Do you ever have your opposite sex teens share a bedroom on vacation?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine is incredulous that her ex planned to have their opposite sex teens share a room on vacation for a few days.

My kids are both boys so I’ve not had to encounter this but my initial thought was that if we had a boy and a girl we’d still all share a hotel room at times and certainly wouldn’t get three hotel rooms. Vacation rentals we usually get three bedrooms but there are times when we have two.

Is this an absolute no? Or is my friend overreacting?

[Anonymous]

Yes, friend is overreacting. I'm assuming the bedroom has two beds. They can change in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

We have had our opposite sex teens share a bedroom for 1-2 nights. But for any teen, that would be hard for a week so if we can swing separate bedrooms we can. But what is the mom afraid of? That they’ll have sex? They can get changed in the bathroom. It’s really not that big of a deal if you really think about it.

[Anonymous]

A bedroom? Absolutely. But not a bed. (13 year old boy and 16 year old girl.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A bedroom? Absolutely. But not a bed. (13 year old boy and 16 year old girl.)

Mine are a bit younger, but same.

When they were small, would absolutely have them share a bed in a standard hotel room, but stopped that once they hit the tween years (and probably would have done the same regardless because one is a very “active” sleeper so there were lots of complaints).

But yes, your friend is being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

All the time! My kods are now 20 and 18. They will share a room on our next week long vacation to Frand Cayman. They can figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Grand cayman

[Anonymous]

My brother and I used to share a room together (not bed) all the time (18 months apart). It was no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Weird.

My twins (b/g) often have to do this.

As they have gotten older, we have tried to get suites instead of just rooms as having a little more room avoids arguments

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have had our opposite sex teens share a bedroom for 1-2 nights. But for any teen, that would be hard for a week so if we can swing separate bedrooms we can. But what is the mom afraid of? That they’ll have sex? They can get changed in the bathroom. It’s really not that big of a deal if you really think about it.

They are 13 (girl) and 16 (boy) and “need privacy” apparently. That’s all she said. It’s a bed and an air mattress and was apparently all he could afford.

[Anonymous]

We always get two bedrooms when we travel and my two kids have shared it since the oldest was 12. And yes, sometimes it is just one bed.

I genuinely do not see the problem.

[Anonymous]

How absurd of this mother to decry a shared room short term on vacation. Would they have to have individual tents if he took them camping, too? She is being just too precious.

[Anonymous]

We just got back from a 3 weeks trip with 4 kids, including b/g 14-year old twins. When we had a 2-BR suite, the twins shared a room, and they were grateful to have that extra space at all. In a few locations, all 6 of us shared one room or a one-BR suite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird.

My twins (b/g) often have to do this.

As they have gotten older, we have tried to get suites instead of just rooms as having a little more room avoids arguments

+1 and on occasion when the only available option was a king bed, they have shared it. They are siblings - I don’t understand the concern at all.

[Anonymous]

19 and 22 and we traveled through Europe this summer. All AirBnBs, all 2 bedrooms, 2 beds in one room for the kids to share, one room for us.

When much younger, 8 and 11? I'd share a bed with our girl and dad would share a bed with our boy.

Then a suite with a pull out sofa and 2 queens (or frequently doubles).

Then we graduated to 2 bedroom AirBnBs.
SOP for us for years.