Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a guy who relates to people by joking around. He may not realize that he's upset you or made you feel weird. He also sounds like he is scrambling for child care and you could probably really help him out. It's your call. You are lucky to be able to stay home - not everyone is. (I'm a full-time working mom and this week is pretty much hell due to all the school closures, some last-minute, coupled with a very busy work week.) Count your blessings and maybe help the guy out - he might be able to help you out sometime in the future, or just be a better neighbor.

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Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.

This

I wouldn’t because she’d be right.

I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"

The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.

I am a SAHM myself and think the guy was just joking, and definitely don't read anything misogynistic in it.

[Anonymous]

But Op can feel anyway she wants about it, and do anything she wants about it. She owes him nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of why people look down on SAHMs.

I don’t think the anti-SAHMs are making themselves look good either.

No one is "anti-SAHMs". Just because OP is an SAHM, doesn't mean she gets a free pass to post idiotic things.

I'm friends with lots of SAHMs who don't act as tone-deaf and entitled as OP.

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Anonymous wrote:But Op can feel anyway she wants about it, and do anything she wants about it. She owes him nothing.

Absolutely. If she doesn't like this guy, she doesn't have to watch his kid(s). But she's still coming off as just as much of a lousy person as he is.

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

Why would you feel the need to share that kind of information? Do you also feel compelled to share the contents of your kid's lunch box, and what brand of shampoo you use?

If you don’t want anyone sharing life events, then you shouldn't be on Facebook. That’s kind of the point. What amazing glamorous things do you consider acceptable to post? A child starting preschool is usually an exciting day.

Since when is sitting around your house or running a few errands solo a "life event"?

The post wasn't about the kid growing up and hitting a milestone, it was about the mom having free time.

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Anonymous wrote:It would be good for everyone's me tal health to have 3 hours of personal time to do as you wished every morning. The reality is though that the vast majority of people don't get a few hours a day to relax and self care.

If you do, good for you but you should have the self awareness to realize you are an anomaly and there are a lot of people out there working really hard and long hours who rarely get a break, let alone every morning.

Bragging about something you have that you know almost no one else does and that most people wish they could have even a little of like walking through a crowd of hungry children while ahowing iff how much food you have. It's just rude.

Get in touch with the world, be appreciative if how easy you have it and that you can take 3 hours a day to yourself and help out people who are struggling around you.

This sums it up nicely.

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Anonymous wrote:It would be good for everyone's me tal health to have 3 hours of personal time to do as you wished every morning. The reality is though that the vast majority of people don't get a few hours a day to relax and self care.

If you do, good for you but you should have the self awareness to realize you are an anomaly and there are a lot of people out there working really hard and long hours who rarely get a break, let alone every morning.

Bragging about something you have that you know almost no one else does and that most people wish they could have even a little of like walking through a crowd of hungry children while ahowing iff how much food you have. It's just rude.

Get in touch with the world, be appreciative if how easy you have it and that you can take 3 hours a day to yourself and help out people who are struggling around you.

+100! This is where I'm coming from when I posted that wouldn't it be obnoxious if Bob Biglaw posted his $500K+ salary. It's not that the money he makes isn't hard-earned or that he doesn't deserve it, it's that it is out of touch and obnoxious to post about a wealth of anything...be it time or money.

[Anonymous]

Not doing someone a favor does not make someone "a lousy person".

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Anonymous wrote:Not doing someone a favor does not make someone "a lousy person".

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Anonymous wrote:Not doing someone a favor does not make someone "a lousy person".

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That's not the reason people think OP is a lousy person. She's entitled and tone-deaf.

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Anonymous wrote:Not doing someone a favor does not make someone "a lousy person".

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That's not the reason people think OP is a lousy person. She's entitled and tone-deaf.

Man you guys are awful. She said she regretted posting it and deleted her account. FFS. Does she now owe it to everyone to do them any favor they ask?

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That's not the reason people think OP is a lousy person. She's entitled and tone-deaf.

Man you guys are awful. She said she regretted posting it and deleted her account. FFS. Does she now owe it to everyone to do them any favor they ask?

ITS NOT ABOUT THE FAVOR.

[Anonymous]

OP, please update! What did you do?

I’m invested in this now

[Anonymous]

Whenever someone has to ask if they're being petty, the answer is usually yes.