Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?

[Anonymous]

I’m currently a Sahm, my youngest is 4 and in preschool 9-1 weekdays. At the beginning of the year I posted to FB that I loved the peace and quiet of doing nothing from 9-1 now that Larlo is in preschool. Our neighbor, a single dad who, tagged my DH and jokingly asked, what do you think about this, Bob? And, Time for a part-time job? It’s almost like he’s uncomfortable with it and jabs me about it often. My DH has spoken up and said it makes sense, I’ve pointed out that it works for us now, etc.

Our school is doing construction and will have some planned early releases next week. It happens to be neighbors week with his son. He’s now asking if I would grab his son too. Of course, if I was working my kids would go to SACC and I wouldn’t be able to help. But since I SAH, it’s convenient for me to grab his son, isn’t it?

Am I right to say no AND point out that he’s contradicted himself? Or is this petty? It just feels like the perfect opportunity to just be like, now do you get it?

[Anonymous]

He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

[Anonymous]

Posting that was obnoxious. He responded in kind. You can either help out a neighbor who is a struggling single dad who doesn’t have additional help, or you can’t. That’s on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

[Anonymous]

I'd say no as you aren't always going home directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

I would've told him no and I would've told him why it could've been yes but is now no. Maybe he'll stop being a jerk. I realize you welcomed this commentary by posting on FB but do we really think it's ok to tell people to get a job AND tag their spouse in the post? He's an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

I would've told him no and I would've told him why it could've been yes but is now no. Maybe he'll stop being a jerk. I realize you welcomed this commentary by posting on FB but do we really think it's ok to tell people to get a job AND tag their spouse in the post? He's an ass.

Yep, he’s a jerk. Tell him no, that you stay home so you can have quality time with your kids.

[Anonymous]

I would say no and leave it at that. No need to point it out. Also, don’t brag on FB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently a Sahm, my youngest is 4 and in preschool 9-1 weekdays. At the beginning of the year I posted to FB that I loved the peace and quiet of doing nothing from 9-1 now that Larlo is in preschool. Our neighbor, a single dad who, tagged my DH and jokingly asked, what do you think about this, Bob? And, Time for a part-time job? It’s almost like he’s uncomfortable with it and jabs me about it often. My DH has spoken up and said it makes sense, I’ve pointed out that it works for us now, etc.

Our school is doing construction and will have some planned early releases next week. It happens to be neighbors week with his son. He’s now asking if I would grab his son too. Of course, if I was working my kids would go to SACC and I wouldn’t be able to help. But since I SAH, it’s convenient for me to grab his son, isn’t it?

Am I right to say no AND point out that he’s contradicted himself? Or is this petty? It just feels like the perfect opportunity to just be like, now do you get it?

I would definitely say no and tell him you’re too busy looking for that part time job he suggested.

And yes, stop posting your joy on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently a Sahm, my youngest is 4 and in preschool 9-1 weekdays. At the beginning of the year I posted to FB that I loved the peace and quiet of doing nothing from 9-1 now that Larlo is in preschool. Our neighbor, a single dad who, tagged my DH and jokingly asked, what do you think about this, Bob? And, Time for a part-time job? It’s almost like he’s uncomfortable with it and jabs me about it often. My DH has spoken up and said it makes sense, I’ve pointed out that it works for us now, etc.

Our school is doing construction and will have some planned early releases next week. It happens to be neighbors week with his son. He’s now asking if I would grab his son too. Of course, if I was working my kids would go to SACC and I wouldn’t be able to help. But since I SAH, it’s convenient for me to grab his son, isn’t it?

Am I right to say no AND point out that he’s contradicted himself? Or is this petty? It just feels like the perfect opportunity to just be like, now do you get it?

I would definitely say no and tell him you’re too busy looking for that part time job he suggested.

And yes, stop posting your joy on social media.

This is the perfect and only response you need. I love it!

[Anonymous]

If you are at all spiritual, it is lent and the season for repentance. I would do it as part of a greater sacrifice. It’s important to lighten each other’s loads

[Anonymous]

So you can help out a neighbor, a single parent, but you don't want to because of a comment he made on one of your now-deleted social media post?

And he's obnoxious?

[Anonymous]

OP you have every right to post WHATEVER YOU WANT on facebook.

Ten years from now you will want to go back and reflect on those days--how much it meant to you to have a break so that when you picked up your little one you were rested and "fresh' and the fun things you were able to do the rest of the day.

Your neighbor is an ass. You owe him nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd say no as you aren't always going home directly.

“I would LOVE to help but wee have plans so it doesn’t work for us.” Big smile.

Do not say yes to helping jerks. I guarantee he won’t appreciate it.