Six kids...eight kids - when did every family turn into the brady bunch?

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Anonymous wrote:I thought we were going away from huge families with the advent of birth control but I guess not.

None of my six kids were accidents, dear. We knew exactly what we were doing. What a stupid statement.

Did you want such a large family from the start?

Yes. Would have had more if not for age and complications.

Are you religious? Or have a farm?

No farm. As for being religious, it is defined as, “relating to or believing in a religion,” so yes. I’m sure you’d like to believe it means something different though so I’ll leave any conjecture up to you.

Do other people in your religion also have large families?

Does your religion encourage large families or discourage birth control? Does it play a factor at all in your family planning?

I see where you’re going, but there’s really no correlation. It’s somewhat offensive actually. We’re quite capable of controlling ourselves and not having kids, you know? We’ve chosen to have a large family.

How are those questions offensive? Family planning is an important part of some religions. ??

Do you use birth control now that you’re done having kids?

Anyone?

Is it really offensive to ask if your religion plays a role in your family planning?

Obviously it does for Catholics...not sure why PP overreacted to the question.

I believe she answered your question. She said “we are capable of controlling ourselves” but you just keep pushing. That indicates her children were not born because she didn’t/couldn’t/wouldn’t use birth control.

No, she didn’t answer at all.

And I’m opening it up for others. Obviously, religion is a factor.

Maybe it’s a sore spot for some? Don’t want to admit that they are influenced by religion?

I’m the mom of 7. I posted earlier. We are sort of religious (as in we go on big holidays) but it has no impact on our family size.
What is your agenda?

No agenda. It's a relevant question for large families.

You don't think religion plays a factor at all in family size, family planning, or decisions around contraceptives?

Please don’t put words into my mouth. This particular poster told you she was offended by your question and it’s almost as if you demand to know from her - she does not owe you that. I just told you it didn’t play a part in my family at all. Like 0%. You can choose to believe it or not. Does it play a part in a lot of large families? Certainly.

Jeez. I said I was surprised she was so evasive but I didn't push her -- I opened up the question to others with large families.

Thank you for responding about your family.

I'd love to hear if it was a factor for other DCUM large families. Just like there are other factors - wealth, "trendy", etc.

I find your response rude. Also the posts at 22:12 and 17:10.
If she says the question is offensive to her, stop. It doesn’t matter whether you find it weird she’s “evasive”.

Again, I wasn't asking her - I opened it up to ask other large families. It's very telling that only 1 person with a large family is willing to answer.

I would not read too much into it. I myself received a nasty response that I was a terrible parent after replying that Jeff removed. No one wants to respond if people aren’t open minded.

[Anonymous]

This thread is really interesting when compared with another active thread:
"Eldercare is tearing my family apart"

Big families don't seem immune to the struggles of aging, and maybe even impaired, parents.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is really interesting when compared with another active thread:
"Eldercare is tearing my family apart"

Big families don't seem immune to the struggles of aging, and maybe even impaired, parents.

I would not expect them to be. On one hand, you have more people to help. OTOH, that also means you have more opinions.

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No..when I hear of families with more than 4 kids I think they are either religious fundamentalists or low socioeconomic status.

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Anonymous wrote:No..when I hear of families with more than 4 kids I think they are either religious fundamentalists or low socioeconomic status.

Agreed. Usually they are either religious, or the moms who have 6 kids with 4 different dads bc she has to have a baby with every new loser boyfriend.

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Another 8 kid family - this time with the father suing the mother for reckless driving

https://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/missouri-dad-sues-crash-killed-children-68947124

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Anonymous wrote:It's strange to me to see households with 5 or more kids in the 21st Century. Is this common in your area?

6 kids and mom die in a house fire - the mom was only 33!

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/08/us/clinton-mississippi-house-fire.html

Mother of 8 killed by reckless driver

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7984409/Man-hunts-alleged-hit-run-driver-wife-killed.html

If you aren't contributing to their support then it is none of your damn business.

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I'm soon to be a mom of 5 living here in the DC area and I'll add my $0.02.

