Wife cuts off friendship with next door neighbor

[Anonymous]

I do not think that your wife needed your approval before terminating her friendship w/this neighbor.
She is a capable adult & is old enough to handle her own personal issues.

Yes it IS uncomfortable living in such close quarters w/someone you do not get along with I can attest to that.

But what is done is definitely dunzo so I would just let it go for now.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is 100% within her right to not socialize with people like your neighbor. You should learn from her and grow a backbone.

Yes, but his wife also sounds strange for just directly telling the woman off instead of being civil. She also says she doesn't want to be friendly to anyone in the neighborhood. That is weird, since she doesn't know them. His wife is full of red flags, too.

The neighbor went out of her way to be rude about their son. I would have done the same thing.

Op here. To clarify I didn’t say she doesn’t want to be friendly. She said she doesn’t want to be friends with any of the moms but she is friendly towards them.

There is no problem here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not think that your wife needed your approval before terminating her friendship w/this neighbor.
She is a capable adult & is old enough to handle her own personal issues.

Yes it IS uncomfortable living in such close quarters w/someone you do not get along with I can attest to that.

But what is done is definitely dunzo so I would just let it go for now.

Good luck!

He never said that she needed his approval. She could have talked to him about it. He could have given his opinion before she makes her decision. This a decision that not only affects her but their child and the whole family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think that your wife needed your approval before terminating her friendship w/this neighbor.
She is a capable adult & is old enough to handle her own personal issues.

Yes it IS uncomfortable living in such close quarters w/someone you do not get along with I can attest to that.

But what is done is definitely dunzo so I would just let it go for now.

Good luck!

He never said that she needed his approval. She could have talked to him about it. He could have given his opinion before she makes her decision. This a decision that not only affects her but their child and the whole family.

Who is stopping him from being friendly with the neighbors???

[Anonymous]

It's your wife's decision alone whether she wants to set such boundaries. Consider trusting her instincts when it comes to protecting herself and your DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think that your wife needed your approval before terminating her friendship w/this neighbor.
She is a capable adult & is old enough to handle her own personal issues.

Yes it IS uncomfortable living in such close quarters w/someone you do not get along with I can attest to that.

But what is done is definitely dunzo so I would just let it go for now.

Good luck!

He never said that she needed his approval. She could have talked to him about it. He could have given his opinion before she makes her decision. This a decision that not only affects her but their child and the whole family.

Don’t think he would be supportive given his background. He would have wanted her to not say anything and do a fade.

[Anonymous]

Your wife does NOT need your permission to end a friendship. No matter if it's your neighbor. Maybe try supporting your wife and child(ren) for once? You sound like you're putting some rando above your own family!

[Anonymous]

You can still be friends with the neighbors if you wish. Forced/pretend friendships are hard for some people, your wife is probably one of those people. If you're ok faking your way, go ahead, but leave your wife to mind her own relationships.

[Anonymous]

Good for your wife!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think that your wife needed your approval before terminating her friendship w/this neighbor.
She is a capable adult & is old enough to handle her own personal issues.

Yes it IS uncomfortable living in such close quarters w/someone you do not get along with I can attest to that.

But what is done is definitely dunzo so I would just let it go for now.

Good luck!

He never said that she needed his approval. She could have talked to him about it. He could have given his opinion before she makes her decision. This a decision that not only affects her but their child and the whole family.

Who is stopping him from being friendly with the neighbors???

The friend of my enemy is my enemy.
The neighbors are now the enemies.
You can’t be friendly with your wife’s enemies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you followed up to state that your wife was pg.

When I was pg, I always circled my wagons a little closer and was even less willing to invite nuttiness into my world. It's called nesting. This nutty neighbour burned a bridge and now your wife has even less interest in engaging with others in case they are nuts too.

I had the exact same thing happen with my first and second pregnancies (same nutty neighbour). We moved. I was friendly with everyone but didn't want to engage on a deeper level after dealing with the unpredictable behaviour. That way I could still maintain respect for others/not see their crazy.

Having said that, your situation rises to a different level- this kid hits and punched your kid- in the FACE several times?? Get these kids away from each other. There was a reason no one was comfortable with these kids being in each others homes to begin with. Go with that same instinct. Smile and wave from afar and disengage.

It hasn’t happened in 6 months. You can’t coddle your kids forever. Since our neighborhood is small we were worried it would be a problem because the boy is friends with a lot of the other kids. My son doesn’t want to spend time with most of the kids and we have decided to respect that and not push friendships. I have noticed most of the neighborhood kids seem up to no good. They hang by the mailboxes and gossip or something. Since there isn’t a playground around they have too much time in their hands. It’s probably better that we take him to parks and playgrounds in the evening anyway.

So your kids are not close to the neighbor that hit you child in the face 6 months ago. You yourself don’t interact with them and you think your wife needs permission to shut down the kids mother. And all the neighborhood kids are up to no good hanging by the mailbox gossiping, or something? Do you hear yourself?

[Anonymous]

I think there’s more to the story. It wasn’t just about the birthday party. This neighbor has a history of being mean and rude. Your wife decided to nip it in the bud.

[Anonymous]

OP, Reading your post is exhausting.