Are you in love with your spouse after many years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in love with my ex even before our divorce. He was so cruel to me however I had to leave him. It’s hard to understand why I love him after what he has done to me. Maybe it isn’t love but emotional attachment. What’s the difference though? But I still care and would help in in time of need thougb he objectively wouldn’t deserve that.

Probably because you still remember the person he was when you met and part of you thinks and hopes that person is still in there and can come back.

[Anonymous]

Yes. 20 years of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Love my husband. He drives me crazy and can be crabby and argumentative (and let’s not talk politics) but that doesn’t change that i love him deeply.

[Anonymous]

I love him, I’m just mad at him a lot. It’s a tough phase of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but as people always say, it’s a different kind of love than at the lustful beginning. He’s shown up for me and now kids for years and years, and been with me through thick and thin. He looks after all of us and always has our best interests in mind. Nobody in the world knows me better. I love the way he thinks and he’s funny. We’re an excellent team.

Do we want to jump each others’ bones all the time? No. But I’m more comfortable telling him what I like and want than in the beginning, so the quality is better.

NP. This is us, too, married 31 years. I respect him more and more as we get older. He's a good human being. Not perfect, nor am I. But I'm so fortunate to have married him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but as people always say, it’s a different kind of love than at the lustful beginning. He’s shown up for me and now kids for years and years, and been with me through thick and thin. He looks after all of us and always has our best interests in mind. Nobody in the world knows me better. I love the way he thinks and he’s funny. We’re an excellent team.

Do we want to jump each others’ bones all the time? No. But I’m more comfortable telling him what I like and want than in the beginning, so the quality is better.

NP. This is us, too, married 31 years. I respect him more and more as we get older. He's a good human being. Not perfect, nor am I. But I'm so fortunate to have married him.

Same. I think its unrealistic to expect the jump-your-bones type of lust after so many years. Sure some people insist they still have that, but I think many happy long-term marriages don't and are still very successful.

[Anonymous]

Definitely still in love. After 37 years I like to consider him to still be a work in progress and he improves almost every day.