Would you cancel? Birthday dinner “dilemma”.

[Anonymous]

My daughter’s 15th birthday is tomorrow and she invited a few friends (via Evite) to go to a restaurant for dinner tomorrow night. One friend told her she can’t make it because her mom doesn’t speak English and couldn’t understand the invitation. Another friend is still waiting for her parents to respond. The last friend hasn’t gotten back to her at all even with DD constantly texting/asking her at school. I told her, maybe we should cancel the dinner and she and I can do something fun of her choosing, but she’s still holding onto the hope that at least one of her friends will show up. I honestly think sending a cancellation is the best option at this point. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

No, take her yourself if no one goes.

[Anonymous]

So the first girl is permanently grounded because her mom doesn’t know English?

[Anonymous]

Can’t the first girl speak English and translate?

I’d just wait it out at this point. You can still go with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the first girl is permanently grounded because her mom doesn’t know English?

It didn’t make sense to me either. It’s probably just an excuse to get out of it honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t the first girl speak English and translate?

I’d just wait it out at this point. You can still go with her.

Even though it’s tomorrow night? I just fear that we go and DD will feel embarrassed/heart broken if none of her friends show up.

[Anonymous]

Ask DD how she will feel about going if none of her friends show up. Let her envision that and think about it. And tell her to stop texting the one friend who hasn't gotten back to her - a non answer is an answer.

[Anonymous]

I have a 15yo son and their plans often fall through. However, birthdays are the one time it usually happens.

Do you know these parents?

I would text them and say you can pick them up and drive them home. It may be a ride issue.

[Anonymous]

Pp again. We don’t really get evites often in high school. Kids often make the plans.

The moms in friend group text a few weeks prior to see if kids are available to celebrate birthday. Then they will finalize plans closer to the date.

[Anonymous]

My kid’s mom has changed date of birthday party to accommodate my kid when we said we couldn’t make it. I would try to confirm a better time and reschedule.

[Anonymous]

Your mistake was the Evite. Either you or your daughter get the girl's cells and send the time and place in a group chat and ask the girls to text RSVP by x date. Follow up on that date with anyone that hasn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mistake was the Evite. Either you or your daughter get the girl's cells and send the time and place in a group chat and ask the girls to text RSVP by x date. Follow up on that date with anyone that hasn't.

My 15yo was invited to a birthday party this weekend via Evite. I had not RSVPd. Kid texted my kid and my kid told me to RSVP yes and I did.

Are these girls your daughter hangs out with regularly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15yo son and their plans often fall through. However, birthdays are the one time it usually happens.

Do you know these parents?

I would text them and say you can pick them up and drive them home. It may be a ride issue.

I haven’t met them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your mistake was the Evite. Either you or your daughter get the girl's cells and send the time and place in a group chat and ask the girls to text RSVP by x date. Follow up on that date with anyone that hasn't.

My 15yo was invited to a birthday party this weekend via Evite. I had not RSVPd. Kid texted my kid and my kid told me to RSVP yes and I did.

Are these girls your daughter hangs out with regularly?

These are friends she just made this school year. Outside of school, she hasn’t had a chance to hang out with them.