Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

Your other neighbors are likely wondering the same. And maybe some friends who won't say anything to you. That's just life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.

This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.

I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.

Your other neighbors are likely wondering the same. And maybe some friends who won't say anything to you. That's just life.

Yup.

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Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.

This

I wouldn’t because she’d be right.

I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"

The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.

First of all, the MIL comment was a hypothetical, so your lame attempt at a put-down looks even more lame.

It was a joke. Isn't the purpose of being a SAHM to take care of the children and the home? Nobody is saying you have to be on 24/7 or that you can't take breaks like everyone else, but to post on FB that you will be doing "nothing" for 4 hours in the middle of the day, multiple days a week does make you look like a lazy loser. THAT's something that feeds into the negative narrative about SAHMs. Goodness, have some common sense.

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OP-truly nothing wrong w/you having posted -just oversharing. The guy was a jerk and tagging your DH was an ass move as he was trying to shame choices you as a couple obviously made. I would be fine to say nope and give ZERO reason or help out because I choose to be kind.

One of my best times as a parent was when I stopped working full time for nearly 6 months but kept my full time nanny. My DH & I made sacrifices to be able to afford this reset (afterwards I started my own business.) I felt no reason to hide the luxury of free time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP-truly nothing wrong w/you having posted -just oversharing. The guy was a jerk and tagging your DH was an ass move as he was trying to shame choices you as a couple obviously made. I would be fine to say nope and give ZERO reason or help out because I choose to be kind.

One of my best times as a parent was when I stopped working full time for nearly 6 months but kept my full time nanny. My DH & I made sacrifices to be able to afford this reset (afterwards I started my own business.) I felt no reason to hide the luxury of free time.

So one of your best times as a *parent* was...having no job and a nanny? Love to know what your "business" is.

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

Why would you feel the need to share that kind of information? Do you also feel compelled to share the contents of your kid's lunch box, and what brand of shampoo you use?

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.

Oh OK. So it's fine if Bob Biglaw posts something to the effect of, "Man, now that I finally made partner and am making $581,435.02 a year, those long days at the office seem so much more worth it!"

Got it.

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This thread is an example of why people look down on SAHMs.

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

Why would you feel the need to share that kind of information? Do you also feel compelled to share the contents of your kid's lunch box, and what brand of shampoo you use?

If you don’t want anyone sharing life events, then you shouldn't be on Facebook. That’s kind of the point. What amazing glamorous things do you consider acceptable to post? A child starting preschool is usually an exciting day.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is an example of why people look down on SAHMs.

I don’t think the anti-SAHMs are making themselves look good either.

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Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.

Why would you feel the need to share that kind of information? Do you also feel compelled to share the contents of your kid's lunch box, and what brand of shampoo you use?

If you don’t want anyone sharing life events, then you shouldn't be on Facebook. That’s kind of the point. What amazing glamorous things do you consider acceptable to post? A child starting preschool is usually an exciting day.

Starting preschool? Sure.

posting "I loved the peace and quiet of doing nothing from 9-1?" Obnoxious.

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If he hadn't been a jerk would you have said yes? At least for a couple days of the week?

If so, I would still say yes in the spirit of it takes a village and for the sake of his child, etc., but maybe point out, "good thing for both of us I didn't take that part time job, huh?"

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are being petty. I would not feel the same way, and am always glad to help a neighbor out.

Also, I can guarantee you that he has forgotten about it the moment after he hit post (he is a man, after all), but you are keeping this ridiculous thing alive in your mind.

[Anonymous]

Does he want you to just walk the kid home, or watch him too? From the post it seems your kids are young and couldn’t be left unsupervised. I would not sign up to be his free babysitter.

[Anonymous]

It would be good for everyone's me tal health to have 3 hours of personal time to do as you wished every morning. The reality is though that the vast majority of people don't get a few hours a day to relax and self care.

If you do, good for you but you should have the self awareness to realize you are an anomaly and there are a lot of people out there working really hard and long hours who rarely get a break, let alone every morning.

Bragging about something you have that you know almost no one else does and that most people wish they could have even a little of like walking through a crowd of hungry children while ahowing iff how much food you have. It's just rude.

Get in touch with the world, be appreciative if how easy you have it and that you can take 3 hours a day to yourself and help out people who are struggling around you.