Are you in love with your spouse after many years?

[Anonymous]

I’m happy if anyone even loves their spouse… grateful, yes, but even love seems out of reach sometimes. I’m divorced after over a decade of being together, most of it just barely tolerable and mostly for the kids.

My question is if people still feel “in love” with their spouse after many years. I’m dating again and have with a new partner for 18 months. I do feel “in love” though I don’t think it’s limerance (still not really sure what that means). The sex keeps getting better, so far our disagreements have led to better understanding and brought us closer, and we’ve weathered a difficulty with my ex and work/life balance.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she’s a keeper

[Anonymous]

Yes. It’s not reciprocated, but I love him deeply.

[Anonymous]

More then ever.

[Anonymous]

Deeply, and it is reciprocated. Don't settle OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she’s a keeper

This can’t be a man.

[Anonymous]

Yes! We have been married a very long time and while we may not be as physically passionate as we once were (we are in our late 60s) we are very much in love. My husband is a wonderful partner, a loving father and an adoring grandfather.

[Anonymous]

Obviously. Otherwise we would be divorced. What kind of person has to ask this question? So bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m happy if anyone even loves their spouse… grateful, yes, but even love seems out of reach sometimes. I’m divorced after over a decade of being together, most of it just barely tolerable and mostly for the kids.

My question is if people still feel “in love” with their spouse after many years. I’m dating again and have with a new partner for 18 months. I do feel “in love” though I don’t think it’s limerance (still not really sure what that means). The sex keeps getting better, so far our disagreements have led to better understanding and brought us closer, and we’ve weathered a difficulty with my ex and work/life balance.

It's harder to still feel "in love" after many years with a new partner after going through a divorce. You may be much more compatible and mature, and your new partner may be a much better person than your first husband, but the challenges are so much more significant, and they tear you apart. Most of them boil down to divided loyalties and conflicting priorities. Wishing you the best, and at minimum, enjoy it while it lasts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. Otherwise we would be divorced. What kind of person has to ask this question? So bizarre.

OP here. I could have gritted my teeth and made it work for more years out of financial gratitude except my exDH caused a rupture for me to lose all trust. I’m actually glad because it’s opened me up to better love. I think there’s many people who dislike their spouses, some are appreciative but not in love or attracted to them. The “in love” feeling seems to be rare!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. Otherwise we would be divorced. What kind of person has to ask this question? So bizarre.

OP here. I could have gritted my teeth and made it work for more years out of financial gratitude except my exDH caused a rupture for me to lose all trust. I’m actually glad because it’s opened me up to better love. I think there’s many people who dislike their spouses, some are appreciative but not in love or attracted to them. The “in love” feeling seems to be rare!

It’s not hard to marry the right person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously. Otherwise we would be divorced. What kind of person has to ask this question? So bizarre.

OP here. I could have gritted my teeth and made it work for more years out of financial gratitude except my exDH caused a rupture for me to lose all trust. I’m actually glad because it’s opened me up to better love. I think there’s many people who dislike their spouses, some are appreciative but not in love or attracted to them. The “in love” feeling seems to be rare!

You seem to not be over your ex. No one who is divorced and happy would start a thread like this. They would have moved on which you clearly have not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she’s a keeper

This can’t be a man.

Of course I am

[Anonymous]

Yup. Married 24 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she’s a keeper

This can’t be a man.

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