If you have an adult DD who doesn't dress up

[Anonymous]

If you have an adult DD who considers basic bare minimum for looks as good enough, would you discuss it with them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have an adult DD who considers basic bare minimum for looks as good enough, would you discuss it with them?

How would you like it if your mom/dad or more senior adult talked to you about your clothes?

[Anonymous]

More context needed. Good enough for what? Are they frustrated about life?

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

How old? Does she have a job? Where is the job?

I'd maybe discuss professional attire for someone entering the corporate world for the first time in their 20s. But if this person is over 30, I would say nothing.

[Anonymous]

I would give her a detailed explanation about how appearances matter both professionally, romantically and even for friendships; I would point out all her lovely features that deserve to be brought out, hairstyles that might flatter her head shape, and cuts and style of clothes that go best with her figure; and I would also discuss colors and patterns that suit her coloring and size.

Essentially I would act as her fashion assistant. Only once, if she shuts me down and says she's not interested, of course. I wouldn't want to be a nag and make her uncomfortable. But it's a service one woman can do for another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would give her a detailed explanation about how appearances matter both professionally, romantically and even for friendships; I would point out all her lovely features that deserve to be brought out, hairstyles that might flatter her head shape, and cuts and style of clothes that go best with her figure; and I would also discuss colors and patterns that suit her coloring and size.

Essentially I would act as her fashion assistant. Only once, if she shuts me down and says she's not interested, of course. I wouldn't want to be a nag and make her uncomfortable. But it's a service one woman can do for another.

Would you do that for your son too?

[Anonymous]

Hell, no. Leave your daughter alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell, no. Leave your daughter alone.

This is the way.

[Anonymous]

Nothing, she’s a grown ass adult. Leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

I do for business attire only. This was after she realized she only had sneakers for an interview that same day. The woman interviewing her was in heels. Sometimes, it does matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would give her a detailed explanation about how appearances matter both professionally, romantically and even for friendships; I would point out all her lovely features that deserve to be brought out, hairstyles that might flatter her head shape, and cuts and style of clothes that go best with her figure; and I would also discuss colors and patterns that suit her coloring and size.

Essentially I would act as her fashion assistant. Only once, if she shuts me down and says she's not interested, of course. I wouldn't want to be a nag and make her uncomfortable. But it's a service one woman can do for another.

For the love of Pete, do NOT do this unless your daughter has specifically asked for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would give her a detailed explanation about how appearances matter both professionally, romantically and even for friendships; I would point out all her lovely features that deserve to be brought out, hairstyles that might flatter her head shape, and cuts and style of clothes that go best with her figure; and I would also discuss colors and patterns that suit her coloring and size.

Essentially I would act as her fashion assistant. Only once, if she shuts me down and says she's not interested, of course. I wouldn't want to be a nag and make her uncomfortable. But it's a service one woman can do for another.

Would you do that for your son too?

Why would you assume that sons don't get this talk? I have a teen and I talk to him about personal hygiene, clothes, the way he presents himself to the world a lot. He doesn't care one but at the moment, but the way men dress is just as important as the way women dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old? Does she have a job? Where is the job?

I'd maybe discuss professional attire for someone entering the corporate world for the first time in their 20s. But if this person is over 30, I would say nothing.

This DD is 26, engaged, CPA and has friends. No other issues.

[Anonymous]

Nobody dresses up these days unless they are face to face with clients.