Wife cuts off friendship with next door neighbor

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is 100% within her right to not socialize with people like your neighbor. You should learn from her and grow a backbone.

Yes, but his wife also sounds strange for just directly telling the woman off instead of being civil. She also says she doesn't want to be friendly to anyone in the neighborhood. That is weird, since she doesn't know them. His wife is full of red flags, too.

The neighbor went out of her way to be rude about their son. I would have done the same thing.

Op here. To clarify I didn’t say she doesn’t want to be friendly. She said she doesn’t want to be friends with any of the moms but she is friendly towards them.

So what exactly is the problem then????

Someone earlier said she doesn’t want to be friendly towards other neighbors. That’s only accurate with the next door neighbors. I was correcting that.

[Anonymous]

Probably not the best idea but it’s already done. Sometimes it’s better to cut your losses with the crazy people.

[Anonymous]

Didn't read all this unnecessary drama, read the first few sentences then decided you all need some hobbies.

[Anonymous]

In what culture are neighbors an extension of your family?

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Personally I would have just withdrawn a bit, but remained cordial because I don’t like confrontation, especially with people I have to see often.

As for not inviting your kid to the birthday party, I would find it an odd comment, but not particularly care. It’s not like we’re clamoring for even more kids’ parties to add to the calendar. Maybe she said “couldn’t handle” your kid because for some reason he sets her violent kid off and she is trying to avoid that.

I think this whole thing could have been a non-issue if your wife just feigned being busy and kept at arm’s length, but it is what it is now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is 100% within her right to not socialize with people like your neighbor. You should learn from her and grow a backbone.

Yes, but his wife also sounds strange for just directly telling the woman off instead of being civil. She also says she doesn't want to be friendly to anyone in the neighborhood. That is weird, since she doesn't know them. His wife is full of red flags, too.

+1 I wouldn't want to be too close to them (the mom gives unsolicited advice and has a bad temper, the kid hits other kids) but I think a slow fade and friendly hellos is a more reasonable reaction. I also think OP's wife overreacted to being told they weren't getting an invite to a party that he says they didn't expect an invite to in the first place. So neighbor was unnecessarily direct with that information and OP's wife responded by being unnecessarily direct with the "I don't want to be friends anymore" reaction.

Both are slightly inappropriate, both are probably better off not pretending to want to hang out.

[Anonymous]

Your wife should’ve been at the last straw when their kid hit your kid. Seems like she ordered more and finally has buyer’s remorse.

[Anonymous]

If our nextdoor neighbor's kid hit our kid "a few times", I'd have had to have held my DH back from going over there immediately and doing who knows what.

But you're worried about your wife's reaction to a birthday party non-invite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If our nextdoor neighbor's kid hit our kid "a few times", I'd have had to have held my DH back from going over there immediately and doing who knows what.

But you're worried about your wife's reaction to a birthday party non-invite?

Op here. We invited the kid to our child’s birthday party after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s your question?

No kidding. WhoTF wrote this mumbo jumbo. Are we supposed to believe a man is posting this OP here?

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Anonymous wrote:Welcome to America. You are wrong, your wife is right. Be happy you’ve dodged a bullet with these loons. Did you say you don't even interact with the husband? What the hell do you care? Learn how to write, too.

This post being a good example of bad writing.

Op. Culturally neighbors are seen as an extension of your family. It’s very unusual to cut a neighbor off. Sounds like it’s happens over here and it’s okay. Wife said it probably would have gotten worse if she didn’t end it abruptly.

Nope, I cut two off this past year. Every word out of their mouths (two women) had to be political and woke, just am sick of hearing it. I do not even waive to them any longer as they are deranged and it is not healthy to have them in my life. Cutting off some people is healthy.

So, you're a hard-right Trump MAGA conservative? Do you also demand that liberals tolerate your intolerance?

(Your unironical use of the word "woke" betrayed you, pp. Normal, non-political people don't use that terminology in such a nasty way).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife should’ve been at the last straw when their kid hit your kid. Seems like she ordered more and finally has buyer’s remorse.

It was the birthday party and the mom complains about kids kicking rocks around the driveway because she thinks it’s going to damage her car tires. When my wife asked why they couldn’t handle him she mentioned something about him kicking rocks one day and saying he was mad at their son. I think this mom thinks the hitting incidents were made up or we were being dramatic about it. We were also told by other kids that he was punched in the face and it happened on the bus at least twice. My wife didn’t say anything until it happened two times. The first time she spoke with the boy and mentioned she would tell mom if it happens again.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems needlessly escalating to tell the woman she was cutting her off instead of graadually cutting back interaction or pretending to be extra busy. She has every right to end the friendship, but no need to fan the flames by announcing it!

Nope. You want to single out my child for no reason, I'll be very direct about it.

I am the person you quoted. My own mother stopped talking to our neighbor because she yelled at my brother once. I was 4 years old and they lived next door until she died 44 years later. It is ridiculous to hold a grudge that long.

[Anonymous]

I think neighbor is odd but your wife is wrong. You should try and get along with neighbors even on a superficial level.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife should’ve been at the last straw when their kid hit your kid. Seems like she ordered more and finally has buyer’s remorse.

It was the birthday party and the mom complains about kids kicking rocks around the driveway because she thinks it’s going to damage her car tires. When my wife asked why they couldn’t handle him she mentioned something about him kicking rocks one day and saying he was mad at their son. I think this mom thinks the hitting incidents were made up or we were being dramatic about it. We were also told by other kids that he was punched in the face and it happened on the bus at least twice. My wife didn’t say anything until it happened two times. The first time she spoke with the boy and mentioned she would tell mom if it happens again.

I think it's pretty funny that you're like "where I come from neighbors are like family" but when your actual family is getting punched in the face you don't seem to care at all. Does family matter or doesn't it? Does it only matter when it's fake family?

The more details you provide the more your wife seems like the only sane person on your block.