Are people getting meaner?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only the first story is a sign of the times, OP.

I'm a foreigner waiting for my green card, and I am NOT traveling outside the US right now, because I don't need to. But I know plenty of foreigners working in the US who need to travel internationally for work, on diplomatic visas and other types of visas. They're not going to refuse to go just because they're afraid, that's not how it works! So yes, the employee has to go if they can't fulfill a job requirement.

Crazy parents at sports events have always existed.

Me again. To be clear, I was referring to the unfair detentions imposed on British, French, German citizens with legal paperwork or legal visa waivers, and no known history of any terrorist activities. Foreigners are legitimately worried right now when they cross a US border!!! But if you need to do so for work, you do it.

If you're referring to a US person who doesn't wish to travel internationally, then that's ridiculous. They're not going to be harassed abroad just because they're American.

This person was a foreigner with a green card. They were not white, but rather from a country that is on the visa ban list.

I do feel terrible. It was not even necessary for this person to go. I actually covered their work for them, which wasn't a problem at all.

Another thing -- we know a lot of federal workers. I keep running into people who are just don't care and don't feel bad. I was talking with a mom in a group of four other women. Our kids are good friends. She mentioned she and her husband were both caught up in the firings in conversation, wasn't fishing or anything just responding when people asked how you are. She walked off and every other woman in the group began crap talking her! Saying she was fishing for sympathy, talking about how lazy government workers are, this had to be done, etc.! Which is wild, because she really wasn't! She was very factual.

Sounds like you live in a Republican enclave of Fairfax. How many Trump flags were there in your neighborhood?

LMFAO. Is this a joke?

FFX is deep solid Blue. There are no R enclaves.

You would be shocked at the amount of subtle trumpers. Our street has at least 3. I actively shun them.

WE have more than that and we live in FFX....I stopped waving and communicating with trumpets too. But they are here in FFX

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Anonymous wrote:I saw an older man screaming at a woman who did not put her cart in the corral in a parking lot. He looked deranged. A lot of people are powder kegs. Scary.

After the first Trump election I personally witnessed at least 4 people lose their crap on people for, parking too close to the stripe next to a handicap space, there were 4 open and no one was parked in any of them.

One person screaming and yelling and accusing someone parked next to them of denting, not dinging but actually denting their car door, because they just so happened to be parked next to them.

Of going in front of them in the checkout lane, while they disappeared for about 5 minutes to grab something else, even though the line was long and they hadn't actually put anything on the belt yet.

A grown man screaming at a toddler, not his own, for some offense, I still can't figure out that one. The parent of the toddler called the police and the strange man was taken away in handcuffs.

I think it's all the Trumpers who were either emboldened by his crassness, or who felt hoodwinked by his broken promises, and were angry about it.

Why many voted a second time is beyond me. I think it will only get worse, because these same people are in shock and denial right now but sooner or later they are going to move to later stages of grief, anger, etc., we are all in for it.

This....I started seeing true meanness and evil when trump was elected in 2016-It's been a steady decline since. Look at J6....that day was horrific and now we have people lying and trying to tell everyone they imagines that day. Sick world.

Like your and Biden's lies now most grudgingly admit to? Please.

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Yes and it's been happening for a while.

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Yes i feel like i dont belong here. Im too nice.

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Jealousy has increased too, I catch myself feeling it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, but there is something weird in the air.

I volunteer with my church in a food pantry. We provide kind of a drive through food bag of groceries (staples) and families drive through. Sometimes we get lucky and get meat or seasonal fruits and veggies, but again, this is staples, canned food. Vegetables, beans, rice, cereal, powdered milk, etc.

I was telling my two neighbors (different houses in the cul-de-sac) about it when she asked me where I was heading with groceries leaving my house (I collect food and replenish the pantry with others). They were downright mean! Called people who seek charity leeches and lazy bums. They told me I was wasting my time trying to do this because "these illegals are getting kicked out and the rest of them are just trash anyway." I was shocked. I mean, we are, like, pretty well off. This is a neighborhood where homes run over 1.5 million in Fairfax.

Second story, I was at work, and we had a meeting with another colleague who said she was PIPing an employee who refused to fly internationally for a conference. Someone tried to explain why this person might be worried, and she blew it off and said she was being dramatic. I know this employee, worked with her, and she's wonderful! I log in today and see the employee is gone. I felt terrible.

