What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

ooops, I did read that wrong. My apologies.

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

I was agreeing with you, for goodness sakes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

A little of both. I ended it and got full custody. I'm an awesome father

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

So you let them grow up in the bad marriage and witness dysfunction while screwing a ton of other women instead of putting your kids first and ending the shitty marriage. Great dad

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

You sound like my father. I always suspected things but my mom was in denial till she couldn't be anymore. You can blame your wife but you are the reason why the marriage is bad and if you were a responsible adult instead of cheating you'd leave the marriage, divorce and then date. You aren't pulling it off as well as you think. I have zero relationship with my Dad who blames everyone but himself. Now he's in assisted living and alone. He lost his family. But, at least his has his "girlfriends." Except most of them abandoned him once the money ran dry after he spent most of it on them. Be smug. That is your future.

it's not my future or even one bit of my past. I did divorce and have dated wonderful women while raising my children as a single father. They aren't bitter nasty kids who would abandon me, like you. Don't project your miserable family life on me.

[Anonymous]

Things we hide: My DH's nightly drinks of 13 ounces of bourbon (though, honestly I am sure many suspect based on his social media posts that he takes down the next morning), my DH's occasional texting of friend from high school that has been in love with him for 40 years, my hidden monitoring of that texting, and our once a year threesomes with escorts (though I would not count this as "ugly" - everyone consenting and happy). Everyone has a secret...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things we hide: My DH's nightly drinks of 13 ounces of bourbon (though, honestly I am sure many suspect based on his social media posts that he takes down the next morning), my DH's occasional texting of friend from high school that has been in love with him for 40 years, my hidden monitoring of that texting, and our once a year threesomes with escorts (though I would not count this as "ugly" - everyone consenting and happy). Everyone has a secret...

Male or female escorts? We once had a threesome with another female while on vacation and while it was a bi-curious experience for me, seeing my husband have sex with another woman and enjoying it put an end to that.

[Anonymous]

Female escorts. Bi-curious for me only - no real attraction, but they are professionals and make everyone feel good. Felt exciting and new (though we have done this about 15 time now - in our mid-50s) I think the smart paid escorts know to concentrate on the wife - or you won't see any repeat business! Not sure I would be interested if the third party were not a professional - very important for us to know up front the agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female escorts. Bi-curious for me only - no real attraction, but they are professionals and make everyone feel good. Felt exciting and new (though we have done this about 15 time now - in our mid-50s) I think the smart paid escorts know to concentrate on the wife - or you won't see any repeat business! Not sure I would be interested if the third party were not a professional - very important for us to know up front the agreement.

Not to be too explicit but is your husband an active participant or just a spectator and if a participant is he with both of you?

[Anonymous]

Active participant. with both. Interestingly, the real benefits from the encounters come afterwards - makes for great sex for months...

[Anonymous]

LOL. To really discuss this, realized I should move to the explicit forum1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

You have no idea about any of the men she is having sex with. Stop projecting your ideas on her choices.

The insanity and bitterness by female respondents on this topic is unreal. Lunatics.

I'm neither insane, nor bitter in the least. I am a man who posted the bolded statement so you are wrong on three counts. As a man who has had numerous APs over more than a decade, half of them were single women and none of the married women were found out by their spouses or anyone else. The majority of people pull this off just fine. Oh he horror if my kids had found out? Hell, they would be on my side. Trust me. They lived through my bad marriage to their mother.

So you let them grow up in the bad marriage and witness dysfunction while screwing a ton of other women instead of putting your kids first and ending the shitty marriage. Great dad

Apparently he was the bigger problem in the marriage, what a mess he is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My affair. My husband’s interest in me sexually became non existent after 20 years of marriage but otherwise we co-exist nicely. We have a DADT agreement and it works for me. This is not what I wished for in a marriage but going sex less was not an option.

Realize a lot of the men you are having sex with do not have that agreement in their marriages and you and your spouse are opening yourselves and family to danger, your kids finding out, etc if a betrayed angry spouse finds out you are screwing her husband. I hope you are keeping it to single people.

Exactly. No they aren't putting their poor kids first, and frankly this is gross. Single can be bad too because obviously to see a married person to begin with they too have deep rooted problems.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

Yep. How humiliating for teenagers. I’m 50 and still remember the swinger couple from our neighborhood. Their poor kids when the secret came out and spread like wildfire. Same with the Ashley Madison mom in our neighborhood. Her sons are mortified.

Kids know everything. My kids told me a ton about their friends parents. Kids check up on their parents and sadly these numnuts have zero clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!

The sad part is your have kids and do this nonsense.

Wake the F up and be a better role model for your kids. Eventually kids find out everything...

Yes! Don’t have a fun sex life! Have a dead bedroom or get divorced! Much better for kids . . .

Then you shouldn't have had kids. Seriously get some help and learn what a real marriage is.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, I have nothing to hide which means we are either incredibly boring or we don't give a damn what people know about us. It's definitely more of the former! We are both sane and stable, no addictions, we have a very nice sex life and our kids are very well balanced. Where did we go wrong!

[Anonymous]

I periodically throw away my DHs clothes. The ones I don't like. I never admit it to him.