Is paying for a daughter's wedding still a thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were getting married at my in-laws church and my dad and us could only afford a modest amount so it was going to be a small wedding. My in-laws offered to pay for a larger wedding but I knew my dad would not accept it. So a couple of weeks before the wedding my in-laws threw a very nice picnic in their back yard for their friends who would not be at the wedding. It was a great solution.

Why is your dad king of the decision making?

His house, his money, his decision. See how that works? Not np.

Lol... near sighted or bad reading comprehension? I cannot tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Most brides AND grooms parents pay half. It’s sexist to only pay for a daughter’s wedding IMO. I’m 32 and that’s what most of my friends parents did. (My parents gave us a flat amount and in-laws gave nothing)

No, they don't. Bride's family pays for wedding. Groom's family pays for rehearsal dinner and sometimes contributes to honeymoon (ours didn't).

Only if the bride has no education which her parents paid for or job, and will be a housewife fully supported by husband.

[Anonymous]

We have four daughters. Three have gotten married within the past decade, the most recent two years ago. We paid for all three weddings at an average of 50k or more and would do it again. In each instance the in laws contributed one thing or another - like a rehearsal dinner - which was nice but not expected. We always knew we’d be paying for weddings.

Btw all three lived with their husbands before getting married.

[Anonymous]

We paid for our two daughters weddings which were both very expensive at $60,000+ and we paid for our son’s rehearsal dinner. At our daughters weddings the IL’s paid for the rehearsal dinner. It was a lot of money in total but it was worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We paid for our two daughters weddings which were both very expensive at $60,000+ and we paid for our son’s rehearsal dinner. At our daughters weddings the IL’s paid for the rehearsal dinner. It was a lot of money in total but it was worth it.

must be nice to be swimming in money. Their college, grandkids private school and dfownpayment on the house too?

[Anonymous]

Nope. My parents paid for my undergrad. That afforded me a job to pay for my own wedding. They gave a flat amount as a gift, husband’s parents did the same. We made up the difference. This isn’t the 1800s where you have to sell off your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have four daughters. Three have gotten married within the past decade, the most recent two years ago. We paid for all three weddings at an average of 50k or more and would do it again. In each instance the in laws contributed one thing or another - like a rehearsal dinner - which was nice but not expected. We always knew we’d be paying for weddings.

Btw all three lived with their husbands before getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Most brides AND grooms parents pay half. It’s sexist to only pay for a daughter’s wedding IMO. I’m 32 and that’s what most of my friends parents did. (My parents gave us a flat amount and in-laws gave nothing)

No, they don't. Bride's family pays for wedding. Groom's family pays for rehearsal dinner and sometimes contributes to honeymoon (ours didn't).

Not even close to being true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Most brides AND grooms parents pay half. It’s sexist to only pay for a daughter’s wedding IMO. I’m 32 and that’s what most of my friends parents did. (My parents gave us a flat amount and in-laws gave nothing)

No, they don't. Bride's family pays for wedding. Groom's family pays for rehearsal dinner and sometimes contributes to honeymoon (ours didn't).

Not even close to being true.

Amongst my friends who are 30-35 right now, living in DC, the vast majority had parents and inlaws who paid half each. Most gave 20k to their son and 20k to their daughter. If you can't afford any money, that's fine to just show up to your kids wedding, but if you can afford to pay for your daughter's wedding, you should give the same amount to your son.

We plan on giving the same amount to our daughters and son and will offer it as downpayment help or wedding help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Most brides AND grooms parents pay half. It’s sexist to only pay for a daughter’s wedding IMO. I’m 32 and that’s what most of my friends parents did. (My parents gave us a flat amount and in-laws gave nothing)

No, they don't. Bride's family pays for wedding. Groom's family pays for rehearsal dinner and sometimes contributes to honeymoon (ours didn't).

Not even close to being true.

Yeah. I’d love to see that data...