Third story, my husband coaches a sports team and it's small kids. And two men got in a literal fist fight over soccer.

Is there something in the water? What is going on here?

It might be your location.

I just spent days in the Deep South. DH, DS, and I are AA and we were in very MAGA spaces due to the activity so I steeled myself for awfulness. Didn’t experience any. People were “nice” to us no matter what horrible things they vote for.

On the way home, as soon as we got to Alexandria, VA, we encountered an incredibly entitled woman who made everyone miserable in under 10 min. Got on the Red line and people were so inconsiderate.

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I think it’s now a self perpetuating cycle of people feeling more comfortable in being openly mean, instead of feeling social pressure to seem or act nicely, which makes acting mean seem more socially acceptable leading more people to act that way.
And a variety of factors that initiated it - internet comment culture, breakdown in “civil” political discourse, etc. This is possibly the first time trickle down has actually worked for something.

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Notes from our trip to Hilton head this week:

A woman cornered me in the grocery store so I was forced to move

A man honked and ranted and raved at a different point when my husband stopped in front of the store (different time) to let me and our daughter out

Biking - as many people do here - and I asked my son to move to the right so a man could pass. The man yelled “get out of the way!”

Just since Sunday! They were each 60+

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I saw an older man screaming at a woman who did not put her cart in the corral in a parking lot. He looked deranged. A lot of people are powder kegs. Scary.

After the first Trump election I personally witnessed at least 4 people lose their crap on people for, parking too close to the stripe next to a handicap space, there were 4 open and no one was parked in any of them.

One person screaming and yelling and accusing someone parked next to them of denting, not dinging but actually denting their car door, because they just so happened to be parked next to them.

Of going in front of them in the checkout lane, while they disappeared for about 5 minutes to grab something else, even though the line was long and they hadn't actually put anything on the belt yet.

A grown man screaming at a toddler, not his own, for some offense, I still can't figure out that one. The parent of the toddler called the police and the strange man was taken away in handcuffs.

I think it's all the Trumpers who were either emboldened by his crassness, or who felt hoodwinked by his broken promises, and were angry about it.

Why many voted a second time is beyond me. I think it will only get worse, because these same people are in shock and denial right now but sooner or later they are going to move to later stages of grief, anger, etc., we are all in for it.

This....I started seeing true meanness and evil when trump was elected in 2016-It's been a steady decline since. Look at J6....that day was horrific and now we have people lying and trying to tell everyone they imagines that day. Sick world.

Like your and Biden's lies now most grudgingly admit to? Please.

What? You’ve lost all credibility if you’re going after the former president while the current one has issued lie after lie. How are those prices he promised would go down? What happened to the inflation he promised to fix? LIES. And we all knew it.

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Popular discourse is heavily emphasizing "boundaries"--which is fine for weak-willed people who may benefit from this kind of rhetoric, but what it does in practice is encourage mean people to be even more mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Popular discourse is heavily emphasizing "boundaries"--which is fine for weak-willed people who may benefit from this kind of rhetoric, but what it does in practice is encourage mean people to be even more mean.

Boundaries are about the self: what you will and won’t tolerate/do. For some reason popular discourse has made it more about the “other” and in the meantime made those “enforcing boundaries” wholly intolerable.

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I love DCUM because people feel comfortable being honest behind a cloak of pseudo anonymity. It is no coincidence that it is also very mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. People are getting meaner. It’s awful.

It really is....many people (not all) have lost empathy, compassion, and basic kindness.

Observe the current Administration, from Trump’s treatment of nearly anyone who is not him or maybe his children.

And, it’s central to the Doge efficiency effort. Per musk, “The fundamental weakness of western civilization is empathy.”

Make America meaner.

[Anonymous]

Trump will soon begin confiscating women’s credit cards in America. He already stated his intention in plan 2025

[Anonymous]

I was kind of b**chy at work today. Off boarding employees who are basically being forced out is draining. Plus the prospect of my job turning into something different than what I applied for and started. I have so little patience for anyone who isn't needing something urgent.
On top of that, I waver between hoping I actually get to keep my job vs. wishing I too could be let go.
We're all super stressed.