How much do you pay for in-home care for an infant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've read this thread and I have to say, I'm pretty amazed at some of the parent. Why is it okay to call a provider an asshole? I have not seen a provider call parents these kind of names. Until now....

I'm a Provider and most of you are assholes. It's probably a good thing you pay someone else to raise your kids because CLEARLY you are not capable of it. At least your Provider will teach your kids manners.
Oh and btw, go out and don't spend that extra time off you have ,with your kids. Your child, not your provider, is the one who suffers. And once they grow up they will remember that your 'me' time was more important than your time with them., But hey, at least you got your money's worth, of care. I hope your putting away now for that Psychologist your child will need for their abandonment issues.
You guys are PATHETIC. I really feel sad for your children.

Hello? did you read the thread? Name-calling ensues because providers say stupid wacko stuff about parents, parents try to defend, wacko providers cant comprehend and just keep making posts exactly like yours. Parents become frustrated.

I feel sad for the kids you care for. If that's what you really do. Probably just a troll.

It is really uncomprehendable that a parent would call a provider WAKO or demented and other awful names is just disrepectful. What is truly unfortunate is that you obviously have never cared for children other than your own. I am a PROVIDER and provide care in my home. I like ALL of my fellow child care providers open up ourhomes and hearts to care for children. Perhaps instead of bashing these providers you should look at the care that is given.
Children are not sat in front of the TV for 8-12 hours, they are taught the very important things in life, values, caring, sharing and respect for oneself and others. Sadly too many parents today do not have time to spend with their child or have MORE important things to do. What is more important than ones child????

The number one reason most providers decide to start a business in care is to spend more time with their children. What is frustrating is parents like many on this forum who think that because we live in a house in a nice neighborhood and stay home to care for children that we do not need the money. Every single person around the world who works does so because they need to. What is even more frustrating is the lack of respect that is given to this profession, we are all professionals who open our doors each day and at times are faced with many challenges. How many companies allow payment to slid because you are on holidays. When was the last time your cable company or gas company told you not to pay while your were on holidays???

I dare you to work a week as a care provider perhaps then you would have the respect and compassion for care providers. I feel sad for your care provider and hope that they look to Judy's blog for support.

Sally

[Anonymous]

Sally: it is obvious from your post that you are a disciple of Judy. She, you, and her other disciples just keep posting the same shit over and over and over, which you have all borrowed almost verbatim from her stupid blog. It is the group of you who poisoned this thread and created all the rancor. Your responses all have the same themes, paying absolutely no mind to what parents actually write in response. Basically you believe:

Most parents are selfish and rude and put themselves before their children, making them shitty caretakers of their children; meanwhile, in-home daycare providers take better care of their children than the parents do or ever possibly could.
Most parents shit all over their in-home provider and ignore the contract.
Daycare providers work harder than anyone else and should have total control of the parent-caregiver relationship because you are taking care of our most "precious gift".

Reality check: There was ONE (count em), ONE parent on this thread who suggested that in-home daycare providers don't deserve paid vacation at the beginning of this thread. Thereafter, in the early pages *multiple parents*, including myself, chimed in to say that they think providers DO deserve paid vacations and some talked about how much they valued their providers. And yet, those *multiple* parents were ignored by the providers to focus on the response of one person. The entry from ONE parent became the justification to say that all or most parents are horrible and all or most parents don't respect daycare providers.

So, the same negative message about parents (above) is written over and over and over by the providers on this thread and you are shocked that parents have responded angrily? That 18 pages into this bullshit we are not responding respectfully? Of course we are not; this thread has done more to destroy respect for in-home daycare providers than anything else I could possibly conceive of. Why would we respect a group of people who thinks so terribly and speaks so viciously towards the group of people they are supposed to be partnering with in the interest of the children? That tries to tell parents that secretly or not-so-secretly, all their providers hate them and say nasty things about them behind their backs?

What is truly a shame is that I believe with all my heart that most in-home providers are good, honest, caring people trying to make a living like everybody else and are really in it for the kids. For the most part, the parents on this thread have been very specific with their insults and name calling to keep it to the providers ON THIS THREAD and not providers in general. The same cannot be said for the providers on this thread, who generalize about parents with a capital "P" or about "most parents". And you same providers will ignore what I have said in the first line of this paragraph and try to tell me that I am one of "those parents." Blah blah blah blah.

The fact is, the providers started the hostile responses on this thread and the providers started the insults and name calling. Go back to page one. It all started with your darling Judy, who doesn't even live in this area and, judging by her blog, is just looking to insult parents and start fights. Who would want to take advice on how to be a daycare provider from a bitch like that? If you think she is teaching you to have a back bone, then you have confused confidence and courage with nastiness and bravado.

Here's a suggestion: all of you who love Judy's blog: go spew that shit on her blog where you can have your circle-jerk-bitchfest with the small group of small-minded providers who agree with you and STAY OFF OF OUR FORUM. Stop sullying the name of great in-home providers everywhere.

[Anonymous]

And don't give me the line about how you feel bad for my child. She is well loved by a large family and has great daycare providers who we adore.

[Anonymous]

Sally: it is obvious from your post that you are a disciple of Judy. She, you, and her other disciples just keep posting the same shit over and over and over, which you have all borrowed almost verbatim from her stupid blog. It is the group of you who poisoned this thread and created all the rancor. Your responses all have the same themes, paying absolutely no mind to what parents actually write in response. Basically you believe:

Most parents are selfish and rude and put themselves before their children, making them shitty caretakers of their children; meanwhile, in-home daycare providers take better care of their children than the parents do or ever possibly could.
Most parents shit all over their in-home provider and ignore the contract.
Daycare providers work harder than anyone else and should have total control of the parent-caregiver relationship because you are taking care of our most "precious gift".

