What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

[Anonymous]

There was something wrong with your relationships if they all felt claustrophobic. Only you know whether that means there was something wrong with you and how you interacted with boys and young men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

Agree..plus OP said they have been dating a year already? OP! Why would you be ok with this? Way too young. They should not be alone, ever. Neither can drive, surely it can’t be easy for them to have sex at this point. No basement hangouts, no bedroom.

+2

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS has been dating a girl for almost a year. I know they are considering it. I have been advising against it happening yet, and I have been thwarting opportunity, but I am a realist.

I don't. They buy them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 13 year old, so it isn’t an issue yet, but he knows there is an open box of condoms in the medicine cabinet beside the soap and tampons and zit cream. I restock them all as needed.

Plenty of 13yr olds are having sex

-middle school teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, answering the question: Is there some reason your kid can’t walk into CVS and buy his own?

Yes. He's 14. GF is 15.

And they have been together a year?!? They've already slept together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

The average age of first sex is 16 so there are plenty of 12-15yr olds having sex whether you like it or not. A 14 and 15yr old dating for a year are already having sex. As a parent, you can only talk to them so much and get books or send info. Ultimately teens are going to do things whether you like it or not. The stern parents are always the most clueless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would really worry about my 14 year old having sex. I don’t know any 14 year olds emotionally mature enough to make that decision and deal with the emotions that come with the act. Have you talked to gf parents? It might help to be on the same page on this, so you are both thwarting opportunity. Obviously, it could still happen and you want them prepared, but at this point delaying would be my primary goal.

+1. Actually, breaking them up would be my primary goal.

they will just see each other behind your back and your kid won't communicate with you anymore, but kudos to you for being a "great" parent

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Never. If he can’t buy his own condoms he’s not ready to have sex.

This is not a thought a 15 year old would have. Ever.

Newsflash: 15 year olds should not be having sex. If yours are, you are 100% failing them as parents.

This thread is so gross and pathetic.

+1000

Now find reality.

I can guarantee more 15 year olds in your world are having sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - a sincere and heartfelt thank you to whoever wrote "The problem is that OP is trying as hard as she can to get her son to understand that he shouldn’t be having sex this young, but it looks like he’s just going to do it anyway." That is exactly the case.

I have no desire to break them up. She is an admirable girl, and they have a healthy relationship. (Most importantly - neither is the boss.) It is in face very likely that they won't have sex anytime soon because she is levelheaded. But my son is most certainly a romantic who sincerely believes himself ready for many adult things. (He'd like to vote and drive as well!) Of course I know that this very delusion proves that he's immature. This situation shouldn't be happening, But it is. So what would you do?

14 is young even for dating, much less a serious relationship.

You didn’t date as a HS freshman?

Nope

Interesting. My Gen X peers and I had Gf/Bf relationships then.

Exactly. Spin the bottle and 7 minutes in heaven were so typical for middle schoolers. I mean look at 13 going on 30. How about the movie Thirteen. Look at every single high school movie made from the 70's until now.

Some of you parents seem to have some strange notion that high schoolers are not sexually active and it's weird. And if you are going to show surveys, you realize that so so so so many teens lie, even in anonymous surveys for fear of being caught by crazy parents like you. And most teens will absolutely lie to your face. And if you forbid things, they will go behind you back the majority of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. I will teach about safe sex. But, I will not provide contraceptives. I do not condone sex out of wedlock.

By 2010 only 5% of woman were virgins on their wedding night and 25% had 10 or more partners on their wedding night

By 2020 only 1% of woman were virgins and 39% had 10 or more partners on their wedding night


But you keep preaching mama!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was something wrong with your relationships if they all felt claustrophobic. Only you know whether that means there was something wrong with you and how you interacted with boys and young men.

I was immature. In 8th grade I watched my group of girlfriends walk off and I wished I was with them, not with a boy slobbering on me.

In college I picked guys just like me. Of course guys aren’t judged as harshly. My husband was the first one I liked being with for long periods of time.

[Anonymous]

I would not depend on a horny 14 year old to use a condom successfully. Maybe you can show him on a banana and gross him out into keeping it in his pants another couple years