Do parents of popular kids ever have to suffer?

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Nerds run the world.

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Most of my high school’s popular kids peaked in high school, so yes the parents feel it now.

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Anonymous wrote:Nerds run the world.

+1

Not to mention, it is not your job to make anyone "suffer", OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP, my observation is that more parents of "popular" kids get to deal with their kids addictions to drugs or alcohol later in life. And, potentially with sexually transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies at higher rates than "unpopular" kids. So there is that.

Unpopular kids are drinking, vaping and having sex too.

Damn right they are! I know this first hand. OP, where are you getting your information? You either need more reliable sources, or you need to MYOB, or both. Concentrate on your own family.

Ok so please respond to every anonymous question on an anonymous forum as myob. That’s really productive. Why even answer? Just myob back at ya!

Honest question: why do you care so much what other kids are or are not doing?

There is absolutely nothing you can say or do to offend me.

One question posted in an anonymous forum that took about 22 seconds to write and post. Barely curious about real responses. I've probably started 8 other threads in multiple forums. This one is probably the least interesting. Does that answer your question?

Not at all.

Ok, let me ask you a question: Do you have kids?

I do.

I would rather not engage with your ridiculousness any further, so don't be offended if I don't further answer your interrogation and false assumptions. People are different, and that is okay. Maybe you should b more accepting of your own child.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of my high school’s popular kids peaked in high school, so yes the parents feel it now.

+1 Ha!

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Anonymous wrote:The ways I have had to "suffer" are not truly suffering. All four of my kids have cried at bedtime from the pressure of multiple kids wanting to sit with them at lunch or pair up with them for a class project, or sit with them on a field trip, or having to pick between two different birthday parties to attend. Things like that. Great problems to have, right? I probably spend more money on feeding other people's children than a parent of a loner child does. My kids have complained of other kids always wanting to copy their clothes, shoes, etc. Sure, they know "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" but sometimes they want to look like an individual.

I have had parents verbally attack me in public for not making my kids invite theirs to parties. Sometimes I don't even know who their kid is, and will quietly say, "I've never heard [DD] mention that name, I'm sorry," and they'll get loud, trying to shame me into offering an invite to a sleepover on the spot. So that's how I "suffer". But again, I can take it, and I'd much rather deal with things like that than have my kids floundering around every weekend without any plans.

Not everyone goes out and does something every weekend. You seem like you are imposing your fears of 'missing out' on your child.

My teens are home all the time. I consider that a good thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of my high school’s popular kids peaked in high school, so yes the parents feel it now.

+1 Ha!

So ridiculous.

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There’s a difference between being popular and being well liked. We encourage our Kids to go for the latter.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, your perceptions are weird. “Inner circle”? Sycophants? I’m sure there are popular kids in my kid’s class, but I would never notice that level of dynamics, or think to describe it that way.

You seem unnaturally triggered.

I’m not and I don’t even know if my kid is popular. It’s a word choice that’s more revealing about OP than the people she’s describing.

You are so full of crap. Everyone has at least a vague idea if their kid is "popular" - as much as I loathe that term. Its obvious in how many birthday parties, playdates, sleepovers they get invited to, or dont get invited to. There is no way you "have no idea" so quit blowing smoke. Doesn't mean you have to care, you probably dont, but you do know generally.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, your perceptions are weird. “Inner circle”? Sycophants? I’m sure there are popular kids in my kid’s class, but I would never notice that level of dynamics, or think to describe it that way.

You seem unnaturally triggered.

I’m not and I don’t even know if my kid is popular. It’s a word choice that’s more revealing about OP than the people she’s describing.

You are so full of crap. Everyone has at least a vague idea if their kid is "popular" - as much as I loathe that term. Its obvious in how many birthday parties, playdates, sleepovers they get invited to, or dont get invited to. There is no way you "have no idea" so quit blowing smoke. Doesn't mean you have to care, you probably dont, but you do know generally.

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In high school??????

DP here.

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Anonymous wrote:The ways I have had to "suffer" are not truly suffering. All four of my kids have cried at bedtime from the pressure of multiple kids wanting to sit with them at lunch or pair up with them for a class project, or sit with them on a field trip, or having to pick between two different birthday parties to attend. Things like that. Great problems to have, right? I probably spend more money on feeding other people's children than a parent of a loner child does. My kids have complained of other kids always wanting to copy their clothes, shoes, etc. Sure, they know "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" but sometimes they want to look like an individual.

I have had parents verbally attack me in public for not making my kids invite theirs to parties. Sometimes I don't even know who their kid is, and will quietly say, "I've never heard [DD] mention that name, I'm sorry," and they'll get loud, trying to shame me into offering an invite to a sleepover on the spot. So that's how I "suffer". But again, I can take it, and I'd much rather deal with things like that than have my kids floundering around every weekend without any plans.

As if. It’s clear that you’ve never even met a popular kid.

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I have one kid who is as easy as anything., Lots of friends, does well in school, healthy and happy, never gets into trouble, is athletic, is outgoing and just generally - life comes really easy. There is really no suffering or worrying involved in being her parent.

Now the other two make up for it but if the above child was an only child or if I had more like her, it would be a pretty easy ride.

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Schools can be different on this too. I was in the popular but not super fast group which was a different group but we hung together. My group got really good grades, kids were nice and generally pretty attractive and had something they were good at whether it was gymnastics or an amazing voice or tennis- didn’t really matter. Parents were high achieving, serious, involved parents for the most part. This group was well liked and would go to parties and such but not get out of hand and no one did drugs. Sex was usually not until junior year and there were many long term couples versus random hook ups. These kids did not peak in high school. I’d say 90% of them are doing quite well and have had good lives. Always the random tragedy, or addiction but overall they were pretty charmed, hard working group in high school and they still are.

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Brother was king of the school and I was super popular. Why do you think that equals zero issues? Brother was super rebellious and often had girlfriend drama. He stole a car, even. I had friend and relationship drama, like any kid, while also doing terribly in school because I couldn’t be bothered.

Popularity doesn’t erase typical kid issues.

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Anonymous wrote:The ways I have had to "suffer" are not truly suffering. All four of my kids have cried at bedtime from the pressure of multiple kids wanting to sit with them at lunch or pair up with them for a class project, or sit with them on a field trip, or having to pick between two different birthday parties to attend. Things like that. Great problems to have, right? I probably spend more money on feeding other people's children than a parent of a loner child does. My kids have complained of other kids always wanting to copy their clothes, shoes, etc. Sure, they know "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" but sometimes they want to look like an individual.

I have had parents verbally attack me in public for not making my kids invite theirs to parties. Sometimes I don't even know who their kid is, and will quietly say, "I've never heard [DD] mention that name, I'm sorry," and they'll get loud, trying to shame me into offering an invite to a sleepover on the spot. So that's how I "suffer". But again, I can take it, and I'd much rather deal with things like that than have my kids floundering around every weekend without any plans.