Reality check: There was ONE (count em), ONE parent on this thread who suggested that in-home daycare providers don't deserve paid vacation at the beginning of this thread. Thereafter, in the early pages *multiple parents*, including myself, chimed in to say that they think providers DO deserve paid vacations and some talked about how much they valued their providers. And yet, those *multiple* parents were ignored by the providers to focus on the response of one person. The entry from ONE parent became the justification to say that all or most parents are horrible and all or most parents don't respect daycare providers.

So, the same negative message about parents (above) is written over and over and over by the providers on this thread and you are shocked that parents have responded angrily? That 18 pages into this bullshit we are not responding respectfully? Of course we are not; this thread has done more to destroy respect for in-home daycare providers than anything else I could possibly conceive of. Why would we respect a group of people who thinks so terribly and speaks so viciously towards the group of people they are supposed to be partnering with in the interest of the children? That tries to tell parents that secretly or not-so-secretly, all their providers hate them and say nasty things about them behind their backs?

What is truly a shame is that I believe with all my heart that most in-home providers are good, honest, caring people trying to make a living like everybody else and are really in it for the kids. For the most part, the parents on this thread have been very specific with their insults and name calling to keep it to the providers ON THIS THREAD and not providers in general. The same cannot be said for the providers on this thread, who generalize about parents with a capital "P" or about "most parents". And you same providers will ignore what I have said in the first line of this paragraph and try to tell me that I am one of "those parents." Blah blah blah blah.

The fact is, the providers started the hostile responses on this thread and the providers started the insults and name calling. Go back to page one. It all started with your darling Judy, who doesn't even live in this area and, judging by her blog, is just looking to insult parents and start fights. Who would want to take advice on how to be a daycare provider from a bitch like that? If you think she is teaching you to have a back bone, then you have confused confidence and courage with nastiness and bravado.

Here's a suggestion: all of you who love Judy's blog: go spew that shit on her blog where you can have your circle-jerk-bitchfest with the small group of small-minded providers who agree with you and STAY OFF OF OUR FORUM. Stop sullying the name of great in-home providers everywhere.

I haven't even read this whole thread, but for the love of God people, stop. It is Christmas eve. Spend some time with your families, enjoy the holiday. Give yourselves a present - stay away from this forum until after Christmas. Why on earth are you all expending your energy on this crap? A 7 paragraph rant at 2 AM on Christmas Eve? Stop the insanity.

[Anonymous]

Happy Holidays, everyone.

[Anonymous]

I haven't even read this whole thread, but for the love of God people, stop. It is Christmas eve. Spend some time with your families, enjoy the holiday. Give yourselves a present - stay away from this forum until after Christmas. Why on earth are you all expending your energy on this crap? A 7 paragraph rant at 2 AM on Christmas Eve? Stop the insanity.

You know, you are right. I am a provider and I hope EVERYONE on here has a Merry Christmas! Enjoys your families during the holidays.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I can't believe people can afford to pay $300.00 per week they must be making some good money. I charge $25.00 per day and even that is a bite out of the pay cheque. Good thing I am a childcare provider @ those rates around here you would be in the negative every week especially w/ 3 children....Wowza

[Anonymous]

Typical rates I saw when we looked (2 years ago) in Rockville ranged from 200-300 for infants and less for kids over 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typical rates I saw when we looked (2 years ago) in Rockville ranged from 200-300 for infants and less for kids over 2.

In DC - also pricing about two years ago - I saw a lot in the $350 range. Anywhere from just under $300 to the highest, an in-home provider charging $450/week.

[Anonymous]

I pay $320 per week for my baby in an in-home daycare in Bethesda. I haven't compared the price to other in-home daycares, but it compares to the more institutional daycares.

[Anonymous]

I am paying $450/wk for infant care in Bethesda 10hrs/day full time 52wks including paid vacations 3 weeks per year plus holidays paid. Am I being overcharged?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am paying $450/wk for infant care in Bethesda 10hrs/day full time 52wks including paid vacations 3 weeks per year plus holidays paid. Am I being overcharged?!

Not if they are doing a great job with your kid(s).

[Anonymous]

WOW I just spent 4 hours reading 18 pages... sigh..

Glad the forum got back to the original topic.

$300 a week in Alexandria. 5 days vacation and 3 days sick leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WOW I just spent 4 hours reading 18 pages... sigh..

Got kinda kooky in there, didn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am paying $450/wk for infant care in Bethesda 10hrs/day full time 52wks including paid vacations 3 weeks per year plus holidays paid. Am I being overcharged?!

Not if they are doing a great job with your kid(s).

Does the rate go down as the infant gets older?

If you account for the 3 weeks vacation, you are actually paying $477/week for the care you are receiving (450 x 52 / 49). If you multiplied that out to a monthly rate (477 x 52 / 12) you are paying a little over $2000/month for care (and that is assuming your back up care you use for those 3 weeks costs the same). That is on the high end for in-home or a center, I think it sounds comparable to a nanny share but I am not that familiar with those. Whether or not you are being overcharged depends on how you feel about the care your child is receiving and whether you can find care you feel similarly happy with (care level, location, safety, adult/child ratio, etc.) for a lower rate elsewhere.