When I met my DH he was divorced with 1 child. I always wanted a large family and told him that. We now have 3 of our own and 1 on the way, so a total of 5 with his eldest being an adult.

We are not religious - I was raised Catholic and he was raised Baptist, we got married at an Episcopalian church and now attend a Wesleyan church. We want the kids to have an understanding of God and we pray with them (meals and night prayers) but that's about it.

We are not rich by DC standards but we are for other parts of the country. HHI is slightly over $350K. We own a rental property in the city and we live in the suburbs. We spend money on travel and that will go down slightly with the new addition but we send our kids to public school and supplement with private tutoring. We have decided that our children will go to community college and then transfer to a university to save on the cost of higher education. We have college funds but our priority is to max our retirement first.

Overall, we just love being parents. We love the baby cuddles, we get excited talking about the future with our older children, we look forward to babysitting our grandkids when the time comes. We are just in love with each other and with our family.

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Not common at all in our NW DC neighborhood. I think the biggest families I know of have 3 or 4 kids.

Actually, one family had 5, but they were very religious, and have now moved out to the suburbs.

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I feel like OP doesn't actually know what the Brady Bunch was ...

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Cute family of five and the mom is so young - I see her popping out at least one more.

Yall can't convince this isn't some kind of trend.



https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8009661/Utah-mother-calls-911-help-feeding-newborn-daughter.html

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^^ Young Utah mom of five, and a blogger? Probably Mormon, and that dynamic has been around for a long time. Not common nationwide.

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Anonymous wrote:Cute family of five and the mom is so young - I see her popping out at least one more.

Yall can't convince this isn't some kind of trend.



https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8009661/Utah-mother-calls-911-help-feeding-newborn-daughter.html

I have a feeling if this was a mom of color in the picture OP would using different words than “cute” and “trendy” to describe her. Just a hunch.

Also, this is a Mormon blogger. That’s a fairly common family size and marriage age in Utah. Most people in that part of the country get married right after college and start a family right away.

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Anonymous wrote:Cute family of five and the mom is so young - I see her popping out at least one more.

Yall can't convince this isn't some kind of trend.



https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8009661/Utah-mother-calls-911-help-feeding-newborn-daughter.html

I have a feeling if this was a mom of color in the picture OP would using different words than “cute” and “trendy” to describe her. Just a hunch.

Also, this is a Mormon blogger. That’s a fairly common family size and marriage age in Utah. Most people in that part of the country get married right after college and start a family right away.

She also called 911 because she didn’t have formula to feed her baby.

Can you imagine the response if a mom of color had done that?

She would have gotten a CPS call, maybe even arrested, not 2 officers kindly delivering formula and milk to her at 2 am.

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Anonymous wrote:Cute family of five and the mom is so young - I see her popping out at least one more.

Yall can't convince this isn't some kind of trend.



https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8009661/Utah-mother-calls-911-help-feeding-newborn-daughter.html

I have a feeling if this was a mom of color in the picture OP would using different words than “cute” and “trendy” to describe her. Just a hunch.

Also, this is a Mormon blogger. That’s a fairly common family size and marriage age in Utah. Most people in that part of the country get married right after college and start a family right away.

She also called 911 because she didn’t have formula to feed her baby.

Can you imagine the response if a mom of color had done that?

She would have gotten a CPS call, maybe even arrested, not 2 officers kindly delivering formula and milk to her at 2 am.

She has had CPS visits before and likely will again. She and her husband (really more sugar daddy- he auditioned her on group dates and made her wait on him like a maid to prove herself and now gives her "sermons" discussing how she holds up against other women physically and sexually) are hopped up on adderall and grossly endanger their 5 feral kids on the daily. They're constantly in the ER and it is a matter of time before something really horrific happens to those kids. I think the second youngest may have permanent damage to his leg because these dimwits let him run around with a broken leg for weeks at a time and removed his cast to let him bounce around on a trampoline. He's still limping. They're the worst and never should have had these kids, they can't handle it at ALL.