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[quote=Anonymous]We live in a townhouse and my wife has been friendly towards the neighbor for a year or so now. The neighbors have one child who is one grade ahead of our older son. Apparently the neighbor went out of her way to tell my wife our son may not be invited to her sons birthday party but she’s also mentioned she’s isn’t sure if the boy will have one. My wife thought it was so strange to bring it up. Since they aren’t in the same grade and super close we didn’t assume he would be invited. We did invite the neighbors kid to our sons birthday party recently and everything was fine. We invited all of the boys and a few girls from the neighborhood around our sons age and everyone showed up and had a good time. The lady didn’t say we are just doing family or it’s going to be small, his grade whatever etc etc. She said her and her husband talked about it and they don’t think they could handle our son… and our son doesn’t have any history of being violent. He doesn’t go inside their house and their kid isn’t allowed inside other peoples homes. The neighbors kid does have a history of hitting other kids and he has hit our son a few times. My wife also says the lady doesn’t seem stable and gets angry at the child for things that seem unnecessary. I do think there are several things that seem off, but I don’t think my wife should have cut the neighbors off completely. They are also a different race than my wife. My wife said she doesn’t care about this neighbor anymore and doesn’t want to make small talk or pretend they are friends. She directly told the lady she’s no longer interested in developing a friendship and hasn’t talked to her in a months or so. In my culture we aren’t direct like that. We would still be friendly with the neighbor even if we don’t like them, agree with them etc. There were also issues with the mom giving my wife unsolicited parenting advice. She went on a girls trip and the lady was giving her a hard time for not taking the kids. If our house wasn’t attached it would feel less awkward. I have been giving her a hard time because I feel she should have spoken to me before cutting them off. I do not talk to the dad. We smile at each other but that’s it.  My wife does engage with other people in the neighborhood. After that incident she was more willing to talk to other moms at the bus stop and our kids have actually had several play dates set up now. She’s not friends with any of these parents but is friendly towards them and sets up play dates, try’s to get them in the same after school activities etc. She said she doesn’t wasn’t to get too close to anyone in the neighborhood.

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