (and in case you are unaware, and I'm guessing you are, good men's clothes are generally lot more expensive than comparable women's clothes because of the tailoring involved). I get haircuts regularly, far more often than she does. I select hair products that allow me to style my hair nicely without feeling or smelling weird. I pay attention to the deodorants and colognes I use. I shave my face and trim other parts regularly, especially if I expect that I'll be engaging physically. I go to therapy and read books about emotions and interpersonal relationships because I didn't get any of that shit growing up and needed to learn it later in life. And I do all this in response to her feedback - if she doesn't love a scent or a hair style, I abandon it and do something else. I'm not claiming I spend as much time on all this as she does, but I make a serious effort, and so does she, and that helps us both feel like the other respects us.

I am not believing this was written by a heterosexual guy. PP, you are a gay man.

The giveaways: 1) “toned”; 2) no paragraph breaks.

You almost had me at the end with “respects” having the right tense, though. A touch of authenticity.

Female or gay troll. Like your work though.

Gay men don’t use paragraph breaks?