Wife Spending Money

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Anonymous wrote:I have a win/win proposal for you. You can save a fortune on all the baby crap by buying the substantial majority of it used (except for the car seat, buy that new). Take the money you saved from buying baby stuff used and use that for the backsplash.

Getting baby stuff new is generally a rip off and you can get baby stuff in excellent condition on CL or FB Marketplace for 10-20% of the retail price.

Truth. And you don’t need matching nursery suites. A good crib is under $500.

OP here. My wife likes things to match. We will be getting everything to match. We will be buying a nursery set mostly like from PotteryBarn. She really likes those and says they’re high quality.

I was just about to say, let me guess, she wants a matching set from Pottery Barn Kids.

Oh man, you are in for it. It is cheap crap, but they make it look really pretty and so UMC that all the first time basic moms buy it up.

I really hope she didn’t furnish the condo with the same quality mass market mall store furniture. Did you start a thread about her wanting the Pottery Barn baby furniture and then argue with everyone about how she only likes “high quality” stuff? And is this the same wife that only wants to eat organic and has you getting meat delivered from “local farms.” I bet yes it is

OP here. What is wrong with matching though? I would assume a nursery with all different colors would look like a clown room. We are looking at a variety of places but mostly BuyBuyBaby and will get a matching crib and dresser set.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a win/win proposal for you. You can save a fortune on all the baby crap by buying the substantial majority of it used (except for the car seat, buy that new). Take the money you saved from buying baby stuff used and use that for the backsplash.

Getting baby stuff new is generally a rip off and you can get baby stuff in excellent condition on CL or FB Marketplace for 10-20% of the retail price.

Truth. And you don’t need matching nursery suites. A good crib is under $500.

OP here. My wife likes things to match. We will be getting everything to match. We will be buying a nursery set mostly like from PotteryBarn. She really likes those and says they’re high quality.

I was just about to say, let me guess, she wants a matching set from Pottery Barn Kids.

Oh man, you are in for it. It is cheap crap, but they make it look really pretty and so UMC that all the first time basic moms buy it up.

I really hope she didn’t furnish the condo with the same quality mass market mall store furniture. Did you start a thread about her wanting the Pottery Barn baby furniture and then argue with everyone about how she only likes “high quality” stuff? And is this the same wife that only wants to eat organic and has you getting meat delivered from “local farms.” I bet yes it is

OP here. What is wrong with matching though? I would assume a nursery with all different colors would look like a clown room. We are looking at a variety of places but mostly BuyBuyBaby and will get a matching crib and dresser set.

OP here. I get it. I wanted everything to match. PBK was one on my list and I took months to decide. In the end I went with a still expensive but less expensive option. I made a thread about it and almost everyone said PBK was overpriced and shopping would take a long time. We went with the Million Dollar Baby crib and dresser. It took about a week to arrive and looks great. We spent the most on the nursery chair. All of it cost around 2k instead of the 4-5k PBK would cost.

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If you make good money and she doesn’t normally spend much then let her spend as much as she wants.

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Anonymous wrote:Hardware and light fixtures are a great way to change the look of a kitchen very cheaply and you can do both yourself. If she can do the backsplash herself, it also won’t be much money. She sounds like she is spending a little money, but spending it wisely.

OP here. We will be hiring someone to do it because neither of us know how to it. We want it done right. I still think it’s very unnecessary. The kitchen is white with black hardware and light gray walls. She wants to change it to nickel and add a light gray backsplash. All of it will cost about 2k.

OMG...stop whining.

Actually he has a point. Those changes are pretty much the same color palate and look as currently have and nickel is already outdated. This IS a waste of 2k.

DP. Nickel is not outdated, and is far more timeless than black hardware.

Timeless? What hardware did they use on their cabinets 3000 years ago?

OP’s condo won’t even exist in 3000 years so what people used that long ago, or will use that far into the future, is irrelevant. Timeless is relative to the life of the structure.

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Anonymous wrote:Hardware and light fixtures are a great way to change the look of a kitchen very cheaply and you can do both yourself. If she can do the backsplash herself, it also won’t be much money. She sounds like she is spending a little money, but spending it wisely.

OP here. We will be hiring someone to do it because neither of us know how to it. We want it done right. I still think it’s very unnecessary. The kitchen is white with black hardware and light gray walls. She wants to change it to nickel and add a light gray backsplash. All of it will cost about 2k.

OMG...stop whining.

Actually he has a point. Those changes are pretty much the same color palate and look as currently have and nickel is already outdated. This IS a waste of 2k.

DP. Nickel is not outdated, and is far more timeless than black hardware.

Timeless? What hardware did they use on their cabinets 3000 years ago?

OP’s condo won’t even exist in 3000 years so what people used that long ago, or will use that far into the future, is irrelevant. Timeless is relative to the life of the structure.

No, “timeless” is a silly word to use in this context.

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Anonymous wrote:If you make good money and she doesn’t normally spend much then let her spend as much as she wants.

Op is living in a mortgaged condo. It isn’t as if they are billionaires. This idea of “but I want it and I deserve it and we have the money” is why so many people don’t do well with long term financial goals and their kids end up taking out a bunch of dept for college