How much do you pay for in-home care for an infant?

[Anonymous]

I was the PP that apparently started this all when I asked at 12:20 yesterday "Is paying the weekly charge all it takes to be a great partner for an in-home provider?"

I did not mean that all I care about was money - I asked it bc it seemed like all the pp DCPs cared about was money when I would have guessed that while money is obviously important, there would be other qualities that a DCP would look for in addition to money, including respect, proper discipline of their children, punctuality, etc. Instead all I got in response was how terrible "most" parents can be and how DCPs do a way better job.

[Anonymous]

My panties are in a bunch not because of the lone comment, but on the tone all together. And it is condescending and rude and even at my worst moment, I wouldn't make a remark like that because those two words are dangerous when used together. It's offensive. I have not once called anyone in this thread a bad parent, nor would I because I don't personally know any of you. My posts were about what I experienced and maybe a different way to view things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My panties are in a bunch not because of the lone comment, but on the tone all together. And it is condescending and rude and even at my worst moment, I wouldn't make a remark like that because those two words are dangerous when used together. It's offensive. I have not once called anyone in this thread a bad parent, nor would I because I don't personally know any of you. My posts were about what I experienced and maybe a different way to view things.

If the above is true, then you are probably not one of the providers that the parents are taking issue with.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that I do a better job than my daycare kids parents do. No one can replace a parent and I'm not trying to. My whole point is that it sucks to have a parent that trivializes the role that their child's provider has in their lives. We are with the children a lot, and we are not trying to be "more than" but we sure as hell don't deserve to be "less than" either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My panties are in a bunch not because of the lone comment, but on the tone all together. And it is condescending and rude and even at my worst moment, I wouldn't make a remark like that because those two words are dangerous when used together. It's offensive. I have not once called anyone in this thread a bad parent, nor would I because I don't personally know any of you. My posts were about what I experienced and maybe a different way to view things.


If the above is true, then you are probably not one of the providers that the parents are taking issue with

Exactly! NINE PAGES of parents being called horrible things and you pick up on two words and the tone of my post? Honey, you better start at page 1 - there are PLENTY of posts here to take offense to, the least of which is "you people" being used together! Ha!

[Anonymous]

Honestly, most of the providers left in this thread seem like perfectly reasonable people, who deserve respect, who have good days and bad, who work with good and... we'll call them "trying" parents. And if I were you? I'd want to kick Judy's ass for setting this thread on fire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, most of the providers left in this thread seem like perfectly reasonable people, who deserve respect, who have good days and bad, who work with good and... we'll call them "trying" parents. And if I were you? I'd want to kick Judy's ass for setting this thread on fire.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that I do a better job than my daycare kids parents do. No one can replace a parent and I'm not trying to. My whole point is that it sucks to have a parent that trivializes the role that their child's provider has in their lives. We are with the children a lot, and we are not trying to be "more than" but we sure as hell don't deserve to be "less than" either.

Then you are also not one of the providers the parents are upset with.

[Anonymous]

Excuse me? If you are getting paid for 50 hours what the hell do you care how many hours I am at work? Maybe I am trying to do other things, like clean my house, do wash, go grocery shopping or one of the other million things I have to do. You don't have the right to dictate how I use my time while I am paying you to watch my child.

Wow, is all I can say. This is so sad for your child. I guess I have to wonder why the hel you had children if you only work 20 hours a week, but have someone else raise them. I guess it's a good thing s/he gets his love at the Providers house, huh?

[Anonymous]

Can we get back to the question asked. How much do you pay for a nanny? I'm also curious if the weekly salaries that people have posted are before or after taxes...

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we get back to the question asked. How much do you pay for a nanny? I'm also curious if the weekly salaries that people have posted are before or after taxes...

Thanks!

can I suggest you start a new thread to get back to the question? It will get lost here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Excuse me? If you are getting paid for 50 hours what the hell do you care how many hours I am at work? Maybe I am trying to do other things, like clean my house, do wash, go grocery shopping or one of the other million things I have to do. You don't have the right to dictate how I use my time while I am paying you to watch my child.

Wow, is all I can say. This is so sad for your child. I guess I have to wonder why the hel you had children if you only work 20 hours a week, but have someone else raise them. I guess it's a good thing s/he gets his love at the Providers house, huh?

Read, fool. The person who posted this later clarified and doesn't work 20 hrs a week.

Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine that. Parents who thought they were in control don't like finding out that they aren't.

sound like you are the one with control issues.
Ultimately parents are in control. They choose to bring their kids to you and can just stop using your services.
If you piss enough parents off and get a rep, you got no job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Excuse me? If you are getting paid for 50 hours what the hell do you care how many hours I am at work? Maybe I am trying to do other things, like clean my house, do wash, go grocery shopping or one of the other million things I have to do. You don't have the right to dictate how I use my time while I am paying you to watch my child.



Wow, is all I can say. This is so sad for your child. I guess I have to wonder why the hel you had children if you only work 20 hours a week, but have someone else raise them. I guess it's a good thing s/he gets his love at the Providers house, huh?


Read, fool. The person who posted this later clarified and doesn't work 20 hrs a week.

Duh.

THANK YOU!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Excuse me? If you are getting paid for 50 hours what the hell do you care how many hours I am at work? Maybe I am trying to do other things, like clean my house, do wash, go grocery shopping or one of the other million things I have to do. You don't have the right to dictate how I use my time while I am paying you to watch my child.



Wow, is all I can say. This is so sad for your child. I guess I have to wonder why the hell you had children if you only work 20 hours a week, but have someone else raise them. I guess it's a good thing s/he gets his love at the Providers house, huh?


Read, fool. The person who posted this later clarified and doesn't work 20 hrs a week.

Duh.

THANK YOU!!!!!!

Even the fact that a parent posted that , just goes to prove what they would rather be doing. ANYTHING but raising their child. How can you guys jump down a Provider's throat when you spend maybe 4 hours (awake) a day with your child? Doesn't that mean she spends more time with your child than you? And yet you want time to do housework and errand. How utterly SELFISH!