What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?

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Pantyhose fetish...

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Anonymous wrote:People who think people have no idea they are swingers are dead wrong. That news travels like wildfire.

We just recently found that that my FIL (60s) and his wife (50s) are swingers. I think it's hilarious. My H doesn't think so.

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Pre-proposal abortion during grad school.

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

I was agreeing with you, for goodness sakes.

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Anonymous wrote:People who think people have no idea they are swingers are dead wrong. That news travels like wildfire.

+100

Same with the DADT people

Who cares? It's consensual.

You will be a social pariah in the neighborhood and school communities and your kids/teens will be horrified. So- there is that...

That presumes everyone in a community is a priggish betrayed little bitch like you. Many adults - and I know you can’t accept this and will squawk like the bird you are in response - do not take their relationship anxieties and failures on third parties.

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Anonymous wrote:People who think people have no idea they are swingers are dead wrong. That news travels like wildfire.

We just recently found that that my FIL (60s) and his wife (50s) are swingers. I think it's hilarious. My H doesn't think so.

Time for Porn Hub - mature swingers! Can you send a pic? Bad visual!

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Anonymous wrote:People who think people have no idea they are swingers are dead wrong. That news travels like wildfire.

We just recently found that that my FIL (60s) and his wife (50s) are swingers. I think it's hilarious. My H doesn't think so.

Time for Porn Hub - mature swingers! Can you send a pic? Bad visual!

Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

So you let them grow up in the bad marriage and witness dysfunction while screwing a ton of other women instead of putting your kids first and ending the shitty marriage. Great dad

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Anonymous wrote:His complete lack of sex drive. Though I think it’s easy to guess we’re not super active in the bedroom dept.

Medical issues or is he getting it elsewhere?

Functional depression. Also you’re a horrible person.

Nope, just stating what happens in many cases.

Not this one. And your response is still rude.

NP, but he/she was right. You answered depression, that's a medical issue, the end. No need to be so insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:His complete lack of sex drive. Though I think it’s easy to guess we’re not super active in the bedroom dept.

Medical issues or is he getting it elsewhere?

Functional depression. Also you’re a horrible person.

Nope, just stating what happens in many cases.

Not this one. And your response is still rude.

NP, but he/she was right. You answered depression, that's a medical issue, the end. No need to be so insecure.

Calling someone out for implying my partner is cheating is not being insecure, its not being a doormat. The folks here are incredibly toxic and I think it’s fine to say as much.

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Anonymous wrote:People who think people have no idea they are swingers are dead wrong. That news travels like wildfire.

We just recently found that that my FIL (60s) and his wife (50s) are swingers. I think it's hilarious. My H doesn't think so.

Ewww.
I'm think it's incredibly dumb and trashy, especially for post-menopausal people. I'm sure they themselves think they are oh-so-hot. Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:His complete lack of sex drive. Though I think it’s easy to guess we’re not super active in the bedroom dept.

Medical issues or is he getting it elsewhere?

Functional depression. Also you’re a horrible person.

Nope, just stating what happens in many cases.

Not this one. And your response is still rude.

NP, but he/she was right. You answered depression, that's a medical issue, the end. No need to be so insecure.

Calling someone out for implying my partner is cheating is not being insecure, its not being a doormat. The folks here are incredibly toxic and I think it’s fine to say as much.

Holy crap you're dumb. He was implying your husband is cheating IF he doesn't have a medical issue. And you confirmed he has a medical issue.

Try not taking everything as a personal insult and maybe you'll find the place less toxic.

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* but feel free to take holy crap you're dumb as a personal insult

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

You sound like my father. I always suspected things but my mom was in denial till she couldn't be anymore. You can blame your wife but you are the reason why the marriage is bad and if you were a responsible adult instead of cheating you'd leave the marriage, divorce and then date. You aren't pulling it off as well as you think. I have zero relationship with my Dad who blames everyone but himself. Now he's in assisted living and alone. He lost his family. But, at least his has his "girlfriends." Except most of them abandoned him once the money ran dry after he spent most of it on them. Be smug. That is your future.

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Sure thing.

It’s totally me. Thanks for continuing the utter lack of empathy. Thumbs up.