Woman I was dating ended this because of a picture

[Anonymous]

We’ve been dating two months but I’ve known her years. Things have gotten fairly serious I would say although we’re officially together (yet). We were exclusive though. She’s met my family, we’ve talked about the future, planned a trip with her for next month, and how I could see being with her long term, etc.

This weekend she was traveling and I went out with my brother and his wife. I got a little toasted and we ran into a bunch of old friends, one being my sister in law’s maid of honor. We’ve all known each other and have been friends for many years, my brother and sister in law included. While out, I was at the bar talking to the maid of honor and had my arm around her. My hand wasn’t touching her butt or anything. My sister in law added the woman I was dating on social media prior to this. Well my sister in law posted us all out and you could see the maid of honor and I at the bar. I saw the post and decided to get ahead of things and told the woman I was seeing about the picture. Well she ended things with me. I told her we were just friends. She said it’s early and it’s better to end things now because she’s looking for someone serious. I told her I was/am serious about her though. She said having my arm around another woman and saying the things I’ve said to her don’t match up because that’s not the behavior of someone serious.

Isn’t this an overreaction? I did nothing with the maid of honor at all and told her how we’re all friends. I really saw a future with her, and told her so.

[Anonymous]

How old are you ?


Also if she has been cheated on I’m thinking she is not in the mood for interpreting ambiguous pics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

How old are you ?


Also if she has been cheated on I’m thinking she is not in the mood for interpreting ambiguous pics.

35

[Anonymous]

Don’t people pose like that in group pictures all the time?

[Anonymous]

I’m an insecure jealous type and I think she’s being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

She was already on the fence and just cut it early. No quarter

[Anonymous]

By your own admission, you knew your actions could be misinterpreted, and that's why you decided to get ahead of things and talk to the woman you were seeing.

So why put your arms around the other women then?

Are you that impulsive?

[Anonymous]

Why did you have your arms around the MOH of your SIL? I am thinking of the many male friends I have had and I have never been so familiar with anyone even when I was single if I was not romantically involved with them. It was not a group picture was it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t people pose like that in group pictures all the time?

I don’t think it was a posed pic. It was a candid and he had his arm around her.

[Anonymous]

If you were seriously interested in the woman who you were dating, you would not have been so familiar with another woman. You were basically trying to throw a larger net so that you could snag a fish - any fish! You were hedging your bets and if a better prospect came along you would have dumped the woman you were dating.

I am glad you got dumped. Also, stop getting toasted all the time. You are 35.

[Anonymous]

How serious were you two, truly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you have your arms around the MOH of your SIL? I am thinking of the many male friends I have had and I have never been so familiar with anyone even when I was single if I was not romantically involved with them. It was not a group picture was it?

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were seriously interested in the woman who you were dating, you would not have been so familiar with another woman. You were basically trying to throw a larger net so that you could snag a fish - any fish! You were hedging your bets and if a better prospect came along you would have dumped the woman you were dating.

I am glad you got dumped. Also, stop getting toasted all the time. You are 35.

Are you an alcoholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission, you knew your actions could be misinterpreted, and that's why you decided to get ahead of things and talk to the woman you were seeing.

So why put your arms around the other women then?

Are you that impulsive?

I saw it as him being thoughtful and considerate of her feelings and potential worries. It’s fine for men to have longtime female friends they hug and put their arm around.

[Anonymous]

Was it a posed or candid shot?

The way you describe it sounds like it was a candid shot and you were in the background with your arm around another woman. I don’t know what positions you were in but there is an intimacy to being that physically close.