Wife cuts off friendship with next door neighbor
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We live in a townhouse and my wife has been friendly towards the neighbor for a year or so now. The neighbors have one child who is one grade ahead of our older son. Apparently the neighbor went out of her way to tell my wife our son may not be invited to her sons birthday party but she’s also mentioned she’s isn’t sure if the boy will have one. My wife thought it was so strange to bring it up. Since they aren’t in the same grade and super close we didn’t assume he would be invited. We did invite the neighbors kid to our sons birthday party recently and everything was fine. We invited all of the boys and a few girls from the neighborhood around our sons age and everyone showed up and had a good time. The lady didn’t say we are just doing family or it’s going to be small, his grade whatever etc etc. She said her and her husband talked about it and they don’t think they could handle our son… and our son doesn’t have any history of being violent. He doesn’t go inside their house and their kid isn’t allowed inside other peoples homes. The neighbors kid does have a history of hitting other kids and he has hit our son a few times. My wife also says the lady doesn’t seem stable and gets angry at the child for things that seem unnecessary. I do think there are several things that seem off, but I don’t think my wife should have cut the neighbors off completely. They are also a different race than my wife. My wife said she doesn’t care about this neighbor anymore and doesn’t want to make small talk or pretend they are friends. She directly told the lady she’s no longer interested in developing a friendship and hasn’t talked to her in a months or so. In my culture we aren’t direct like that. We would still be friendly with the neighbor even if we don’t like them, agree with them etc. There were also issues with the mom giving my wife unsolicited parenting advice. She went on a girls trip and the lady was giving her a hard time for not taking the kids. If our house wasn’t attached it would feel less awkward. I have been giving her a hard time because I feel she should have spoken to me before cutting them off. I do not talk to the dad. We smile at each other but that’s it. My wife does engage with other people in the neighborhood. After that incident she was more willing to talk to other moms at the bus stop and our kids have actually had several play dates set up now. She’s not friends with any of these parents but is friendly towards them and sets up play dates, try’s to get them in the same after school activities etc. She said she doesn’t wasn’t to get too close to anyone in the neighborhood.
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Anonymous
| What’s your question? |
Anonymous
| Paragraphs are your friend |
Anonymous
Sounds like he’s mad she cut her off without talking to him because it’s not neighborly to do that. |
Anonymous
| Welcome to America. You are wrong, your wife is right. Be happy you’ve dodged a bullet with these loons. Did you say you don't even interact with the husband? What the hell do you care? Learn how to write, too. |
Anonymous
| Okay |
Anonymous
This post being a good example of bad writing. |
Anonymous
| Your wife is 100% within her right to not socialize with people like your neighbor. You should learn from her and grow a backbone. |
Anonymous
 OP could be an immigrant. Try writing perfectly in a second language . $ says you don’t know how to write or speak in a second language.
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Anonymous
Op. Culturally neighbors are seen as an extension of your family. It’s very unusual to cut a neighbor off. Sounds like it’s happens over here and it’s okay. Wife said it probably would have gotten worse if she didn’t end it abruptly. |
Anonymous
Op her socializing and being neighborly are two different things for me. I don’t socialize with the husband but I’m friendly. I smile and acknowledge that he’s around when I see him. |
Anonymous
Yes, but his wife also sounds strange for just directly telling the woman off instead of being civil. She also says she doesn't want to be friendly to anyone in the neighborhood. That is weird, since she doesn't know them. His wife is full of red flags, too. |
Anonymous
| Wait, the neighbor's kid has hit your kid and you want to maintain contact? What the H ll is wrong with you? Your wife is correct on this one, townhome or not. The neighbor can live with the repercussions. Get your kid on a team outside of the neighborhood so it is not his/her only outlet for friends. Hit you kid? Really? |
Anonymous
Nope, I cut two off this past year. Every word out of their mouths (two women) had to be political and woke, just am sick of hearing it. I do not even waive to them any longer as they are deranged and it is not healthy to have them in my life. Cutting off some people is healthy. |
Anonymous
| wtf. You think your wife should have spoken to you before she cuts off a friendship between her and someone else? You do not even socialize with the dad so I don’t understand how you would have any say in this. |