S/O sleeping with someone over 50
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Anonymous
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An earlier poster wondered about condom use. I have another question for all you over 50s people. If you're relatively new to dating after a divorce or a celibate period, how are you navigating sex again?
I'm divorced, and have not had sex with anyone in six years! Last few years of marriage involved no sex, then it took a few years for me to feel ready again, and finally there's a man with whom I actually want to become intimate. But I have to admit, I'm scared to death. Not of STDs, just of having sex in this 55-year-old body. I'm told I'm attractive, I'm slim and I know I look young "for my age" (meaning I probably look mid 40s), but I have lumps and bumps and scars and wrinkles and stretch marks and mild stress incontinence from having three babies, and some things are not as tight as they used to be. Last time I was dating, women shaved their legs but not their public hair: that was still considered a weird porno thing. Ditto anything involving the back door. (Not trying to be prudish by using the euphemism, just don't want my post to be rejected by whatever bot doesn't like sex words.) Any advice, from either other women or men? |
Anonymous
| Trim the bush leave the back foot alone. You good. Have fun. |
Anonymous
| If you’re in good shape, you have nothing to worry about. Personally, I prefer a bush with trimmed bikini lines. That’s just me. (I’m 53 in good shape and had all kinds. Shaved, landing strip, trimmed down, bush not trimmed back…) Don’t be so hard on yourself and let things flow. Have fun. Pretend you’re a teen again and enjoy it. Hope it works out. |
Anonymous
| Date someone your own age and none of this will matter I promise. |
Anonymous
| Also mid-50s and experiencing this for the first time in many decades, but I expect a woman to have the same wear from the years that I have and otherwise am still learning what to expect. Be yourself. |
Anonymous
| Bring lube |
Anonymous
Yes - all of this! Men will just be happy you are still interested in intimacy; they will accept you as you are. Please know that all of us age. If your date in his 50s is not exactly like you remember men in their 20s, please be accepting of him too. Please don’t be shocked if your date (in his 50s) might use the little blue pill; if he doesn’t need it in his 50s, he soon will. It’s normal. Also, please be open to toys. My guess is 99% of men will be open to you introducing them. It’s common, and a good way to make everyone satisfied. Be open to other new experiences (provided you are ok with them). Just be open. Have fun and leave expectations behind. |
Anonymous
| Turn the lights down low, be very enthusiastic and go for extensive foreplay. Bring your own condoms for back up. |
Anonymous
Uberlube is great. Last two women I have dated have gone full bare. Once you get into relationship stage, ask what your partner likes. It’s your decision but open communication on all things is good. |
Anonymous
| At this age, you won’t have to worry about “intimacy” much longer, lol! |
Anonymous
? I’m 53 and it’s still a huge part of my life. |
Anonymous
+1. I am a 47 years old man and while I still have a normal sex drive its lower than in my 30s. My ex wife who is 49 had an insane sex drive. Women are very lucky in the sense that they have a very high sex drive for a long time. I wouldn't be shocked if women are still horny in their 60s as much as they were in their 30s. There must some biological explanation. So take advantage 
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Anonymous
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I'm a 43 year old man who has noticed a drop in drive. I'm dating a 49 year old.
She wore me out our last weekend away! |
Anonymous
It's not a dealbreaker by any means but a hairless or almost hairless back foot is nice. I like to eat azz. |
Anonymous
| Try the back door alone first to see if you’re interested. |